He's locked us in

[Bubsworth]

Need to leave physically aggressive husband. He has been physical before occasionally but the last two nights he has left marks on me. We have a small baby. Husband currently asleep upstairs but appears to have hidden the. Keys so I'm locked in the house. Too scared to casually ask him where keys are. No one knows the real him his best friend thinks I'm crazy and irrational because of what husband tells him. So scared he will try to take the baby and use my extreme post natal anxiety I had against me. What do I do right now?

Oh bless you. Yes, you are doing this for your little boy, to keep him safe, to let him grow up knowing that his mum is safe, and to show him what a happy home looks like, so that when he is bigger he understands how to speak to and how to treat the woman he loves and wants to share his life with.

Thinking of you.

Thinking of you Bubsworth. You are being so brave for your little boy

Thinking about you lass.

Sending you a handhold.

Hoping all goes well

Just to make sure you are aware- staying with a violent partner can be a reason for your child to be placed on the child protection register. If there is thought to be any risk to them (even emotional which of course there will be if they witness DV) then you run the risk of losing them. For your child’s sake leave this man.

You are stronger than you think you are.

Good luck for today. I hope it goes as well as can be expected.

Thinking of you bubs!

Good luck @Bubsworth. You are doing the right thing

Good luck op! Please remember that he grew up in a violent household so that's his excuse for being this way - your child is currently growing up in a violent household. Please don't let the cycle continue. Leave xxx

Sending kindest thoughts and wishing you strength

Hope it went ok.

How did the police visit go OP? Xx

Your so brave remember that! I hope your both doing ok right now xxx

Thoughts to you and hoping all went well

How did last night go?

This is a typical abusive relationship. He makes out like its your fault, he makes you feel like you are a bad mum and will lose your baby if you do anything about the abuse. He plays the victim by talking about how he was brought up in an abusive environment, this gets you feeling sorry for him.

You and your child are worth more than this. None of this is your fault. He is choosing to act like this you are not forcing him to.

Hoping all went well and your visitors were kind and helpful . Big Hugs x

@Mrsmummy90 made an extremely valid point.
Your partners possible justification for this is that he grew up in this environment.
If you stayed. And things got worse. Which they are likely to do. How would you feel in 20 years time, when your son has given his partner a black eye.. bruises on their arms.. and his justification would be because he grew up in that environment..

Thinking of you.

How did the visit go op?

Still thinking of you @Bubsworth we are all rooting for you and sending you positive vibes and lots of love

the most likely reason ss would consider taking the baby is if you don't leave him! not that they will.. they aren't like that. but they will not look kindly upon you justifying his behaviour.

@Bubsworth I hope you are okay..

Bit worried about you Bubsworth. Please let us know your ok, thanks x