He won't accept we're separated

[cece]

We split nearly three months ago after I found out about an inappropriate relationship with another woman. It's not the first time and I said if it happened again we'd split. So we have.

However, he's still messaging me daily to ask me to talk about saving our marriage. I've told him repeatedly I don't want to talk about this as it's over. I feel trapped. He's just not listening to me.

OMG I'm lying in my bedroom and I can hear his crying. 😱

Pft, put some loud music on. Make it clear you aren't interested in listening to him.

And barricade your door before you sleep. Wouldn't put it past him to try and barge in with some extra drama.

get your headphones, shove them in your ears and switch off from him......

He's clearly a selfish prick, if you can hear him then surely the children can, this will be affecting them emotionally also

Clearly doing it for the effect. Genuinely sad people don't deliberately leave the bedroom door open and wail like that!

I'd open the door and go 'Shut up! I know you're faking, the kids know you're faking, even the neighbours know you're faking so give us all some peace you manipulative tit'.

Go and close the door. He does need to accept this is the end and an amicable split is best.

Bloody hell poor you OP.

Shut the door and he'll either cry himself out or most likely stop when he realises nobody is falling for it.

Stay strong

This sounds so difficult
Take some steps to see a solicitor today if you can.

Goes out with mates on nights he knows you have plans.
I bet he expects you to sort child care as well.
Selfish man

What an utter tit he is.

Did you go and shut the door? Or just ignore?

He'll be raging that you didn't fold at the sound of sad man tears.

Can you not just leave?

Nowhere to go as got 3 kids, one with SEN.

@cece

Im not sure if you know, just because you block somebody on your iphone they can still contact you through messaging apps, you have to actually block him through the whats app app its in privacy section x

Do you trust him with the kids?
Suppose you could move out and let him be the primary care giver. Guess that's harder for women to do though, we'd miss them too much.

Its probably smart not to give up residence. Get yourself some advice from.a solicitor if you haven't already.

I'd be making a point of going out as much as possible. Take a weekend trip or two ect... Basically try live your life as separate from him as possible. And get a lock for your bedroom door.

Are you finding his behaviour distressing still? Or have you yet moved on to anger / amusement / eye roll?

He wouldn't be crying if you were out though, would he.

He's doing it for show. Ignore him.

Totally for show.

get those divorce papers served ASAP

Stand outside his open bedroom door, and phone a solicitor to make an appointment to initiate divorce proceedings.

I'm definitely at the eye roll/ annoyed stage.

I'm not sure he can be trusted with the SEN child as he quite often can't cope with some of his behaviours. I'd not leave my dc with them.

I'd be bellowing out, Oh For God's Sake, put a fucking sock in it, you're pathetic. And shut the bloody door if you must continue your sooky little pity fest. You're an embarrassment.'

The "not coping" may have always been a get out clause so you never expected him to do his share of parenting. Far easier to let you be default parent!

Put your music on loud enough not to hear him and just ignore. What a pathetic prick.

Ignore those crocodile tears. Put on MTV and headphones.
I remember reading once, would a star put on a full show without an audience? No.
A show needs an audience.
Refuse to be the audience to the show.