He's locked us in

[Bubsworth]

Need to leave physically aggressive husband. He has been physical before occasionally but the last two nights he has left marks on me. We have a small baby. Husband currently asleep upstairs but appears to have hidden the. Keys so I'm locked in the house. Too scared to casually ask him where keys are. No one knows the real him his best friend thinks I'm crazy and irrational because of what husband tells him. So scared he will try to take the baby and use my extreme post natal anxiety I had against me. What do I do right now?

SS deal with people like that all the time OP, he won't be the first to try and manipulate them. I promise you they aren't going to take baby because you've left an abusive relationship, especially if he's left marks on you, if anything it'll go against him x

Bubsworth

Do call the police, they can and will help you here. They are also used to dealing with master manipulators like your husband.

Your baby will not be taken away from you, your fears re as are unfounded and not based on fact. You and in turn your child are domestic violence victims.

No man, including your abusive husband, is above the law here.

Please don't try and escape in secret. You need the police report when he tries to gain access etc. The police will believe you and document everything.

Your baby will not be taken away.

Call the police :( if the last 2 nights he has left Marks.. what if tonight is worse. What if tonight he Marks the baby?
Don't risk it getting worse.. call them now.

@Bubsworth he might be a good liar but how the heck will he explain away the marks he's left on you? Do you think because you have pna the police will think you don't know the difference between falling down the stairs or whatever and having the shit beat out of you? I don't think so, he sounds like a grade A knobhead and you shouldn't have to keep it a secret. However, if it's better for you to leave quietly as a pp said can you climb out of a window? Where have you looked for the keys so far?

Phone the police or text your siblings to “call round” for you and arrive at your door to take you out for breakfast as a treat/they have some exciting news to tell you and want to take you out. He won’t say no in front of witnesses. When out tell them everything and phone woman’s aid.

Would you like us to help you with the police op?

He’s banking on your dear and staying silent. Tell your family and friends. They will believe you.

“Your fear”

SS will not use you phoning the police against you, you will be seen as having protected the baby. If you do not ask for help and something happens then there will be significant concerns about your ability to protect the child. SS have a good understanding of how domestic abuse works and will want to support you to provide a safe and secure loving home for your child.

Having the police see the marks will mean that you can get legal aid for a solicitor if things go to court and it will evidence why you are the better parent to care for the baby. The argument can be made that the PND was a result of the domestic abuse. Both having a child under 1 and being at the point where you are ready to leave heighten the risks. You need to contact the police.

You must call the police and document this abuse. You have marks and they are well used to men trying to turn things. Without the police reports he's more likely to get more contact. If he takes you to court you need to have reported it for them to take it seriously. I know he's made you believe otherwise, this is what they do

If he is asleep you must act now before he wakes up. I promise it will be okay and your baby will be safe then.

@Bubsworth they will not take the baby off you, you are doing what's right for the baby and for you by leaving. Only call the police if it's safe to do so now. If the call might wake him wait until he has gone out xx

Also you could text the police as it may be safer than speaking and risk being overheard. The instructions to do this are:

Firstly, you must register your mobile phone number with emergency services before you can request help via text.

1. Send the word ‘register’ in an SMS message to 999

1. You will then receive SMS messages about the service

1. When you have read these SMS messages reply by sending ‘yes’ in an SMS message to 999

1. You will receive a SMS message telling you that your mobile phone is registered or if there is a problem with your registration.

Police will see your bruises and not listen to your partners lies. Call the police and he get safe

Can you get out a window? If so can you ring a family member to come and get the baby and clamber out. The you really do need to get yourself to the police station and start telling the truth. If SS get involved and find out you’ve been hiding a family life that could see your child put at danger then they are going to think a lot worse of you than anything your OH could say.

Ok so here are your options

Call the police as PP have said. But only do this if you 100% know that you will not want to get back with him, ever. The police will involve SS rightly so, but to keep your child you MUST keep him out of your lives and follow their instructions. They will help you escape totally and get you the support you need.

Or

If you dont know yet, please look up the Freedom programme online and attend this asap.

Only you know how dangerous he is and this is the most risky time for both of you. Call womens aid if you need professional assistance to do it safely.

Much love x

Call sibling

Pass baby out of window to sibling

Pass bags to sibling

Climb out window after baby

Never return

Op if you need help contacting the police let me know if you don't feel safe to do it

If it seems like too much to call the police just now, text one of your siblings to come round. They can pretend they just decided to have an early morning visit. Surely your DH will open the door to them?
Then they can keep you company until DH goes to work, and then they can help you to pack and leave.

If you are not prepared to call the police - get one of your siblings or a close friend round. Then you need the keys to open the door. DO NOT be on your own with this man any longer.

If this is not an option, I'm sorry love, but you need to call the police. You need for your baby and you to be safe.

(Take photos of the marks he has left on you).

My aunt went through the same thing for years when she was married to an absolute monster of a man. It makes me so sad to see people getting treated like shit.
Call women's aid they help with abusive relationships. If not call the police. You have to leave this man if he can hurt you who's to say he wouldn't hurt your baby. Your a good mum don't let him us postnatal depression against you. The authorities aren't stupid they know how many people have it once having a baby and it's not a reason to take a mother's child away unless the baby is in complete danger. Wishing you all the luck in the world,be brave you can do this x

OP...I know you will feel like your world has ended right now.You will have fears about lots of unknown factors in the days going forward but I promise you from the bottom of my heart once you do escape you and your baby will have freedom.You will not wake up every day feeling sick with nerves about whether or not you will get abused or not today, You need to do this please,however hard,how ever short term uncomfortable and devastating it maybe,The abuse you are suffering this week if left will only escalate,Your husband is showing you the kind of man and the kind of father he is listen to him watch him this is just the start of what will escalate if you choose to stay,Please get help right now for you for your baby...go live find your freedom find your strength,Please I beg you be strong.

If you're worried about losing your baby, you're more likely to if you don't call the police.

Could be seen as failing to protect them.

Are you okay Bubs?