So my dp has just broken up with me on holiday..

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Can't believe I'm writing this.. On a foreign holiday and he's broken up with me..there is background but nothing I felt enough to get to this point.. There is no emotion from him, he knew he was going to do it but said 'we both needed a holiday'.. I'm feeling very lost right now

What an absolute pig.

How big is the apartment? Can you move into another room? Or do you have the finances to book yourself into another hotel for the rest of your stay?

On one hand it might be a good idea to finish your holiday, staying elsewhere and spending time doing exactly what you want to do without him. On the other hand I could quite understand if you just wanted to come home now and leave the idiot there.

What are your living arrangements back home?

What a shitty, shitty thing for him to do.

Sorry, I'd be going home if I couldn't afford a hotel.
I'd disappear tomorrow while he's out.

Without writing a novel I'm lost.. Lost on why someone wouldn't speak to you if they were unhappy.. Go on holiday if they were at that point.. Just.. Nothing. Like I said he's obviously thought it through and that makes it so much worse. I HATE atmosphere..when I tried to speak to him earlier he was as calm as..i actually despair at thinking you ever really know anyone.
He will come back no doubt, and say NOTHING other than am I OK???

Not sure what time zone you're on but if it's not too late can you get your things together whilst he's at the bar and go to the airport and take a last minute flight perhaps?
I'm really sorry, it hurts so much I know.

Either you tell him to fuck off to a cheap hotel for the rest of the holiday or you go to a more expensive hotel. He sounds a complete wanker, OP.

OP, can you book into a hotel with a bar and pool?

Get away from him and make the most of the holiday. Show him you can manage without him.

He says he hoped the holiday would help and that we needed a holiday
Lying tosser!
What he means is that he didn't want to cancel/lose out on the holiday and stringing you along meant he could get the holiday he wanted....and then tell you with no one else around to see what a tosser he is.
Plus he wouldn't be 'alone' on holiday - you're still there with him even though he breaks up with you.

I would go out and do your own thing and completelky ignore him.
Make the most of your holiday.
Who's card is the room booked in?
Cos i'd be tempted to run up a large tab on the room and leave him to find out at Checkout and pay the bill.

Lindy I do have the finances to stay else where but its a long winded reason why I'm not willing to waste my money on doing so. He also has a huge thing about feeling bad if he's upset anyone (amazingly he's still done this) so I'm going to sit it out and only be around when I have to be. Luckiky it's the 3rd time we've been to this place so I kmow my way round enough.. I just don't want this to be happening
We don't live together.. One of the issues I origionally listed and appears its one of his reasons for doing this as he can't give me what I want.

My ex-boyfriend and I almost broke up on a holiday once. We didn't in the end but my game plan would have been to continue with holiday in a different hotel, go out and meet people, eat, drink and read solo.
Think I would have preferred actually as the relationship was toxic.

Monkey agreed and that's exactly what I said.. I'd rather have not come away with someone who wasn't happy personally but he said he 'needed a break' he clearly has no idea how much I've been looking forward to this.
I'll be going off for the day tomorrow and telling him to do his own thing.
I'm literally so upset.. All the plans we had.. The meal we had last night.. Lots of laughs and??? What is wrong with some people.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to you. You don't have to stay there if you can afford to move to another hotel/apt. That way you still get a holiday but away from the heartless man who just broke your heart. Or fly home and go to a Premier Inn or a friend?
He must have no common sense. What fool thinks this was a good time/place to tell you his true feelings? .

How awful. This person is not for you. You will ultimately be able to be with someone who you deserve. I'm so sorry though.

What a wanker. Why didn’t he wait til you were home? Or better yet, just tell you way beforehand? Tosser.

Thanks everyone.
Tbh he's one to be able to distance if I ask him so as much as I want him to say he's made a mistake etc he won't and he won't even try.. I said that to him, he hadn't even tried to talk things through. I cannot believe I have misjudged the situation so wrong..

I’m so sorry.

Prepare yourself. Phone some of your family or a friend now

He has someone else, men always do.

He’s very cold hearted, but I’ve had this.

When a man is cold, cutting your heart in two, he’s lovely and garrulous with his friends.

When you’ve got over the shock, try and shield yourself, from what is next to come.

He will move on, without a backward glance, try and be ready.

I’m so sorry this has happened.

You couldn’t have done anything, or be nicer, you are nice.

People love you, and friends and colleagues like you.

Someone else will love you too.

It’s going to be overwhelming , and he won’t care.

Be prepared.

Prepare yourself for this.

So selfish...
Are you sure you don't want to stay somewhere else? Is there anywhere ok and affordable?
Another arsehole story but woman to man...
My BIL went to India to meet up with his long distance girlfriend. When he got there, she said she felt best to finish with him in person!!!
Some situations even a text better...

How awful. Utterly dreadful.

1. Long term you will be better off without him.
2. Short term. There are great breathing exercises you can do to calm and steady yourself. Then plan the next few days to do some lovely things on your own even if it means sobbing a bit -who cares. Try and find a good book for those moments when you need to bury your face and to keep you busy and not at a loss of what to do.

Such a horrible thing to happen. But you will be ok. Good luck!

I’d stop asking. He clearly won’t give you an honest answer. I’d be very cool towards him.

What an ar*ehole. I wouldnt ask anything else of him, in front of him be very cool and as though you've accepted it. Not to play games but to keep yourself strong in front of him. Move to another room, or insist he does if its the nicer room, and make sure you do whatever you want while you're there.

My DH (ex now) myself, my 2 ds and his ds went on holiday end of june, had saved hard for spends, had spent a fortune on the actual holiday. Really nice hotel, good resort. All going REALLY looking forward to the break after a totally shitty year.
There was no background issues, none. First day there he nippy af! (Actually started at airport).... long story short... threatened my 16yo, almost killed his ds drunk on electric scooter. Was abusive and downright embarrassing.
Point.... you will survive this.
He's done a dickish thing. Pick yourself up,, make the most and come home being strong...
Thoughts are with you but u will be ok.

I'm so sorry. I'd also prepare yourself that he will move on pretty quickly.

It's excruciating right now I know, but you'll be ok. Far better to have this happen when you can extricate yourself than when you're living together or have dcs.

This is terrible and I am so sorry.

Two reasons for him doing this possibly,

1. someone else

2. genuinely has stopped loving you but didn't want to be talked around so doing it this way to him seemed better (mad but true).

Maybe both. In any case, cry, and then know that you are better off without him and that there's a whole world out there for you of new experiences and choices.

Hope your ok. Can you be out when he gets back. Have you had dinner yet. I wouldnt bother speaking to him at all. I'd go out and just move.into the other room. Easier said than done I know but I couldnt even bother acknowledging him.