Is this inappropriate?

[justtheonenamechange]

I've name changed for this as I didn't want it linked to my previous posts.

I've found the following text messages, which were written across several days during an activity week. The child is a girl in her mid-teens and the adult is a male in his 40s. The child attended the full week but the adult only attended the first few days. This is an exact transcript of the conversation, but with any identifying details taken out. Is the adult just being supportive/encouraging, or is this bordering on inappropriate? I would welcome any opinions please. Sorry it's quite long, but I didn't want to deliberately leave any of it out.

Adult:
If you look at the [place] I can see it from the [place]! Hope you enjoy the week. I knew you would love it, but I know you will miss me!!

Child:
I miss you already 😂. I hope I enjoy it, the jury is still out right now. Have a safe journey though 😊

Adult:
You will be asleep by now but possibly chatting away or shouting? Have a blast I miss [accommodation name] already 😉. Have fun, not too much I want you all to miss me!

Child:
[Accommodation name] is the best 😂. We‘ll have fun, but obviously we’ll miss you 😊.

Adult:
I know, my favourite [group] I guess!

Child:
I guess so 😂. You missed a great public soaking.

Adult:
Did you get footage?!
How was your theme night?
Had a very lonely boring day, just wondering how much fun I could have had 😞 with you.

Child:
Hiya, no. No footage, too busy hitting [name]. The theme night was good but very hot. You missed [name] dressed as a monk. I don’t think you’d have enjoyed [place] as it was hot. You are definitely missed 😕.

Adult:
Tomorrow looks lovely and hot. Another day where I watch my watch wondering what I’m missing. Enjoy the time it is the best time in my opinion. I miss you all.

Child:
Aww bless. I am trying to enjoy it, today was fun. We had the slip and slide out. We definitely miss you too.

Adult:
Did you get my wet willy in!
If not plenty of time left. Did I leave any credit in the canteen? If you don’t use it tell [name] to add it to the [charity name] fund. You should be asleep by now but I guess you are chatting away and about to get told to be quiet. I would not I would stand and listen!!

Child:
Yeah I did, haven’t had chance to use your credit, but I think we’ll use it on Friday. I thought you’d appreciate a little rule breaking 😂

Adult:
[Activity] rules like any are made to be broken and I can tell you most of them I have. I appreciate that and accept any punishment! Have a great time and I will be waiting when you come home as I need a set of keys and it’s a good excuse to see you.

Child:
Ok. Well I probably should go as it’s [name] out tonight 😬. See you when we get back. Try not to miss us too much!

Adult:
That would be a challenge for me in the old days. Goodnight 😉

Adult:
How’s it going? How’s the weather?

Child:
The weather is boiling. The [activity] thing was 💩

Adult:
Should have jumped in. Or chucked [name] in?
Looks a bit cooler tomorrow. Enjoy the last few days...

Child:
I’d rather chuck him in.
Not long left now.
We went on a late night [activity] tonight.

Adult:
Enjoy your last night, don’t eat too much chocolate! Had a nice week? Say the first few days were the best!!

Child:
It was alright. I survived. There’s been loads of sick people today 😬. It’ll be a good night.

Adult:
Going back? If all goes to plan you may have to put up with me all week 😁. Who is ill?

Child:
I might come back.
[name] and [name].

Adult:
I will if you will.....
[name] is gay, but [name].....
Have a great last day, I love it there. I will see you tomorrow afternoon.

Child:
Fine I’ll go.
We’ll have a good time!
See you tomorrow.

Adult:
Yeh. You will not regret it. Only the backlash of a prank or plenty more. Don’t eat too much crap, you will feel sick, unless it’s all gone already. Until next year!!!

Child:
I won’t eat too much. Don’t worry 😂.
I think I can handle the backlash of a prank

Adult:
Sounds like it has been smashed already? Your with the right man then! Goodnight [accommodation name] 😘

Child:
We haven’t eaten anything yet. See you tomorrow. Good night ☺️

Grooming.

Well done OP, you’ve done the right thing.

Did you report to the organisation or the police? Or both?!

Very brave of you op.

You're very brave. Do you have someone you can talk to about this, I'm sure you'll need some real-life support.

You've done a very courageous thing OP please seek some real life support

Well done op. I am not saying that flippantly. You have done a very brave and selfless thing.

Well done, you are incredibly strong. You have done the right thing

Well done op. There is no way those messages were innocent on his part.

As the mum of an almost 14 year old daughter - thank you for doing the right thing and preventing him doing this to someone else.

OP I've just been reading your replies. Have you now left your husband? Or just reported it to Head Office/Police.

It's a horrendous situation to be in but this may is vile.

@justtheonenamechange you have done a very very brave thing. You have turned your world upside down to protect others.
I hope the future is very kind to you x

Well done OP. Hope you have real life support to help you through this? The police will want to get moving on this and you’ll need support through the process.

Well done. To echo everyone else, you are so brave. I wish you all the best and am so happy to know that there are people out there like you who are willing to do the right thing no matter how hard. Amazing. I hope you have RL support.

You are awesome OP - thank you for doing this. I can't imagine how difficult it is for you.

Good luck

Thank you for reporting this, as the mother of a little girl I'm very grateful to you. I hope you are okay and have support. 💐💕

Long time lurker but I felt I had to say well done, op. I know everyone is saying that and they're just words on a forum but what you have done is so incredibly brave. I really wish you the best and I hope you can move on from this with peace of mind that you did the right thing.

Well done OP, you have done the right thing in reporting him.

I hope you are OK, have you got someone you can talk to about this? You may be in some kind of shock at the moment.

If not, you could maybe go to your GP and ask for some counselling, or you may have a self referral service in your area? Something like IAPT?

. You are wonderful to have done this.

So sorry you had to do it though.

I genuinely think you’re amazing, OP. Well done. 💐

Well done OP. We're all here if you need us

Well done OP. Did you report to the police or head office?

I posted earlier when I thought the girl was your daughter. I'm so very sorry you've had to deal with this coming on top of the loss of your baby.
A pp said it very eloquently. You have indeed turned your world upside down to protect another. The world needs more people like you, kind, brave and selfless people. I mean this from the bottom of my heart.
I hope you have someone you can speak to irl although I can imagine how hard that would be initially.
I thought that if you weren't able to talk to someone you could give the Samaritans a call. They will listen.
Please keep posting here too if you feel like it. I hope you know you have an army of women behind you and at your side. We've got you.

Samaritans 116 123

Well done OP. Wishing you all the best for whatever happens next. You should be proud of yourself.

Please tell me you've left him?

💐

Hope you're okay. X