C and the (non-existent) FB messages

[JaysusWept]

Morning all.
Can't believe the last thread filled up!
Thanks so much to everyone for all of your responses and your support. It really was invaluable to me.

According to K, M and D, they've had no response from C to their messages asking her to explain what has gone on and why she's been lying. She's seen the messages, but hasn't replied to any of them. I ended up muting my WA chat last night because it was buzzing constantly Did make me wonder if the chat I was exluded from was as busy...

L has told M that she'd believed C, can't believe she would lie about something as serious as this (nothing about not believing I would do such a thing!) and that she needs to hear what C has to say about it. She hasn't attempted to contact me, and I don't want her to. That friendship is over.

I'm wondering what C will come back with now. Part of me thinks she'll just freeze K, M and D out and not even bother to give an explanation, because how could she explain it?
I'm just so relieved that that's it now - they know I wasn't lying. Although I intend to stay friends with K, M and D, I think my friendship with them will cool slightly. They didn't support me when I needed it, and from their responses/reactions, I'm guessing that they were similarly as gossipy and 'excited' with C and L when this was all going on. I'd hoped they were trying not to take sides, etc - but the way they seem to be almost revelling in this now, with the amount of messaging and speculation - I'm guessing they were speculating about me this way?
It's left a bad taste in my mouth.

[Windmillwhirl]

I wish I had been a fly on the wall when C’s DH asked her what the fuck was going on.

Same.

C will be absolutely livid, probably plotting some way out of this.

You handled this well, op. The fact C is ignoring messages from the others is another indicator to them that she is a liar!

[Happyandglorious]

Glad for you jaysus.
For the sake of your child, I would remain friendly with them (not the barking 2 obv)
Glad you triumphed. Have been rooting for you.

[HelloYouTwo]

I followed your thread and am pleased you were vindicated. As for friendships - I suspect that the issue here is that you are single and the rest of this group is not. Not because they think you’ll make a play for their husbands, but because there’s a likelihood that they also socialise as couples and that they don’t want to rock the boat on the other side of their social life, that may not involve you.

Just guessing and I hope I’m wrong but personal experience of being “the single mum” in a school social group of married women, they were great and nice for all the dc stuff, the morning coffees, the playground chats, the after school play dates. But dinner invitations, husbands’ birthday parties, weekend BBQs, nope, no invite for the single mum because she didn’t come with a man for the men to bond with... if your situation is the same they’ll want to stay friends for the first stuff but they’ll have other things they do together with C and L and DHs which they don’t want to drop.

[tattyheadsmum]

Jaysus, I think you'll be shooting yourself in the foot if you cool the friendship with the others. What were they supposed to think? Two seemingly rational women in their friendship group and they can't both be telling the truth. Which was the more likely scenario (1) that person A had been sending flirty messages to another's husband or (2) that person B had completely lied about that happening for no apparent reason and had also lied about seeing the fictitious messages. You might say that they should know you'd never do that, but one is a very likely scenario and the other is just mental. I know which I'd have instinctively believed, because the other is the stuff of soap operas.

Their behaviour now will be the real proof. Just don't push them away.

[OhBigHairyBollocks]

Jaysus I am so happy that it was the DH doing pick up 😂😂😂😂😂

That's an instant dose of karma for C right there! I would have LOVED to have seen that conversation last night.....

[JaysusWept]

C has kicked her husband out
She's told K that he's been lying to her.

No idea what is going on.

[Ahundredpercentthatbitch]

Wow. Either he really has been shagging around or that is some serious doubling-down on her part.

Imagine being so desperate not to be caught out as a massive bitch that you kick your husband out?!

[Jokie]

Has she really kicked him out though? How can you be sure it's not just a lie?

[XmasAnnoyances]

Or he has left after discovering she is a crazy pathological liar!

[theoriginalmadambee]

So now C has spun it to get all the sympathy.
Or he was cheating?
Or he left because she is batshit, but she turns it round and says she kicked him out?

Either way she gets the sympathy, she is good isn't she .

[MarshaBradyo]

She’s going for gold. Crikey

[Vinosaurus]

I think it's more likely to be what XmasAnnoyances said.

[Mintypea5]

Or did he leave because she's nuts and he asked her what the hell is going on ... and she's just telling everyone she's kicked him out to cover up for her lies

[DioneTheDiabolist]

She just gets worser and worser.

[PrayingandHoping]

More likely he's walked out after asking her what the heck is going on!

[combatbarbie]

Are you on school run today?

I get exactly how your feeling about the friendships now, the silence in between speaks volumes.

It probably won't be a popular opinion but I really would be seeking closure and making my feelings known to KMD just to say that you felt let down by them that 1. They thought you were capable of such a thing in first place and 2. Noone had the moral courage to ask you if you had, instead they just ghosted you and came flying back when the truth unfolded, that is not friendship... The fact noone has apologised for this also speaks volumes.

They have indeed been relishing in the gossip by the sounds of things

[sheshootssheimplores]

It’s the gift that keeps on giving!! It’ll be a terminal illness next.

[Monkeyplanet]

Wtf was lurking on the other thread.

C must have some serious issues to be committed to her story line to this extent.

Why didn't she just apologise, confront the issue head on and say yes she thought you were flirty with her DH and sent bitchy messages about you to L. The end. Instead of making up all this drama, just because she does not want to be in the wrong

[OhBigHairyBollocks]

I reckon he's left.

I would have been disgusted with my DH if he had behaved the way she has behaved.

There's got to have been back story to this, I bet she has pulled crap like this before!

[JaysusWept]

I've no idea - K's messaged the WA to say that C has been on the phone to her, upset and has said she's had to kick him out as he's been lying
K said that she's going round there today to see C.

[PrayingandHoping]

Lying about what?

[combatbarbie]

And can we place bets he has walked out because of her psycho behaviour rather than him being kicked out. I would not be surprised if he has gone through Cs phone and read everything..... If I were the husband I would be mortified!

[MarshaBradyo]

This started because of a mis sent text, talk about imploding your own life

[Mintypea5]

Lying about what? I though she's seen the messages ...

[SleepwalkingThroughLife]

Well even if he is messaging someone he didn't tell her it was you because he would have reacted differently when you asked him at pick up. But he just sounded baffled, not 'oh shit I've been rumbled'.