Dating thread 172: from developing a rhino hind to finding love in the unusual places...the rollercoaster of dating!

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

Good luck!!!

Hope your date is going well nomore
Sorry he's let you down peanut
Nice date story sal

I am getting my irons names confused. 😂 It was Mr Camera I met this morning, Mr Tuesday is out of the picture

General question if anyone knows will Pof work while I’m on holiday in Spain

Loo update.
He'll do.

So, I muted Bumble whilst away with my children, because of the geographical distance from home being no good for dating, and have felt strangely relieved not to have to look at it.
I'm guessing this might be a sign I'm just not that into OLD? The question is, should I persevere in the hope of finding a nice man for the few moments I don't have my children? Or give it a break because I CBA?

That’s how I feel 🤷🏼‍♀️ I only have a few days a month Free. I met a nice man on Pof but his child free days were all different to mine

Honestly? If I hadn't clicked with Mr G I'd be taking a break from dating and/or swiping right now. The lead up to Christmas is so busy, I just can't be bothered possibly wasting my time with a string of first dates.

He's leaving the country on Saturday, and doesn't have his schedule for his next visit yet. With Thanksgiving in November, he may not be over again for a while.

@Originallymeonly if you cba, then take a break over this fun period and get back on when you feel up to it. I quite like the build up to Christmas so I don't mind being single. Online dating feels a bit too much effort when there are pressies to be bought. But seriously, take a mini break and look after yourself!

Breaks can be good @originalmeonly. As the rule says if it's not fun, stop doing it.

Mr Camera checked in, far more sober and somber but wants to meet again on Thursday. Really have noticed with my last few irons that difference in interest. I need to remember if I have to wonder if he is interested, I know the answer... This is probably based on personality type too.

I must admit I don't want to be single in this autumn / Christmas build up. It's quite a coupley time with all the pretty lights etc. Suspect I'll feel different in January when I can hibernate for a few months.

I agree with @MoreNiceCereal if I hadn't have clicked on MrM then I'd be on a break I think. I don't particularly want to be single on the run up to Christmas as I love walking in the autumn and being a part of a couple but wasn't just going to pick anyone. MrM makes me feel wanted and actually there's chemistry and sparks which is nice but although I'm gushy on here with him I'm taking it slow

Oh when I asked if Pof works abroad I meant to carry on messaging people not a holiday bunk up while the kids are at kids club 😂😂

@Jane1978xx I can't imagine why it wouldn't? As long as you have Wi-fi or data? Might get random Spanish messages though

Jane1978xx POF will still work but you'll find that your matches will be changed to local people.
If you use the app then "nearby" will be local as well.
The only way to find men from your 'home town' is to use the search function. This is based on the postcode that you entered when you set up your profile.
I've used POF overseas. It's interesting to see the differences in available men 😀

There was someone on here a couple of years agony who had a lot of fun in Spain

It wasnt me!

I have it turned off being visible there’s just a few people I talk to 😏

Um... he just left...

If anyone's interested

And how did it go ? 9 hours I’m assuming well 😂

Whoop whoop @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking sounds like an awesome date! We need details...

Long game of Monolopy then? Glad you had fun!

Aww was just joking around with MrM I have a very old injury that flairs every now and again - he said next date he'll come and massage my back for me. I said 'where have you been all my life?' His reply 'looking for you' made me catch my breath it did. Love this pet of dating where you 'click' with someone

That's a proper breath catching moment @KermitRulesOK ❤️

Exactly what i needed. Kind, funny, attractive enough. Perfect FWB material and no chance of getting in any deeper.

Kissing and sex were ok despite being the first in 15 years. Went a bit wobbly after when he was stroking my back and i just felt a wash of sadness for the affection I'd lost with stbx, but i just kept repeating to myself "but he doesn't love you" and it helped, because what i was missing wasn't him, but being loved by him, and that's gone.

Mr double barrelled will do very nicely for now keeping my sex and skin to skin cravings down a bit. One day I'll find someone who actually loves me.

Well done @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking. The first shag is really hard. I mean first shag with someone else. Because you know you’ve taken a huge step forward. Onwards..