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Break up support thread 4

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herbsmokedchicken · 04/11/2019 08:51

Sigh.!

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Mumcomehere · 10/02/2020 12:28

Herb, dont worry about other people's opinions, these things take time. X

Dazedandconfused10 · 15/02/2020 09:21

I hope everyone managed ok yesterday!

Olive122 · 15/02/2020 10:27

Hi,
Yesterday was a positive day for me 😊 I wasn’t looking forward to it but managed to avoid most of the Valentines crap apart from some emails and posts on Instagram.

I’d had a bit of a setback Thursday evening when I saw my ex after he had collected the last of his things from the flat. He was in such a bloody cheerful mood like he’s really happy we’ve ended and the breakup isn’t affecting him in the slightest. He’d also left some junk and mountains of empty boxes that wouldn’t fit in the car, funny they’d been so important we’d had to have them cluttering up the flat for years Angry At least now there’s no need for us to have contact so I can focus on moving on and being happy by myself.

Anyway yesterday I went to Ikea with my parents to get some new bits and amongst plants and other bits I ended up getting a new sofa and footstool! They’ve just been delivered and I love them.

My dad put up some pictures for me and did some other odd jobs then the took all the cardboard to burn so it’s a lot clearer here now and I can get it looking nice, cosy but uncluttered.

I’ve got a rug being delivered this morning then I’m going to into town and have a looking primark and Homesense for some cushions that go with my new sofa.

It feels like it’s all coming together. I’m still deciding on some new bedding and accessories for the bedroom but I can do that in the next few weeks.

Hope everyone else had good day yesterday, and if not, at least it’s done now for another year Flowers

Dazedandconfused10 · 15/02/2020 11:01

My day was pretty good. I'm not too fussed about valentines day though. Didnt give ex a second thought.

I plan to spend next weekend sorting my house out and making it more me and less us. I'd like some artwork but no idea where you get that from!

herbsmokedchicken · 15/02/2020 16:49

I’m stepping back from the thread again, hence the quietness but @Dazedandconfused10 great to see you didn’t give him much thought and check out Etsy for artwork, some amazing stuff on there!

Ok peace out for now guys stay strong 💪🏻

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hellotesting123123 · 15/02/2020 21:26

Hi all,

Split up with boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. Feeling SUPER lonely. I find now I'm 35 all of my friends are coupled up and there is very little to do on the weekends. I feel like a right sadsack.

I don't want to date for a while as need to heal from last guy. But any tips on how to deal with this loneliness and sadness in the meantime? I'm not even missing him - I'm just missing company and the feeling of being with someone that I want to build something meaningful with.

TeddyBeans · 15/02/2020 23:30

@hellotesting123123 hello lovely, sorry you've found yourself here! My situation isn't quite the same as yours as I have a tiny human that provides good physical company but is lacking in the deep conversation department 😁

I found it hard to come to terms with the loneliness to begin with but it soon faded once I realised how peaceful and calm home life became. Focus on you and what you're doing to make your life more positive and not on what your friends are doing. Everyone is on a different timeline, in a few months things might be completely different for them too.

And most importantly please remember that it'll be okay in the end ❤️

Dazedandconfused10 · 29/02/2020 01:15

Hope everyone is doing well!

So ex wants to come visit the pets. My intention is to say yes and just not be home when he comes round. Its not me he wants to see. Maybe leave a list of things to take when he leaves.

herbsmokedchicken · 05/03/2020 18:26

Hey @Dazedandconfused10 did he come round?

I know I said I was peacing out but - I have a FWB now!!!!! Met him on tinder!! I’m still not over A and sleeping with someone else made me cry once I was alone (which I was fully expecting) but it’s also really helping I think. Not ready for a relationship but having that physical aspect with someone is helping me accept it’s over - think part of me was(is?) still waiting for him, but letting someone else touch me is helping me to accept he’s not coming back if that makes sense. Because now I’ve let someone else in (literally, lol). It’s weird tho! Never done this before! Will keep an eye on myself to make sure I don’t catch feelings but rn it’s purely about the physical. Never too late to start I guess!

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herbsmokedchicken · 20/03/2020 19:25

This thread is dead now but popping on anyway to say I hope everyone is keeping safe and well xxx

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herbsmokedchicken · 09/07/2020 16:35

@Jonsnowsghost I thought of you today and wanted to message you but you don’t seem to have that enabled! Hope you’re doing well these days!

herbsmokedchicken · 09/07/2020 16:37

Oh name change fail haha shhh it’s herb

Jonsnowsghost · 09/07/2020 17:10

Oh I have no idea about messages! Yeah I'm doing ok, not quite 100% there but definitely a lot better :) lockdown has been pretty tough with living on my own but I'm getting through it.

How about you?

herbsmokedchicken · 09/07/2020 18:30

Yeah I’m the same, not there yet but better. Can’t believe it’s nearly a year - he’s def more in my head still than I’d like but I’m working on it. Lockdown definitely hasn’t helped! Has stalled the profess I was making with getting out there. Plus whilst I don’t live alone I live with my dm and I love her but she’s a pain in the ass so would be lying if I never wistfully thought about how things could have been...but I’m getting there, glad to hear you’re also doing better

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