Break up support thread 3

[herbsmokedchicken]

We’re all still here...

I don't want anyone else atm but I'm also not prepared to sit and hanker after him because I know I deserve better than that! Ughhh it's just a case of time but I can't bear to be without him

Yeah it’s so frustrating isn’t it, all people can do is tell me to give it time and I know they are right but knowing I’ll feel better one day isn’t making me feel any better right now, when I’m without him.
Going to wash the stuff that came from his house now so I’m not tempted to let it keep the scent of his flat haha

We were supposed to be living together this year. saving for a house to look at buying one next year.

That's so good well done - I'd deffo lie in bed crying smelling it like a weirdo

It’s in the wash. I cried. It’s so ridiculous to be upset over it lol, but they had the distinctive smell of his flat and that’s the last time I’ll ever smell that. Fuck. Fuck. I miss him so much.

I feel shiiiiiit! Thought it would kill the hope knowing he’s moving away and that he def hasn’t changed his mind but still get little flashes of hope. Perfectly normal of course. I just hate that there’s no way to magically feel better and ok with it.

I feel a bit weird today, don't like it.

In what way? I have days like that, feel unsettled.

Just miss him and know he doesn't give a fuck about me at the minute. Probably flirting with this new girl maybe even with her. Feel so sick.

Oh god I'm teary and sad right now. Could cry.

Ah why are we always so in sync! I’m really teary today as well. Have had a good sob once already. Couldn’t get to sleep until 4 tho so I guess I’m tired. It’s horrible missing people and knowing there’s nothing you can do to make them want you back

I've changed my bed sheets and tidied my room a bit. Still so sad.

Yeah I need to do that, my room is a mess again. Was so easy to keep it tidy when I was with A. Now I’m like, who cares?

I’m glad I saw him yesterday since it’ll probably be the last time but it’s def set me back a bit. I was hoping maybe I’d realise I was romanticising him but no I want him just as much as before.

I miss him so so much. Wish he gave a fuck but I know he's going to move on. People say they always come back but when? Hurry up 😂

Afternoon all, I have been reading through all your posts. I am so sorry for you all, this really does suck!
My DH left two weeks ago today. Went to work on the Saturday evening. Never came home. Moved in with the barmaid from work and her two kids. To say I am devastated is an understatement.
I discovered I was 5 weeks pregnant on Thursday. That devastated me some more. DH knows, came round while I did another test. Says he will be there for me and support me. Kind of feels like he is dangling me from a piece of string. Speaks to me when he obviously isn't with her. Still lose ends to sort out he doesn't want to sort out. When does this get any easier? I can't ever go back after what he has done, doesn't stop me missing him though

tinsel mine ain’t coming back and I wish I could get it into my head! He had his chance yesterday - I didn’t directly ask him back but was clear I still would take him back. And he made it clear it was over. So I have to accept it!

Oh Hammers that's bloody awful. Men are shit

They are all shit! I don't know how they carry on like normal, yet our whole lives are impacted by all the hurt and pain!

I know exactly how you all feel OH of 20 years has just told me today its over he doesnt want to be with me anymore, i make him miserable and unhappy and hes had enough of me. We have been having problems over the past couple of months mainly because he has been working away for 7 months and i have found things that have led me to believe he has been unfaithful even though he denies it. The job has finished now and i was so happy to finally have him home and get back to normal life but he has been acting really shady with his phone that makes me believe its still going on. Even though hes not particularly nice to me im still heartbroken over the break up and dont know how im going to get over it

@Insomnic Trust your gut instinct. I had suspicions about my DH and a work colleague. The impact their 'friendship' had on our marriage. Turns out after not coming home he took her away to a hotel two days later, moved in with her the day after leaving me. It's awful I know. The thought of the two of them together torments me every day!

Over 24 hours now since I saw him for what will almost certainly be the last time feeling a bit better than I was earlier tho. And at least I don’t have that panicky anxious feeling anymore, cos I knew something was up and now I know what it was. Just feel shit! Three weeks from today it would have been our year anniversary. Still can’t believe we were actually only together such a short time, he said the same thing.

I feel sad because I know he's so not bothered about me. I need to project the same

My car is packing in tho so seems like I need to get a new one. Might go wild.

Sorry to see another few new posters added to our ranks, your stories are heartbreaking I don't understand how so many people can be so utterly heartless and cruel.

I'm still feeling really really down, suddenly gone into a real slump about the whole thing... no idea why it's suddenly hit me so badly but it really has. Over the past week I found it kind of helpful to be at work around people as a distraction but right now all I want to do is hide in my bed and cry for a few days. Can't really justify doing that though. Just feel so awful. I fell asleep as soon as I got home earlier in part due to crying and barely sleeping last night and in part just because I can't feel any interest or motivation in doing much of anything else right now. Just feel so so down.

@TinselAndKnickers go wild I say!!!

On our last date he suggested we played this silly but funny little game where we collaboratively drew one picture each and then we took one each home and he said he was going to hang it on his fridge I realise this might make us sound like toddlers lol but we were laughing so much at our artistic ineptitude and it was a lot of fun and I don't understand why he would do things like that (and introducing me to his friend... and casually saying all these other things we were going to do together) if he was going to disappear without a trace a few weeks later. I just can't reconcile it.

Oh rowlett I’d feel so awful too, I hate not having any kind of resolution to things, it must be so confusing.

Sad tonight. Reaaaaal sad.