Anyone moved in together after a very short time

[caranxy]

Been talking online 6 months. Live 2 hours away. Met up for whole weekend , it was bliss.
He's mentioned me moving in with him (I'm going through divorce so will be leaving the family home soon anyway) I could move away (older kids who don't live with me and I work from home).

Heart says life's too short so go for it, head says whoa really too soon.

Anyone else just knew and took the chance?

We moved in together after two months and we have been together for 3 years now. The day we met it was like nothing I have ever felt before. We were both shocked and pleased though! I guess we just knew we we meant to be together. In those two months each time we had to go home and leave each other it was just becoming too hard. We were both getting upset so we thought we would would move in. We were 41, knew our own minds!

We moved in together after 2 months dating. Still together 10 years later.

As the OP doesn't have a house or much else and the bloke has a house and a good job, maybe he should be the one being warned off...

Nanny0gg yep that was my point on 28th.

Mind you fil led his holiday romance to believe that he owned the house in France he was staying in when he met her (belonged to a relative) as well as a large detached house (he did but it was rural and needed a new roof, new boiler, new wiring...) He presented himself as very well healed indeed for 2 years, as did she. It all came tumbling down when they tried to move in together - she'd said she owned her flat but insisted it was too small to live in together (3 bed, all children 30+) and that he needed to buy a very specific type of flat in her city - the best area, very spacious, ground floor, garage, garden, and put her on the deeds). Looked dubious to our side that she actually owned her flat - if so why couldn't she contribute at all? He couldn't actually afford what she wanted in her city at all...

We did - talking online for 9 months, I flew to see him, he met me at the airport and we spent a week in a hotel room without ever leaving. I flew back home, he packed up his car and drove to my place, we moved in together. We've been inseparable since then - together 17 years, married 12 years , couldn't be happier.

People told us we were crazy - we were both going through divorces at the time . But we knew that we were right and it turned out just wonderfully. I'd say, follow your heart op.

I'd be interested to know how it's working out OP. I knew DH to say hi to and we had friends in common when he first asked me on a date. We were engaged after three months and married six months later. We've been married 25 years. Neither of us had been married before or had children. Looking back yes I would do it again but would definitely take it much more slowly.

Similar situation to OP. DLR for 6 months then moved in together . We have now been together for 31 years.

• LDR not DLR

I think you’re depressed and looking for a way to feel better. Possibly still grieving for your marriage and not wanting to be alone. You mentioned moving in with your mum if it didn’t work out but you’re 49 years old. You sound quite vulnerable OP.

@caranxy any update?

Not to be cynical or mean, but I wonder if she is still alive

Yep! Met in December, probably moved in properly apart from the nights he had his DD two months later. Never had a problem with housework or space or anything like that he is a joy and he has made me house a home.

Been together 18 months so far, now merged family, couldn’t be happier.

I think it either works or it doesn’t!

We did, after less than a month of dating. That was almost 10 years ago. He's my husband now and we have 2 children. Still happy together

Nothing to lose? So you won't have a divorce settlement?

You wouldn't lose your independence before it's even started?

You wouldn't lose the opportunity to start fresh on your own terms, your own place, making your own decisions?

That's before counting the possibility of you losing your life if he turns out to be violent.

You'd be insane to do this. Life's short. Moving into a stranger's home could make it all the shorter.

(Post added in case any other woman is daft enough to consider this).

Moved in with my partner after 3 months, still together 17 years later

I think if you're even asking the question on here, you have your answer. Wait until you are sure.

Went on 1 date.. DP never left. 11 years later with 2 DC