C and the (non-existent) FB messages

[JaysusWept]

Morning all.
Can't believe the last thread filled up!
Thanks so much to everyone for all of your responses and your support. It really was invaluable to me.

According to K, M and D, they've had no response from C to their messages asking her to explain what has gone on and why she's been lying. She's seen the messages, but hasn't replied to any of them. I ended up muting my WA chat last night because it was buzzing constantly Did make me wonder if the chat I was exluded from was as busy...

L has told M that she'd believed C, can't believe she would lie about something as serious as this (nothing about not believing I would do such a thing!) and that she needs to hear what C has to say about it. She hasn't attempted to contact me, and I don't want her to. That friendship is over.

I'm wondering what C will come back with now. Part of me thinks she'll just freeze K, M and D out and not even bother to give an explanation, because how could she explain it?
I'm just so relieved that that's it now - they know I wasn't lying. Although I intend to stay friends with K, M and D, I think my friendship with them will cool slightly. They didn't support me when I needed it, and from their responses/reactions, I'm guessing that they were similarly as gossipy and 'excited' with C and L when this was all going on. I'd hoped they were trying not to take sides, etc - but the way they seem to be almost revelling in this now, with the amount of messaging and speculation - I'm guessing they were speculating about me this way?
It's left a bad taste in my mouth.

[BiMum5]

Jaysus, similar thing happened to a friend of mine. Not accusations of affairs but shunning and not inviting her ds to things.
Few months later one of them called into her for coffee, complaining about the "clique" Friend said breezily "I rather thought you were part of that clique" and the other woman turned bright red.
Hold your head up high and find some proper friends.

[RunningOutOfCharacte]

I really don't have anything else to add except they are a shower of cunts and should be ashamed of themselves.

The only thing is - I'm hoping - another mum from the class who has watched this whole mess unravel will see it for what it is and strike up a friendship.

It's abundantly clear to all of us lot. I'd like to think if I saw this in my own playground I'd notice. And I wouldn't stand by and let you stand alone.

Glasgow mums assemble!

[jpclarke]

My heart goes out to you and your daughter, so far your daughter at least has been shielded but judging by their actions it's only a matter of time before she starts to feel left out. You are so strong op and fair play to you for not completely losing your cool. Horrible people.

[Derbee]

I would pick the one you’re most disappointed with (K?) and if anyone else approaches you and asks about the messages to C’s husband, say “oh, that what you heard? I heard K was having an affair with C’s husband, and C got her wires crossed and thought it was me! I try not to get involved in drama though” and then walk away.

I know you should say nothing, but I’m not sure I could resist something like this.

[Chapellass]

Wow just read both threads, insane! You don't need to be round people behaving like that OP

[aleC4]

Op you've nearly filled two whole threads!

[MouthyHarpy]

Oh Jaysus I’ve been following your predicament. So sorry it’s turned out like this.

You’ve done what you can, but this group of women have all behaved very badly. You’re right to look after yourself and retreat.

I hope that in 6 months one or two of them will come to their senses and realise how badly they’ve treated you.

[JaysusWept]

K has called me.
The short story is that C is still maintaining there were FB messages from me. She was so upset that her husband lied to me and M that she kicked him out Apparently he lied because he doesn’t want any trouble. C does not think that her husband and I were having an affair but she is aware that I was trying it on with him and he turned me down! Husband is now returning home.
I am beyond fucking livid.
I actually cried tears of pure fucking rage! How dare she continue with this bullshit.

I asked K if she believed me and she said she did but that she was in a difficult position because C seemed to believe that there were messages.
I said what had been said previously on here about there being ways to restore messages and C should do that. K said she would pass this on to her.
I don’t want to sound overly dramatic but I honestly feel a bit devastated. I don’t understand why C is continuing with these lies and why her husband is going along with them.
I actually thought that C would back down and apologise! (And I’d tell her to go fuck herself).
And it’s clear that K, M and D don’t actually believe me. Even though M was there and no way was he faking his reaction! I am so upset by all of this.
I honestly want to give her a fucking slap.

[JaysusWept]

C is going to get away with this purely because she refuses to back down. People are going to believe her because she will continue repeating the same story and not back down.

[HeavyChopping]

She never kicked him out. It's all utter bullshit that she's making up to mitigate her own lunacy.

[Milicentbystander72]

Holy fucking shit OP,

Time to threaten legal action I think. (Totally don't know how you go about this).

[Noloudnoises]

Didn't that 'softzilla' poster end up getting a cease and desist sent? Not sure it would actually work but at least it might prove you're serious. Isn't this slander?

[LenoVintura]

She's doubling down on the lie. The others suspect she's lying, but her intransigence is keeping a scintilla of doubt in their minds because, well, batshit really to keep at it in the face of all the evidence to the contrary. Husband is returning home because he's never really been away - he's been on some previously planned and unrelated trip that has turned out to be very convenient to the plot. He's not going along with the lies, he's got no idea what's going on.

[HeavyChopping]

It's defamation. Not sure either about how to take it to a more legal level. I suspect it would be costly though.

[SirVixofVixHall]

Agree with HeavyChopping .I also think it highly likely that her husband knows nothing about this.
All this drama just to avoid being caught out in shabby behaviour, she has problems, this isn’t normal.
Would be tempted to send a cease and desist letter.

[MarshaBradyo]

I’m not surprised but my god what a player. C that is.

I can understand your tears of sheer frustration at the injustice.

Amazing what someone will do.

[burnttoastandjam]

Time to cut them all off. Do not engage in this drama further. It really isn't worth the energy and mental space.


You are worth a million of them.

[Flossdancing]

Whaaatt??! Shes crackers, shes lost the plot

[MarshaBradyo]

If you send a letter she will live it up with oh I can’t talk about it I’m being threatened with legal action. Rumours will go berserk. Others will do the telling for her.

[SirVixofVixHall]

Actually in your place I would probably turn up on her doorstep and call her out on the lies in front of her husband, but I can see that might not be the best course of action .

[FairyJuice]

What a total and utter cunt If she doesn't back down op then neither should you. Imo, the only way to save face on her accusations is to very loudly and publicly deny them. Or maybe contact her husband (in the hope that he is saner than her) and tell him to tell her to back the fuck down or you will take legal action for defamation.

[DriftingLeaves]

Solicitor's letter should sort the cow out.

[AliasGrape]

I’m another one who has lurked on the threads but just wanted to add my support. I felt gutted for you reading the last update, it’s so bloody unfair.
I do think the time has come to just disengage and leave them to it now, but appreciate how difficult that is and how upset you must be. She’ll move on to one of the others soon enough.

[BookwormMe2]

I think this has got so serious and reputation-damaging for you that you HAVE to take action, OP. I would message C saying you absolutely have not sent any messages to her DH and if she persists in spreading malicious falsehoods about you, you will seek legal action for defamation. The point of hoping this will go away has passed.

[MarshaBradyo]

Also it doesn’t mean anyone knows what the H is going along with. He might be clueless.

C can most certainly make up that part too.