So my dp has just broken up with me on holiday..

[rhubarb39]

Can't believe I'm writing this.. On a foreign holiday and he's broken up with me..there is background but nothing I felt enough to get to this point.. There is no emotion from him, he knew he was going to do it but said 'we both needed a holiday'.. I'm feeling very lost right now

Thanks all. He's still not back.. We've hardly eaten today.. He doesn't handle drink well..(he's fine drunk just doesn't take much) He's been gone hours now
Loki I had to laugh at your post.. Thats what started it off.. The fact he barely came near me. I was quiet and calm.. Yet confused to begin with them asked him outright what was wrong. How bloody cruel to just switch off like that and think I'd be OK with it?

I'd want to throw all his things in the sea and get pissed at a DIFFERENT bar. Might not be the most mature response though

Mama that's funny! It would be great if I hated him.. Disliked him even.. How the hell do you get past this feeling of total???

This happened to me on holiday years ago.
I stuck it out for the remaining 3 days but it was awful.
Having done that, and as you have a week left, I would suggest you come home - the next week will be so painful for you with him coming in and out.....

Get yourself dolled up and go out.You will find someone to hang around wiht.Dont sit in moping.

Can’t you see if you can get air bnb or another room in resort where you are ? Then you can still have holiday bit without being in same apt. Nightmare week ahead otherwise.

That's a shock OP - sorry. Hope the rest of your week works out

I'd be tempted to pack his stuff, leave it in the hallway. Hopefully he might do the right thing.

I'm so sorry he has been so shitty to you. Just do what you want to do. If you still want this holiday then he should leave.

Pot noodle I don't really feel comfortable going out on my own, nor am I in the mood as it stands. He's clearly fine doing it as is still out 4 hours later
Were sharing a suitcase so leaving seperatly isn't an option really.. This will be a very long few days😞

So not only has he waited until you’re on holiday in one of his friends apartments, but you’re also sharing a suit case???

So he’s made it entirely impossible for you to do anything but stay in the apartment with him and return back home with him. After he has split with you. What a heartless knob

Yutes I don't think the suitcase was even thought about, we always share, just makes it harder to walk out I guess.
If he wants to leave early I'll go but if he doesn't mention I'll be spending most of it by myself by the looks of it

It's a massive shock for you & obviously you're having trouble taking it in never mind processing it. There are 3 recognised reactions, flight, fight, freeze. I suggest you're in & should be in the freeze mode. Until you've had time to make any kind of sense of what's going on you're not going to have rational reactions.
Tell your BF that you can't make sense of this yet & that he'll have to accommodate your bafflement & bewilderment while you're on holiday. This is his circus, you didn't sign up for any of it.

It’s just an entirely rotten situation.

Go in search of a good few books for tomorrow

Could you get hold of another ie buy one? It will give you so many more options.

As you've chosen not to go out, I suggest you put essentials such as swim & sun stuff, make up (if used), book etc in a bag ready for tomorrow and get a good night's sleep.

With luck you'll be up before him and can take yourself off to find a good place for breakfast and also lunch. Have a loll on the beach or potter around wherever you're staying - a church or two might be worth sightseeing.

When you see him be calm and polite - exhibit some indifference to him but don't go overboard. If he should mention the dumping conversation, just say he's right, the pair of you are not suited and you're relieved he's got in before you as it saves you the task of dumping him. NEVER GIVE ANY MAN THE SATISFACTION OF THINKING THAT YOU'LL BE YEARNING & PINING FOR HIM.

Fake it till you make it. Don't go home - you need a holiday so get yourself out there and soak up those rays (it's shit weather in Blighty). While you're going round and about tomorrow look for somewhere to dine in the evening and for bars that look appealing.

There's bound to be a woman or two holidaying on her own. Don't be afraid to strike up conversations with others and, with luck and despite all the odds, you can have an enjoyable time and come home feeling rested.

Just saw some of your later posts. If you're able to get a flight back home without crippling yourself financially then pack your things in the one suitcase & go. The very least he should do is pay for a poxy suitcase for his return journey.

One of you can surely buy a knee suitcase

I’m so sorry this has happened

Don’t let him crawl back and apologize. He’s shown you how he feels

You can afford to go somewhere, but won't because it's 'complicated' he's dumped you out of the blue, but you're still at times defending him. He did it whilst away, knowing he was going to leave you in a foreign country, in an apartment and continue on with his break. Sounds harsh- but please get some self respect. Pack, go to a hotel, show some respect for yourself. If he wants to talk to you- leave a number you can be contacted on. Try to change to flight or at least the seat location for the way home. Don't choose to make this easier for him and be his doormat. He's acted like a dick and you don't need to lie there and take it.

And leave tomorrow with the suitcase- you can put his stuff on the bed. Sharing a suitcase is not a reason to sit there for a week.

Please don't beg him when he comes back, act uninterested, get your shit together and go out and enjoy your holiday without him!

Take the suitcase, move out. Have a nice few days. Do not let him see you be miserable.
I would also change the flight so that you didn’t need to see him and cut contact.
Staying like this is giving him all the power! Don’t stay for the sake of a suitcase, he caused this issue, let him sort it out!

I appreciate why some people are saying to go home but I have spent 9 months waiting for this break. I work silly hours and am not going to let him ruin something I've waited for..also a small factor is that some of my things / car keys are at his still which I'll need to get back home obviously. He's unlikely to suggest it as will find it all a total waste of money but who knows. Clearly I don't know him like I thought I did.
He came back a while ago, clearly drunk, I'm in bed. He rang the bell then let himself in.. I then worried as he was silent for ages.. I went to see what was going on as all the lights are on and he was just sat on the sofa like a zombie. Asked if I was ok.. I ignored, got some paracetamol and he came up nd put his arm on me asking if I was ok again, tbh it's infuriated me.. How does he think ill be OK?!.. Wow I'm actually???
He's now outside with a drink.. I need sleep
Thank you for all the replies

Try and plan things you want to do, keep yourself busy. Have lunch somewhere nice, buy snacks and a nice bottle of wine for the evening. Tell him to stay away and give you space.

Is it your suitcase or his? If it's yours he can find himself something else to put his clothes in (not your problem..). If it's his, buy yourself something else - you don't need to be sharing a suitcase full of his skanky dirty pants..!

You're doing really well. Keep that chin up. Go and enjoy the sun, relax and charge yourself up if you can. Just get through the week.

This hapenned to me on a foreign driving holiday, although you perhaps sound more seriously into him. We carried on with the holiday. I cried a lot, sitting in the back of the car. One bizarre upside was that by the end of the holiday I'd worked through the pain/experience more quickly than perhaps I would have done at home, so enabling me to move on in a quicker time. And yes (in due course - not at the time) I realised that it wouldn't have worked long term (and the sooner I found that out the better because I wanted kids and was nearly 40). The downsides are that if you have been looking forward to the holiday and imagining all the nice times together it can really grate when you see other couples and nice venues etc
I agree with the recommendation to get out as socialising and exercise e.g .walking, swimming etc are good for depression. Are there any group organised sight seeing etc trips you could join? Can be good to chat to people. Best of luck!

Oh your not going to listen, you will stay in the hope he fights for you...... gl
@rhubarb39