C and the (non-existent) FB messages

[JaysusWept]

Morning all.
Can't believe the last thread filled up!
Thanks so much to everyone for all of your responses and your support. It really was invaluable to me.

According to K, M and D, they've had no response from C to their messages asking her to explain what has gone on and why she's been lying. She's seen the messages, but hasn't replied to any of them. I ended up muting my WA chat last night because it was buzzing constantly Did make me wonder if the chat I was exluded from was as busy...

L has told M that she'd believed C, can't believe she would lie about something as serious as this (nothing about not believing I would do such a thing!) and that she needs to hear what C has to say about it. She hasn't attempted to contact me, and I don't want her to. That friendship is over.

I'm wondering what C will come back with now. Part of me thinks she'll just freeze K, M and D out and not even bother to give an explanation, because how could she explain it?
I'm just so relieved that that's it now - they know I wasn't lying. Although I intend to stay friends with K, M and D, I think my friendship with them will cool slightly. They didn't support me when I needed it, and from their responses/reactions, I'm guessing that they were similarly as gossipy and 'excited' with C and L when this was all going on. I'd hoped they were trying not to take sides, etc - but the way they seem to be almost revelling in this now, with the amount of messaging and speculation - I'm guessing they were speculating about me this way?
It's left a bad taste in my mouth.

[HolidaysPlease]

Oh no, this is a ridiculous update! C is lying and the DH walked out after he found out what she's been saying - he's probably had enough of her doing this sort of thing. She is covering tracks saying she kicked him out.

Please try to rise above it all now, as you have been doing. These WA updates are so petty and teenage - this is someone's marriage they are gossiping about! I hope the DH does the school run and apologises to you about C's behaviour (in front of the others).

[PicsInRed]

Psychopathy is less massacres and more this sort of bullshit.

Good luck, OP, I really mean that. Take care of yourself.

I would begin looking into hobbies outside the school for yourself and extra curriculars outside the school for the kids. Gives an extra social safety net if the Crazy Lady decides to really press the red button on it.

Depending on how this all pans out, don't rule out shifting schools, wait it out for now, but keep all options open.

[Musti]

It is probably the straw that broke the camel's back for him. I bet she's behaved weirdly with other stuff with him and he's had enough.

[amiapropermum]

So K is rushing around to see C (not-so-sweet Caroline) in her hour of need. C sounds great at making herself out to be wronged so all her crazy behaviour will be glossed over. Something doesn't ring true here....

Jaysus, I'm worried that she'll say DH was in cahoots with you

[Bouffalant]

Holy fuck.

[itswinetime]

agree no way she has kicked her husband out! He has either had enough of her bull shit and left! Or she is really going for it to keep K, L, M and D I'm not sure this is as over as you think op

[neverornow]

What a crazy situation to be caught up in!!
I bet he's left her and she's desperately trying to save face now. Hope the others aren't daft enough to fall for her BS!

[TheSecondMrsAshwell]

Lurker on your previous thread.

Damn, C has shot herself in both feet.... with a machine gun. And so stupid not to keep her husband away from the school run, OP, she must have known there was better than average chance of you being there and asking him WTF was going on.

I reckon her DH has walked out on her cos she is nuttier that a squirrel's packed lunch. I bet she lost her shit because she told him the story, asked him to back her up and he wouldn't. He's walked away from the meltdown.... Walked? I'd be setting a land speed record.

[burnttoastandjam]

Yeah! So glad I found you!

And the latest update is slightly worrying...

[BarrenFieldofFucks]

Maybe he is messaging someone, but had said it was you because that was 'safe'. Now she knows it wasn't you, it's erupting because who has he been messaging?

[JaysusWept]

I'm not on the school run until Friday.
I really have no idea what the fuck is going on - whether she's kicked him out, whether he's left - I don't know.
And I really don't want to get involved in this any further.
I'll be friendly with the other 3 but I'm just going to distance myself from this.
She knows I didn't message him, he's admitted that there were no messages from me, she can't say her husband was lying about receiving messages from me because she said that she saw them!
What a mess - I'm going to take a step back. I don't need this drama.

[AryaStarkWolf]

OMG wtf? How bizarre all of this is

[cstaff]

Wow - she really would say anything to save face.

Watch your step around her - it looks like she is prepared to say or do anything and with her husband out of the scene, I would just avoid if possible.

[AryaStarkWolf]

She's hardly kicked him out just to keep the lie up though, that makes zero sense. Either he is having an affair just with someone else (and she suspected the OP) or he's walked after discovering what a psycho he's married to

[NewMe2019]

No way! He's walked out on her because she made him gossip fodder and made our he's been cheating. Good on him. She's a raving loon.

[combatbarbie]

You don't need the drama but you have got to watch it unfold from afar...... And keep updating us purely for the fun factor 😉

[InsertFunnyUsername]

Yeah fuck all that for laugh, What a drama.

[SmellMySmellbow]

Yep he's walked out on her as she's a fruitcake so she's decided she can at least use rhe situation to save face with friends by saying she's kicked him out for lying about never having got the messages. That way she doesn't have to admit to the others it was a weird lie all along. You and he are both in it together, lying to her, how dreadful it all is, can everyone please rally round now, blah blah...

[CalmdownJanet]

I'd bet money she is going to try spin it that you are both liars (you & the dh) and in it together. I think he has either been messaging someone else or having an affair and she created the messages from you because he had been paranoid in general and then maybe saw ye walking together and put 2+2 together, came up with 10 and went mad. He's clearly up to something, you clearly aren't involved, she's clearly batshit but I don't think she is going to lose her husband and her friends in one week by admitting to lying, I am sorry to say I think she is going to make you out to be lying together or having an affair. I hope I am wrong though.

[Ahundredpercentthatbitch]

Yep. Fuck all this nonsense right up the bumhole.

Good call to distance yourself. Who even has the energy for all of this? It must be exhausting being that bananas.

[ContessaLovesTheSunshine]

Shit OP, I'm sorry that you suddenly been lumbered with all this stress in your life that I imagine you really could have done without.

I think your 'rise above it' stance is very wise. I'd be seeking only to calmly, briefly correct misinformation at this point (i.e. you did not send C's DH messages or ever do anything else inappropriate with him), and to stay firmly out of it otherwise.

[BernardsarenotalwaysSaints]

I guessing no one ever told her the phrase “when in a hole, stop digging”.

[forumdonkey]

She loves a drama doesn't she? Either it's another out and out lie and he will turn up at school and not even know he's been kicked out or he's walked. Who knows if she's constantly accusing him and other innocent women of having an affair. She may have done this before

[ItsHedLey]

C sounds absolutely bat shit. You should be proud of how you've handled this. Keep your chin up

[combatbarbie]

Maybe you should accidently message the links to the previous thread and this one to C then say it was meant for someone else 😂