Break up support thread 4

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Sigh.!

Not feeling great today... uve not heard from him in the am and he is probably on a plane now. First time i dont hear from him... i dont think today is gonna be good. Cant imagine he'll have anything good to say...

@PuffinSock oh god imagine! It's bad enough stalking, I really don't want to get back into that habit but it did make me smile that he was bored enough on a friday night to be on facebook for an hour
Also have a photo waiting to post on instagram, waiting for the right moment!

Morning everyone! How are we all feeling? I’m still thinking about him a lot (trying to distract myself whenever I do, with limited success) but I don’t currently have that oppressive sadness all the time. Didn’t cry once yesterday!

Feel a bit odd today - feel like in a way I’m sort of accepting it and making peace with it, but then it’s also like I don’t want to do that because that means it’s really over. Even tho it’s already over and I know that, it’s like I’m starting to believe it but I also don’t want to believe it! Just going to try and relax and let things take their course, I think possibly it’s starting to move in the right direction now. Weird feeling.

Evening ladies, feel like I need a lot of support today, been confirmed he’s def moved on and already living with his new woman!! It’s been 7/8 weeks!! What the hell?! Just can’t stop crying now. I just hope ur doesn’t last and it comes crashing down on them!! God this is horrid!
At work today everyone was talking about Xmas and tbh I’m totally dreading it on my own now!
Hope everyone’s doing better than me today! Xx

Ladies I feel like giving up again!! Iv been reading about trauma bond and I think that’s what’s happening, but why am I getting worse not better? Xx

Oh dear I’m sorry you’re having a bad day! I don’t know about trauma bond but I think with any sort of emotional healing, sometimes things do get worse before they get better - I went downhill last week but I seem to be going back up again now altho I have a way to go yet.

I’m hoping I’m feeling a lot better by Christmas! But I know I’ll be sad because last year was so amazing having someone to share Christmas with (I mean I have my family but you know what I mean) and then this year it’ll be back to before.

I got the all clear!! Just to let you all know. I'll catch up properly soon - hope you're okay xx

Oh fantastic, that’s great news, I’ve been thinking of you. Hopefully now things are looking up!

Aaaaaah I let my brain do a wander and now I’m sad!! Ffs.

And yes I mean wander not wonder. Wandering down memory lane.

Oh god I've set myself off into a stalking loop again, argh!! Now my head is going to every scenario! Need to stop. Maybe I'll let myself have today then tomorrow I stop again for good, ha ha.
Urgh why is this so hard :( why do I miss him so much still :(

In other news I'm going out out on friday for the first time in probably years so will have some new instagram content 😅

Oh it’s so frustrating isn’t it! And you were doing so well, I’ve still been stalking a little. Get back on it! I hate how much I still miss mine especially as I know he won’t be thinking of me, especially now he’s got the move coming up. Makes me so sad to think of him picking out sofas and shit without me.

Good about Friday! I haven’t been out in a while and last time I did I didn’t manage to get a decent selfie, altho pretty sure I’m muted anyway.

Ok you know on FB when it can tell someone is asking for recommendations, and then underneath it’s like “Sue, Paul and 113 other friends have asked for recommendations, you can too”, well A used to be the first name, then he slipped to second, and now he’s not mentioned at all. I guess because we never interact on FB anymore, must be part of the algorithm. Just another sad way I can see how we are getting further and further apart 😢 but I feel like it’s too little a thing to mention to anyone IRL but feel like you guys would get it.

Hi, hope everyone is doing better today then they were yesterday. I arrived home on Sunday, I’d let my husband stay in our house while I was away. He mowed the lawn, washed and ironed our clothes and ordered a pizza for us to share when I got in. Long story short, we have an appointment with Relate next week. Also he’s been distancing himself from the OW and will tell this Saturday about our counselling sessions. I’m still reeling, still bursting into tears thinking about him. I cooked him a meal last night and we just enjoyed our company.. fingers crossed this works

I really good the Relate helps, whether you end up staying together or splitting up for good, hopefully it’ll help put all your feelings in perspective

God I’m hoping we get back together- I love the bones of him

Fingers crossed then 🤞🏻

Gone a bit quiet! Hopefully because everyone’s feeling amazing...

I’m a bit meh, not feeling especially down (especially compared to last week!) but not feeling particularly great either. He’s still on my mind pretty much constantly. 2 weeks tomorrow till he leaves town and I think I’ll be half expecting him to turn up at my door until then, even tho I know he won’t. He will be thinking of his new job and his house, doubt he’ll be giving me a second thought.

I can honestly say in terms of break up, I am feeling 100% fine. I'm actually so happy right now. It was meant to be our anniversary tomorrow and I hadn't even thought of it until my friend asked if I'm okay! I'm so glad I had the sudden epiphany sorry for going quiet! Hope everyone is okay & you all feel this way soon. It's so much better & it will happen, I promise xxx

I’m so glad you’re feeling better! I hope I follow suit soon! I can def tell I’m getting there, i know i will be ok in the end, just got to wait it out! But I’m really pleased you’re there now and also that things are going better for you in other respects as well!

So many exclamation marks!

It's almost been 5 months, think I have to accept it's not a rebound and he must be so much happier now :( still think about him a lot and miss him but he's made his choice.

@ryah76 thats such good news! Hope relate goes well, and you get on the right path!
Since the ultimatum mine seems to be trying really hard to be nicer and do more around. He is still avoiding any serious talk and sort of trying to get on. Things are better definitely but still rather unsure. Im not sure how im feeling but at least im not bursting into sudden bursts of tears.
@tinselandknickers good to hear! And hope you stay happy!!
Hope everyone else is doing better than they did last week!