52yr old ExH having baby with GF

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So this is the latest in a long line of ex husband posts from me where he just seems to be doing his utmost to destroy his relationship with our 16 year old daughter. We've been divorced for coming up for 9 years and I am happily remarried. Daughter rang me in tears last night with the news of the pregnancy. There have been comments already about the baby sharing her room if they don't manage to move house in time, and her helping to look after the baby if they need a break. I don't care what he does with his life but seriously, she is doing her A-levels the year after next and having a baby in the house (and being expected to contribute to its care) is not what she needs. I feel like this hasn't been fully thought through. I don't know what I want people to say but I feel like just telling her not to bother going to her dad's any more. She said she was going low contact but I think he bullies her into going and she then feels obligated. I'm sure she's going to be excited about having a younger sibling (she's an only child, except for step-siblings) but it just all feels a bit weird and surreal to me.

Yabvu about the age comment, if a parent is loving and attentive only having them in your life for 10 years is a better than a lifetime of cunty parents who don’t give a shit about you.

Well yes, but these aren’t the only options.

Shag - I agree but on mumsnet they comparisons are always

a one parent family, or two parents who hate each other
No dad, or a dad who is cruel and abusive
An older parent who is healthy and lives to ninety or a young parent who hates children and dies young.

It makes me crazy. A 52 year old will, on average, be around for much less of their child’s life than a 32 year old. It’s just common sense. But on mumsnet the 52 will live forever and the 32 will be hit by a bus before his fortieth😂

My parents are in their early sixties and would be exhausted if they had to look after a child full time.

A 52 year old will, on average, be around for much less of their child’s life than a 32 year old.

Yes, but nobody tells people with jobs that have a higher mortality rate that they are ridiculous and selfish.
Women with conditions that are likely to limit their life span have children and God forbid anyone says they are ridiculous or selfish. They aren't. And neither are 52 year old parents.