Fear of going to the toilet

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Hello ladies. Bit of an embarrassing situation. I've been with a guy for 7 years that has drummed into my head that women shouldn't poo and it's wrong. It's got to the point that when he's in the house I can't physically go, or go anywhere in anyone else's house. After being pulled up about it by his friends he now says well it is wrong but just go if you have to. He doesn't understand the damage it has caused me psychologically. I just can't go. I actually think I need therapy for it. And he can't understand why it's his fault. He's literally non stop drummed it into me, even said it infront of friends and family. Walks in on me in the bathroom and even if he hears me we he says urrrhh like I'm disgusting. I just don't know what to do 😒

He sounds delightful

Sorry I mean wee not we. Can't even do that in hearing range

He even sent me a video about a man saying its wrong on Facebook and he said see I'm not the only one it's totally wrong.

WTAF? He doesn't think women should poo? He wouldn't have lasted 7 days in my life let alone 7 years!
When do you go? Do you have to wait until he's out?
OP - you need your own loo in your own place!

HA!

I never had this problem before I was with him

I can't believe what I'm reading... This is appalling and abusive. Why are you with him? He sounds revolting 😔 I feel really sorry for you OP.

Dear god.
Seriously
Why?

Yep I have to tell him I need him to go to the shop or I wait for him to go to work. Otherwise I hold it in agony. Sorry tmi

Wtf?

OP if this is true then it is serious abuse!!!

How have you lasted 7 years with a complete moron OP?

No idea its weird

Do you have DC with him?
When giving birth you sometimes poo a little couldn't imagine what his reaction would be like 😂

What a bloody idiot! 7 years!!! Dump him and dump freely!

No I had 3 in a previous. Thankfully

I understand your pain completely as I’m similar to you with the anxiety of going the loo.

Potentially TMI coming up, sorry but it’s the nature of the thread.

I categorically can not have a no. 2 anywhere but home. Nothing major you might think, but I’m getting married and moving in with my DF next year and I still can’t do it at his house. I know it’s silly but I just can’t relax, so much so I have to drive home and I live 30 mins away. And the thought of doing it on a public toilet or work?!?! Not a chance!

I also can’t wee in the same room as someone else, and at work or in public I can’t wee within earshot of someone.i know myself it’s ridiculous and I haven’t always been like this but I just can not relax. So much so it causes pain.

My DF has in no way caused it though, he’s very supportive and even offers to ‘go the shop’ But that causes me to stress about doing it too.

I’ve had to cut holidays short due to the pain it caused.

I do think I’m getting better though, so god is hoping I’m able to do it when we move in otherwise that’s going to be a corner of a hurdle.

Sadly I don’t think I’ve been of any help, but just thought you should know there’s more than you out there.

Of course you never had this problem before.
Emptying your bladder and bowels is normal.
You’ll need to retrain your mind and body.
Personally I’d loose the dp, and would class this as abusive.
Your elimination pattern really is private not sure why friends know about this?

This site is for advise. I have googled it and can't find anything about this subject so this was my last resort and I wanted to know of anyone else goes through this. If you have a problem with my post just move on. You don't have to be rude. Its embarrassing enough to have to ask on here

WTF? OP he doesn't see you as a human, with all the bodily functions that come with that. Leave him and get therapy.

Does he think you get rid of waste by osmosis???? Get rid of this controlling bastard. He sounds like a psychopath. Find yourself a normal man.

've been with a guy for 7 years that has drummed into my head that women shouldn't poo and it's wrong

What part of him drumming things into your head makes him attractive

Thank you Strawberry Tot. It really is aweful and very real. Can make normal life that's easy for some very difficult. Especially when you also react badly to alot of foods 😞 sorry you too have this problem. At least your man isn't to blame. Hope things change for you 😘