Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

@timetravveling, what a jerk! His loss, and how odd to do that.

@bangheadhere40 Well not at 8.30 I didn't! Have my kids til 5. I can't decide whether to go later or not. I'm quite tired and flat. I'm going to have a snooze and see how I feel. He kind of deserves me going really. I've started missing mr u stupidly again. Took kids to ikea for meatballs and last time I went was with him for his business. So not sure if I stay in and mope a bit/have a cry or go out with the rush this guy is dreadful and makes me even more upset about mr u.

Actually I'm not sure there's an expectation of meeting now anyway. He's not replied for hours. Suits me

Hello...! First time poster on the dating thread...!
I'm on a first date tonight with a guy who is 55 (I'm 37!) & I'm already thinking WTAF & I'm not even in the pub car park yet?!
I don't fancy him at all...but only realised that after we'd agreed the date & he'd given me his full name so I could look him up.
Worried I'm doing it to relieve boredom...
Oh gawd...

I met Mr BC at 2.30 in the afternoon on our first date, and got home at 11 pm. But I didn't think he liked me 😂

On my way to date 3 with mr environment, wish me luck!

Good luck to all on dates!

I hate being sat at home when someone has sacked me off so horribly. I'd go out with mates but they all have little kids etc. I feel like the only one who isn't in a happy family situation- they're all married and I'm divorced with two kids.

Good luck @Peanutbuttermouth

@TimeTravellingDiamond same. All my friends are coupled/familied up so weekend nights are really dreary.

Think mr poetry has disappeared which is a relief. Although judging by his previous I could get a message at 20.30 asking where I am!

@unambiguousbeard ** it's grim isn't it, I have a child free weekend and it feels completely wasted

@unambiguousbeard I once arranged to meet a 1st date by the pond in a big park.. turns out there were 2 ponds and we were at different ones 😂

@TimeTravellingDiamond that’s rubbish. Sounds like an ego trip for him. Block, Block, block and don’t look back. He’s had his 2nd chance.

As for messaging. Mr Fireman always messaged me first, asked loads of questions, sent silly memes, selfies and always replied to my insta stories. Coked lovely meals, took me to dinner...But it all meant nothing apparently and I fell for it hook, line and sinker.

I don’t believe in rules of thumb any more, my gut feeling was telling me he was superficial/charming and when I started listening to it (despite wanting to believe we were going somewhere) the cracks were laid bare.Which rule is it about all being bullshit until it happens? I’m just on my guard a bit more now that I know what some guys are capable of.

another one with a while bunch of coupled up friends. So i got dolled up an d came out to a gig. It may well be shit. It's a tribute act but it only cost 12 quid so fuckit.

@KhaleesiTargaryen I'm so pissed off with myself for swiping right. He was a bit of a dick before, but it was curiosity. Was surprised we even matched so can't understand it. I'm so fucking angry at giving him the ego boost- he probably thinks I'm mad about him which couldn't be farther from the truth. I'm actually gutted at not seeing the other guy this weekend and just thought I'd give it a go meeting neighbour guy again (it was him who asked me!). I had planned how I was going to approach the whole thing- make it clear I'm not a booty call or up for casual sex (as I imagined that's what he thought). Ugh I've dodged a bullet I know it.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I hope you have a good time. I was half tempted to go to my local but would feel tragic by myself

I'm mostly just bored atm. Waiting for it to kick off.

Men can be shit, @time travel I know it hurts but just think how it could have been if you had met and he showed his true dickish colours later!

I've been dropping hints to mr bad back all night about meeting up, he says he likes chatting to me ( yet never chats to me first). If he doesn't grow a back bone and grab his balls soon I'm done with it.

Why drop hints @bangheadhere40? I asked MrM out

Yeah ask him. Although some men do just enjoy the messaging.

I've discovered that swiping is much more enjoyable if I change my age range to include the 35-45 bracket. Easier on the eye and less depressing. I clearly spent way too long in the cougar bench

I would but I get an odd feeling he is just one of these laid back guys looking for a pen pal...I need him to make a bit if effort really.

I think I'm going to take a break from it. I'm just not taking it seriously. Or enjoying it. I don't feel like going on any dates and I'm not really fancying anyone. Plus it sucks up all my time. I'll give it another day or so then I'm out. Always feels a bit rude to the matches/messages though....

Aww @ambiguous, it does take up a lot of time, and you feel you've wasted hours for nothing.

I hope you are ok x

@shitwithsugar, I know...I just don't think he's that keen or he would have asked...it's obvious I'm keen. I have had this before...chasing men...I want to feel like he likes me too I guess 🤷‍♀️