When he phones you, after a long period of keeping you waiting, heis inviting you to play a game with him.
When you don't pick up, you are refusing to play a game.
When you pick up, you are getting into the game.
I've noticed in many of your posts, you have a weird belief that if you have an emotion, that if you don't instantly act that emotion out in real life without thinking about it, that you're somehow "playing a game". As if it is dishonest not to do the first thing that comes into your head.
If that's what you believe, I want you to understand that you are very easy pickings for an abuser.
Children act on their feelings. Often their feelings lead them into all sorts of manipulative games. "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
Part of growing up is learning that your initial emotional responses are not gospel. They are automatic responses, they are the least articulate and often the cruelest, stupidest, most manipulative parts of us. They are the parts of us that developed before we learned to think.
People who have properly grown up have learned that feelings are just the first stage. You acknowledge them when they occur, and then carefully consider what response is the right one. You don't just go OH MY GOD I LIKE HIM I HAVE TO ANSWER HIS CALLS NOW FOREVER AND EVER!!!! that's what a teenager does, at best. You think about it and make a conscious choice in line with how you want your life to look.
I put it to you that your mother wanted you to be at the service of your guilt and shame at all times. She wanted you to be constantly reactive to her guilt trips, temper, etc. etc. So she taught you from childhood that it was "manipulative" to take time to think your emotional responses through, and make a choice that was good for you.
You now see that playing out in your attempted romances.
You need to wake up, I mean that in the nicest possible way. You sound like a child who is constantly outplayed by the grownups around her. Other adults are thinking before they act. You are not. That doesn't put you in a good position.