Yes very brave @CheeseSandwitch it is very good to get the perspective of someone who has been through it. I hope you continue to get stronger and happier for it.
And those questioning the OP. Honestly does it matter? We will never truly know, having no ‘proof’, so why not take someone on their word and give them support? Imagine even not being able to turn to MN about this, imagine if someone through out their only lifeline here and then got told they were making it up? Real life people out there and I’d gladly give support without questioning.
OP so the process has started. You’ve left. It’s gone to court. It’s ‘out there’ in daylight now.
That is a HUGE shift from when you first posted.
I wonder if now is the time, like others have said, to settle in and take some serious time for you, and your boy. It might be the time that emotions and feelings may hit you out of nowhere. This ‘quieter’ time might be more difficult as there are fewer adrenaline filled events.
I guess as well as your sister, your DV support person if you have one... you might be thinking towards a home and where you want to be. A home that you can started nesting and is your safe retreat. It might take a while and you may be offered temporary accommodation I don’t know, but thinking of it. Imagining it. Finding your secure place.
Good luck 