Dating thread 172: from developing a rhino hind to finding love in the unusual places...the rollercoaster of dating!

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

Jane1978xx for some reason the 45-55 year old sporty, outdoors types rarely match with me or reply to my messages.
They don't have to swim, cycle and climb a mountain before breakfast.

I met a lovely man about 6 months ago, who was not sporty at all. But he liked to eat out, go to the theatre, watch live music. We got on great, had lots to talk about.
But never got past the first date because he wanted someone who was free to go away for the weekend when the weather was nice. Or just take off to the coast for the day.

I can't do that because I've still got a teenager living at home.

I'm in a running and a cycling group. Neither are my main sport but I haven't met anyone in any of those, in my age range who wasn't in a relationship. I do Meetup as well. They're all young or attached.

To be honest in my experience there Are a lot of army people with some sort of issues as they don’t really have a grounded real life. I would block him these are the people who turn into stalkers

@stucknoue definite red flag! Very creepy indeed.

OK thoughts on this ladies. I have been talking all day non stop to someone off tinder. I thought he was fun at first and agreed to meet up for a drink later in the week. But I'm sure he expects sex. My ex was like that and it makes me feel like it's not me he's interested in but my body. He's gone back to being really fun to talk to now but I can't erase the feeling that I shouldn't meet him. How do I tell him or do I just recognise he's a horny 26 year old and I should still go for a drink but make it clear there will be no sex?

@stucknoue I wouldn't be going anywhere near a woman even for a quick fling if she was coming out with stuff like that, wouldn't matter what she looked like.

I am new to thread although I have been reading for a while. Been on the OLD apps for a few weeks now. Having no luck meeting any ladies in my county, seems Cornwall is seriously lacking in lesbian women!

I was messaged about two weeks ago by a lady who lives about 295 miles away. She is the first person who has really caught my eye. We've been chatting on and off on OKC. She does shift work so when she is on nights we don't get to chat for a few days it seems.

Anyway, I'm wondering how to go about broaching the elephant in the room, that we live so far apart? I would like to meet up so we can see if there is any spark. I guess I don't want to invest loads of time and energy chatting if there is going to be no spark. There has been no discussion or even hints around meeting up. I need some advice from you wise people.

@CheesecakeAddict. Erm saying something about plans for the next day so it’s only for a few hours. Or just be totally honest and say it’s a few drinks ‘only’.

@feistymama21. Say something like this sites settings must be off I’ve realised how far apart we are 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Stbx just announced that his little 'friend' has now left her husband and moved very locally instead of the 1.5 hours she was previously. He was telling me about the issues she'd had getting away from her (apparently abusive) husband like i give a flying fuck and want actually soap need he hasn't beaten at least my stbx into a bloody pulp.

So so grateful for the date tomorrow. It's serving as an excellent distraction and allowing me to keep calm and distant. I have painted my nails deep cerise as we're going on a country walk and then to a pub so not much chance to look glamourous except through my nails!

Deep breath. I've got this.

But what a cockwomble.

25 year old, sorry think I'd named him Mr SH, has just left mine Obviously we had sex but the most memorable part of the night was that we were wetting ourselves with laughter, literally howling and crying at some points! I can't remember the last time I laughed so hard! He's a very funny guy, very sweet and has booked me in again for tomorrow!

@Peanutbuttermouth. Sounds great ! And looks like it’s worth those second dates ! Did you not want him to stay over

Peanut fantastic update, glad the second date went well. Was definitely worth it then!

@Peanutbuttermouth great update!

At a pub with Mr Tuesday. He's Welsh so in fine form. His eyes are a stunning blue/green colour. He has a great laugh. Apparently we are meeting again on Thursday night. We'll see...

@Peanutbuttermouth great update! @saltysally MrTuesday won't be so happy now

@saltysally Are you still in the pub? If so is he crying in the toilet after his day was ruined?! He may need some rather robust ‘cheering up’!

Had a really great time with Mr G, last night and this morning. I had a bit too much to drink and went a bit weepy at one point, baggage opened and examined a bit. But he just held me and listened, he is so kind and thoughtful. He told me I bring out a more confident side to his personality, he's never known anyone like me, etc.

Where's the smitten bench?!

Awwww @MoreNiceCereal that's really lovely! I'm an ex-soldier and something happened a long time ago in a sandy place that creeps up on me and I get weepy when I've consumed too much gin. MrM has shared some deep dark secrets with me so I think we'll be quite good for each other. We have both deleted apps and are very much focused on where this can lead. It's exciting and we really are 2 peas in a pod (even more so than MrTall) I get the butterflies whenever I see him and he has such twinkly eyes that I'm enjoying looking into

These are all lovely Sunday morning updates!
Mr SH has cancelled our meet up today Fed up of having what I think is mutual fun with someone then being blown off in the days after.

That's wonderful, @KermitRulesOK.

I've closed my heart off for so long that it's scary to open up like this to someone, but no matter what happens between us, or where it goes or doesn't go, this feels right for now. I'm holding on to that.

What was his reason for cancelling, peanut?

I left so apparently it is my fault as I was bringing Wales luck. Right... Got a nice pic of his lucky pants though 😁

So nice @morenicecereal

Sounding very smitten @KermitRulesOK. Pleased for you

"Prep day for busy week ahead" but he would have known that when he arranged last night to meet me today. I know the score. Been here often enough after all! Just utterly fed up of misjudging people's intentions. I'm not even looking for a relationship! Just an exclusive and honest shagfest!

Shit. Standing in pub car park waiting for him to show up. Nervous as fuck. Im looking good though- got a friend to check my outfit! Fingers crossed. 3 minutes to go... if he's on time...

Fuck. Just seen his car. It's on...