Hello
Can I join in with the conversation, I just need to write all this down. I think I’ve been well and truly played and from start to finish makes no sense to me at all and be warned this is going to be epic!
I posted a while a go about a guy I’d met on Bumble and looking back now I think I was love bombed. Very early on he was saying he was in love we me and project stuff for the future. Now me being a complete idiot fell for it all. No man has ever said that he loved me and I think I just got caught up in it and totally believed him.
The last time I saw him was 5 weeks ago, we stayed up in London and had a wonderful time. Since that moment it all changed, started being busy with work, travelling, board meetings, breakfast meetings, working at weekends. We’d arrange to meet and he’d get stuck in a meeting, couldn’t pick a call because he was (yes you’ve guessed it) in a meeting. Basically no time for me but he continued to say all these wonderful things to me, saying how much he wanted to me with me and that at the moment he’s been really stacked at working and can’t give me the quality time I deserved and to bear with him. At the time it sounded very plausible and I guess just enough truth for me to keep me there.. i.e. crumbs.
Two weeks ago I actually sent him a text finishing it (I would have called but I had my doubts as to whether he would pick up), I’d just got to the limit of his flaky behaviour. Initially I got no response to that text but two days later he did respond saying “hey, we need to meet for a glass of wine, I owe you an explanation. I haven’t had time to give you the attention you deserve so buried my head in my work but couldn’t get you out of my head”. I responded a while later saying ok, lets meet and talk which he agreed to and said that he’d really missed me. Anyway, we arranged to meet on the Thursday after work. He text on Wednesday and I thought just maybe whatever was going on with work may have changed and he was back and might make it up to me, I sent a text checking he could still meet up and he said yes of course. Thursday comes and you’ve guess it he flaked on me again because of work and I haven’t spoken to him since (coming up to two weeks)
Now I know I shouldn’t waste anymore time on this guy but I just don’t get his actions, he probably doesn’t get his actions either. He might has well have ghosted me when I tried to end it but oh no he throws another carrot out there. Why come back with a half arsed attempt to meet up and explain to then disappear… I find it all very weird and have never been treated like this. Anyway, all I can say is his loss and I bet he has form for this sort of thing… gets it too deep and runs. My friends have bets are on to see how long he takes to get in contact, I’m not sure that he will, I’d be embarrassed if it were me. Anyway just wanted to add to the dating stories on here as I love reading them and if anyone is going through a crap dating time.. you’re not on your own!