Will it get easier? Attracted to friend

[DarkHorseRider]

It’s midnight and I’m in bed, having a cry because I miss my friend who has no idea that I have huge feelings for him. He’s attached so I can never tell him how I feel but it hurts. I just wish things could have been different.

I have a full and busy life, lovely friends and family. I have the best job. The only person that I want to confide in is the same person who this is all about so I can’t.

I think about going no contact every day but I don’t want to lose this special person from my life. Also, when I go LC he just gets in touch and, because I have never told him how I feel about him, there’s no reasonable explanation for not replying.

Do I just keep him as a friend who I’m really attracted to but can never be with?

I have name changed but I’m a regular: pombears, maui, penis beaker, etc. Although I don’t actually know the last story...ambles over to classics.

Thanks everyone. I’m going to distract myself now with other things. You have all been very kind and helpful. I really appreciate it.

ugh the way he talks about his wife is gross- and would be enough of a red flag for me- she "tells him off" He's "not allowed" to do things

Men who talk about wives like this are always awful

@DarkHorseRider

Reading some of the comments I do think you should make up a pretend boyfriend. You can then tell him how attractive, rich, owns his own business, has an Aston Martin etc etc. Then tell him you have told your new man all about him and how you are just good friends with his wife and have lunch together. Then add how your new man thinks you might view him as a father figure and he doesn't feel threatened by your relationship and he would like to meet up for lunch so you could all have a foursome

Then sit back and watch his reaction ... you might then see a side of him that is not so attractive.

I think the both of you sound well matched. You are both vain, attention-seeking and insufferable.

Have I really wasted 30 minutes reading this self obsessed drivel! You are seeking attention from random strangers as well as married men.

Oh but you're so beautiful, intelligent, elegant and successful aren't you? 😂

Grow up...