Worst day ever. How to get over this!

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After a 2 year long relationship, my boyfriend has ended things via text.

He was previously a married man with children and has decided being with me would affect the relationship he has with his teenage kids, and they would never forgive him for being with the woman who he had left their mother for. So I do understand his reasoning.

Long story short , I am utterly devastated and feel as if I will never get over this man. I have been crying and vomiting for the last 3 days, and have had to take time off work.

I have had break ups in the past but this is just something else. I need to get over this and feel normal again, any advice/tips are so warmly welcome x

I guess he's met the next one?

He made the right call for his kids if that was any part of his reasoning.

Imagine how his wife felt. I hope you learn from this and go on to a better future.

I am utterly devastated and feel as if I will never get over this man

Imagine how his wife felt.

I take it he’s moved on to his next conquest?

Well, we are all different so not sure what the point is there. Similarly, we all get on with people to different degrees, as such, some people will be more special. Many people leave partners and have long, fulfilling relationships. It's naive to assume all end in tears

And no, I'm not OW nor have been

I have no idea what relevance this has. This thread is not about the shiny, happy affairs that leave everyone happy with the outcome. They are few and far between.

Why has this relationship left you more broken than others?

Sorry let me clarify, he ended his marriage before we started a relationship

I went back a reread your OP and you clearly said something completely different. You definitely wrote that you were the woman he left his wife for.

being with me would affect the relationship he has with his teenage kids, and they would never forgive him for being with the woman who he had left their mother for. So I do understand his reasoning

He's a prince amongst men.

It was cruel but you were the OW so you not be shocked that it's highly likely that he's moved on to the next OW. Once a cheater always a cheater.

I expect he's moved on to the next model.

I have no idea what relevance this has. This thread is not about the shiny, happy affairs that leave everyone happy with the outcome. They are few and far between.

The reply was in reference to a comment that suggested what happened here is always what happens. It's utter nonsense as many second marriages go the distance

Sorry let me clarify, he ended his marriage before we started a relationship.

So he just saw you. Ended his marriage and started a relationship with you? Ok. Of course there was totally nothing before that.

Oh dear.

Weird isn’t it? The worst day of my life was when my husband walked out on me and our 2 year old for his bit on the side. I’m sure you’ll recover 🙄

My parents marriage started out as an affair, and they were married happily for 30 odd years.

So to say all marriages like this are doomed to failure is wishful thinking on the part of ex wives

Some bitter ex-wives on here - no one else is allowed to be hurt......

Just keep going, OP, it will get better 🤗

James Goldsmiths once said that when you marry your mistress you create a job vacancy!

I love it when people quote the exception to comfort someone who has shitty morals and whose story is clearly the rule.

Yes of course some affairs become happy marriages where no one is hurt, everyone thinks it was for the best and it's not just the kids of the two cheaters who defend it. Some people win the lottery too.

You’ve not got kids with him. You’ve not been utterly betrayed. You’ve not had your marriage crumble.

Honestly the best way you can get over this is to get over yourself. And if have some perspective on the pain you are going through, and the pain his kids and ex wife are still going through, you might recover quicker and make a better choice next time.

OMG, it’s like Net Huns Ducking Stool Day on here.

Go post your bile on a thread where the OP hasn’t made clear she is distressed. So tacky. So bitter.

OP, you will be fine. You will. You will. Just take some time. It will be better.

When I was young and foolish I had a relationship with a man who was living with another woman. I didn't know he wasn't single when I met him, but I continued to meet up with him after I knew his partner existed. He broke it off after about a year and I was devastated. Similar to you, I couldn't function for a few days. I suspect the intensity of the reaction has something to do with the secrecy of the relationship - it makes everything feel more dramatic and intense. However, that feeling soon passes and life goes on, and like I did, in a little while you will realize that you have had a very lucky escape and be thankful that you didn't end up with him in life. You can do better than this guy.

No advice.. Just (((((Madd Hugs)))) 😢🖖🌻🌺🌻🌸

God the sanctimonious brigade are out in force today.

Better he's done this now though OP. I suspect his 'reason' is an excuse though. Hasn't seemed to hae bothered him in the last 2 years.

Oh well sweetie this is probably how his wife felt no doubt when he left her for you. Maybe he’s found your replacement. Oh well, Karma don’t you just love it 🤭😉

Word of advice for next time, find someone single without baggage.

Karma's a bitch! You knew he was a bad person when he dumped his wife and kids for you, now he's dumped you, what did you expect

Sorry let me clarify, he ended his marriage before we started a relationship.

they would never forgive him for being with the woman who he had left their mother for.

Backtracking here aren't you? I guess the truth hurts. You shag a married man, you get Karma.

So he cheated on the mother of his kids with you and is now using those same kids as the excuse to break up with you? What a prince. Hopefully in time you will realize how lucky you are he broke up with you.