Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

Thanks

Could do with a list of codes and meanings.
Just worked OLD. On line dating!

I often find people's WhatsApp photos bad compared to the app ones. But then my own WhatsApp is of me on a significant birthday pulling a face with no make up on. I was happy. It doesn't compare well to the more groomed ones either!

Mr poetry popped up again this morning. Mr ilovemykids keeps sending me vids of his kids out and about. I'm sure they're lovely but I've got my own thanks. I'm feeling very low today. It's totally physiological but it's still exhausting and not conducive to looking at men and thinking oh yesssss

Welcome @MeowTseTung always good to have a male perspective. Well depending on the male. Unless you have a yacht?? (That's a joke for the very oldies) I think a few of us in here have experience of asd with kids, one of mine is certainly a little that way and I have a strong suspicion I may be that way myself as I am not very conventional in many ways and have had many social problems. But the best people are a little odd

@unambiguousbeard sending vids of kids to a stranger is inappropriate and shows a lack of boundaries so I'd bin him off just for that.

Hello all,
I have been in hiding for the latter end of last week & weekend, hideous week at work so hunkered down with duvet, hot baths & an unhealthy amount of chocolate
Mr Yorkshire finally got in touch with a polite ‘no thank you ‘ message- shame as I did like him.
I’m chatting to two potential irons- Mr Bald and Mr Strong; totally different to each other & not my usual type( this could be a good thing!).
It’s bloody hard work.

@Peanutbuttermouth yay to third date snog
And, I agree, sending videos of children is really inappropriate @unambiguousbeard; that would worry me.

I hadn't thought of it like that but yeah it is. Il tell him. If he messages again.

If my ex was doing that I'd be bloody livid! I made him take their pics off his WhatsApp when he was dating. Before he found a gf. Who's really nice. God knows why she's with him.,,

Welcome newcomers. I'm here reading but don't have anything new to add. Mr G remains lovely, we are coping with the distance aspect and both agree that we are enjoying our own space after leaving LTR earlier this year. It's a good arrangement overall, though messages don't always cut it. At least two more weeks until we see each other again.

@unambiguousbeard I fear my perspective won't be of the greatest use to people but I'll try to two pennorth when I can.

And... I'm sure I'll be old enough to should-know but that yacht thing's going to bug me all afternoon now

Oh sorry. There was a male poster on here a while back. I've been on here too long... he was basically trying to lure the Mumsnet ladeez in by telling us all about his yacht. 🙄

And I should add there are and have been other quite lovely, male posters just not that one.

@KhaleesiTargaryen he looks the age he says he is in profile pics, but not on the WhatsApp one which is from 2017, looks at least 5 years older than me in that one. Could just be a bad pic I guess but he's irritated me with the feeble phone screen excuse anyway.

@unambiguousbeard agree that videos of kids are a bit ... also why would he think you would be interested unless your profile says you are auditioning to be a,stepmum?

Welcome Meow good username. There are other men on here, sure one will be along in a minute.

I am exhausted today, had friend to stay last night and stayed up drinking gin till the early hours! Ignoring the apps today

Thanks everyone for the comments, no more over 50's dating sites for me. All you get on there is basically Catweazles .
I am really not that bothered about whether men have their own teeth or not but for fucks sake put some dentures in. if they can't be bothered for the dating site picture that really does speak volumes.

Haha unambiguous Mr Yacht - the good old days of this thread haha!welcome meow

@CocoKoko123 and I'm still here. That's depressing.

@madcatladyforever PMSL at Catweazles ... and the teeth, gross ....

I'm chatting to MrFly, but I've just noticed on his profile in small print is 'this is me in 2012', why not just put recent pics up. 🤨

The joys of POF.. Not sure how people think talking about fakes and whatever else in their profile inspires people to message them.
Had a couple of messages from a guy who seemed nice then poof silence. Might send a quick follow up message or just leave it... Its said he's been online but never know with POF. If not.. Onto elsewhere.

Had a few dates.. Def easier to talk to on WhatsApp then in person. One just keep answering his own questions and another lovely guy but in the same message asking if still on for that eve then saying can we rearrange cause of football.. Which been fine if it wasn't sent hours before we were meant to meet. Then wanting to have our first date watching a game for a team neither of us support and even though tried to avoid it.. It wasn't happening lol.

Such joys! Bumble is a weird one agree cause the whole time thing. Guess for some like said a power trip in a way. Might try tinder again see what that brings. Usually the same people as Bumble but hey ho.. Such fun!

@madcatladyforever ugh! They all sound disgusting.

Sometimes I really do wonder why I bother, I really do. It's so depressing.

Feeling low atm, waiting for my fwb to confirm on going for dinner later. He's usually pretty reliable but why do I have the feeling he's going to cancel this time. I've had a crappy weekend and going out tonight would cheer me up

@TimeTravellingDiamond there are definitely success stories on here so stay positive. When I was looking (I'm on a break right now), I think the key was swipe if you are feeling happy in yourself so it's less of a chore. And it's good you have your FWB to stop you overinvesting.

Welcome to newbies, of any and no gender, and just a moment’s silence for the unlamented yacht owner...

uttersocks I mentioned before the idea of a lodger to counter the time when DC go to uni. It’s not for everyone but it really was the saving of me. I’m onto my third now, they are all amazing young women, straight out of uni, facing the prospect of new job/town/no friends and slowly finding their feet from a homely base. And it definitely takes the sting out of OLD.

@Eesha Thankyou. I'm probably too fussy, that doesn't help either.

Fwb is causing problems too because I actually really like him and want more which wasn't supposed to happen! Oops.

@TigerDater I actually think that would be a really good idea for me and I have the space too. May I PM you for advice as don't want to ever the thread off course?

*veer not ever