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He's locked us in

305 replies

Bubsworth · 20/09/2019 08:51

Need to leave physically aggressive husband. He has been physical before occasionally but the last two nights he has left marks on me. We have a small baby. Husband currently asleep upstairs but appears to have hidden the. Keys so I'm locked in the house. Too scared to casually ask him where keys are. No one knows the real him his best friend thinks I'm crazy and irrational because of what husband tells him. So scared he will try to take the baby and use my extreme post natal anxiety I had against me. What do I do right now?

OP posts:
PurpleWithRed · 20/09/2019 08:53

Call the police? That or do you ever have time when he’s not with you?

Isadora2007 · 20/09/2019 08:54

Call the police.

Original poster
Bubsworth · 20/09/2019 08:54

Only really when he's at work in the evenings

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Thegrasscouldbegreeener · 20/09/2019 08:54

Call the police now.

Thesuzle · 20/09/2019 08:55

Oh god.. will he go out later ? Could you make your escape then.... Can you call the police, women’s aid. Social services
Who do you have that will believe you and help you leave him ?
Xxxx

RoLaren · 20/09/2019 08:56

Use the device you are currently typing on to call 999. Tell them you've been assaulted, have injuries and are locked in the house with a baby. They'll be with you shortly and you can get to safety and start putting your life back together. Or climb out a window. Whatever you do, get help now.

Teachermaths · 20/09/2019 08:56

Call the police when it is safe to.

Either when he's at work. Or if he will sleep through the call.

Spend time getting your documents together today and anything you need for baby.

You can do this.

RushianDisney · 20/09/2019 08:56

You need to get out, whether that is today or the next time he is at work. Do you have any family you could go to? Try calling women's aid when he is out, they will be able to help you.

Thegrasscouldbegreeener · 20/09/2019 08:56

You have a young baby, call the police. Tell them everything you have told us, and they will take care of you.

Go to the bathroom and call the police. Lock the door. Take the baby with you if possible. Please do it now.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 20/09/2019 08:57

Do you have somewhere to go?
Can you call someone?

PurpleDaisies · 20/09/2019 08:57

Call the police.

You could also do it by text by following the instructions here...

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2017/05/26/how-to-silently-alert-police-or-an-ambulance-in-an-emergency-6664488/amp/

emojisarentwords · 20/09/2019 08:58

What time does he start work? Call the police now if you can safely do so. Or call the police once he leaves for work and take all your things with you.

ThePhoenixRises · 20/09/2019 08:58

Call police tell them abusive partner had locked you in the house with him.

Pack a bag(s) and get ready to run as far away from him as you can.

SinkGirl · 20/09/2019 08:58

Are they possibly in his pocket upstairs? Could you go in to gather laundry and check, or would that alert him? How long does he usually sleep?

Is he working tonight?

PurpleDaisies · 20/09/2019 08:59

Do you have a friend you can text to pop around?

Casander · 20/09/2019 08:59

You need to call the police OP, as pp have said can you lock yourself in the bathroom with the baby?
Hand hold Thanks

LetThemEatDrama · 20/09/2019 08:59

You can text the police if you're not safe to call, if you've never registered before then text the word 'register' to 999 then follow the instructions. I'd do it locked in the loo though in case he notices you texting.

Thegrasscouldbegreeener · 20/09/2019 08:59

You can do this.

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Bubsworth · 20/09/2019 09:00

I'm lucky that my siblings live locally if I could get out I could take baby there. I have spare set of car keys just not house keys. I am worried about phoning police incase ss get involved and somehow my baby is taken away because husband a good liar n very intelligent n could use pna against me. Want to be able to just leave in secret

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Thegrasscouldbegreeener · 20/09/2019 09:00

We are all here with you. It will all be okay. Do this for your baby and for yourself. It is not safe to stay there anymore.

SoupDragon · 20/09/2019 09:01

Use the device you are currently typing on to call 999.

That only works if she is typing on a smartphone.

MrsMozartMkII · 20/09/2019 09:02

Call the police, or can you safely get you and baby out of the window?

Thegrasscouldbegreeener · 20/09/2019 09:03

The police will NEVER take your baby away op. They will protect you. You must call them. Can one of your siblings come over right now?
The job of the police is to protect you and the baby not to separate you.

SS is the last thing to worry about, you must leave with the baby safely first, and then womens aid and ss will find you somewhere safe to live.

You may not be able to leave in secret if you can't get out of the house.

FairyBatman · 20/09/2019 09:03

If you can do it safely where he can’t hear you then call the police whilst there are marks on you and you are locked in.

SS will support you if they can see that you are actively trying to keep your baby safe.

SoupDragon · 20/09/2019 09:03

Are you in danger now?

If not, whilst he is asleep get stuff ready for an escape when he is at work. Money, passports, all ID, bank details. Call a sibling to warn them - can they help you get out?

Do you have photos of the marks on you?