Anyone moved in together after a very short time

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Been talking online 6 months. Live 2 hours away. Met up for whole weekend , it was bliss.
He's mentioned me moving in with him (I'm going through divorce so will be leaving the family home soon anyway) I could move away (older kids who don't live with me and I work from home).

Heart says life's too short so go for it, head says whoa really too soon.

Anyone else just knew and took the chance?

We did. After 2 weeks, but due to a crazy situation where his house was left bare by his ex. 2 years later still incredibly happy and haven't looked back. Best thing we did. Hope I am saying the same in 20 years!

Yes, and I regret doing it. It accelerated the relationship in an unhealthy way and I ended up being trapped.

Have you only met him for one weekend?

If so you’re utterly mad to even consider this.

Are you smoking crack?

You've met him once! He could be anyone!
God this is terrifying.

Also, you are going through a divorce so maybe some alone time before jumping straight into another serious relationship would be wise.

Make sure you know the signs of how to spot a narcissist. Including 'love bombing' and future faking. Which both sound like they may be very relevant here.

Sorry but, you sound very naive. You need to give your head a wobble.

We met and moved in after 9 months, id been made redundant and sold my house, i moved 60 miles to be with him...however we met nearly every weekend during those 9 months and I was in my early 20s where i had no fear of anything....17 years later we sre still together.

I would be more cautious today and certainly wouldn't do it after spending one weekend together

You have no idea what he's really like. I think this is utter madness.

Jumping from one relationship/ living arrangement to another is just crazy. Talking to someone is very different to living with them, are you seriously basing your future on your experience of a couple of hours.

Calm down and don’t run before you learn to walk. Sure some people make it work but I suspect the majority don’t.

Just no fucking way. Don't do it.

Having a new live-in partner can affect the financials in divorce so I would certainly check that out first.

Apart from that it sounds madness. Why don’t you just get to know him first?

Don’t be stupid OP. You’ve met him once. You don’t know him at all.

You’d be absolutely mad to move in with him.

The fact that he’d even mention it after so short a time isn’t romantic- it’s a massive red flag. I’d be running for the hills.

We moved in after 6 weeks. However we were 22 year old students. After a weekend, while going tbrough a divorce ? I think that's crazy.

Oh dear.

We did after about three weeks. He was a contractor but didn't live in London. He stayed at his mates place on the other side of town before he met me so we just sort of fell into it. Still v.happy 4 years on but appreciate it's not the norm!

We moved in together after 3 months (have been together now for 10 years, married for 7), but we saw each other almost every day for those 3 months. Plus neither of us relocated so if it didn’t work out it was easy to extrapolate ourselves from.
Met for one weekend and relocating 2 hours away? Insanity.

Too soon. I moved in with an ex after maybe 3 months but we had a lot of irl contact anyway. Still bad idea. True colours gradually came out. Big regret.

Talking online means NOTHING
you've spent one lovely weekend together. If either of you are seriously entertaining the idea of moving in together you're fucking crazy.

6 months but we knew each other pretty well by then (IRL not online!)

One weekend together isn't enough!!

Yeah. Big surprise, he was abusive. 🤷‍♀️

Met 5 years ago in March (he's my best friends cousin), got together in April, moved in with him in the August. We're engaged and have a 2&1/2 year old and have another baby due in April. Never been happier ☺️

No and I wouldn't after only meeting him once. What's the rush?

My brother is about to move in with someone he only met a few weeks ago - I'm pretty shocked he's being that stupid to be honest.
They both have awkward living situations that they need to get out of ASAP but surely living separately would be a better answer!

They seem to have spent a huge amount of time together in those few weeks whereas you have only met once. I think you'd be daft to even think about moving in - it takes people a long time to drop the act in most situations. They're on their best behaviour and only share what they know you will like and agree with.

Came on to say yes, after 3 months of being inseparable, DSis did the same, both still happy, etc... but you've met this guy once!!! That's not quick, that's insane!

Yes. We moved in together after 2 months. Got engaged and be ought a house together after 6 ... happily married and have 2 beautiful children together. We're lucky it worked for us

What you’ve described is a red flag to me; you don’t know him at all at the moment. DH and I moved in together after 6 months but I’d known him as a friend for years. If you move in with him away from everyone you’ll be incredibly vulnerable if he isn’t who you think he is. I have no idea why you’d want to do it. You’re going through a divorce; live by yourself for a bit, enjoy it and keep seeing him on weekends and see how it goes.

In fairness, he's only mentioned it, he might be quite shocked 😲 if you turn up on his doorstep.

Sort out your divorce and financials.

If you make this leap, make sure you have money to move back/have somewhere to go, if it turns into a shitshow. Don't put your financial security at risk. Put your heart out there if you want, but make sure you have a safety net.

Your adult children might be pissed.