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Humiliated by dh in middle of Costco

306 replies

Mummy20192 · 06/09/2019 20:29

I feel humiliated and broken... went out shopping with Dds and dh to Costco. Heaving with ppl. We qued up to pay for shopping, when dh asked to return trolley. On my way back with dds after putting trolley back, we were stopped by a promotional lady sampling eczema creams.. youngest dd suffers from horrendous eczema so we stopped to sample a bit of cream.. we were away maybe for 5 min tops... my phone was on silent so didn’t hear dhs missed calls.

He saw us standing and started shouting top of his lungs do my wallet with my Costco cards, I was shocked everyone stopped and stared at me.. I was like “I’m sorry I’m coming” he blasted back “well answer your phone”.

I was so embarrassed, everyone close by stopped at stared at me being screamed at.. the lady who was showing the sample was so embarrassed, she apologised. I have never been humiliated so badly in my life.

He said sorry for shouting, but I’m heartbroken and this infront of the dds.

OP posts:
margaritaproblems · 06/09/2019 20:31

What did he shout at you?
Did he mean to shout so loud or is he just a loud person (my dh is)
I mean in the grand scheme of things it doesn't sound so bad. Are there other things going on?

Yeahnahyeah1 · 06/09/2019 20:32

Humiliated, broken, heartbroken... I’m a little confused, and maybe it is hard to tell without being there, but it sounds like he was embarrassed himself and shouted to chivvy you along, not to be nasty, or indeed in a nasty way. Altho I can appreciate having attention drawn to you that way would be embarrassing, it doesn’t sound like he was being horrible?

LolaSmiles · 06/09/2019 20:34

To be fair, he was in a busy shop, getting ready to pay and then you're off somewhere else sampling creams (which could just as easily be done after you'd paid on the way out).
Whilst you're sampling creams, he has a queue behind him and is probably feeling awkward because he's holding everyone up and he'd be aware that irritates people (I can only speak for myself but I find it annoying when people aren't ready to pay or start messing around finding purses etc like it's a surprise they have to pay).

Redwinestillfine · 06/09/2019 20:35

He embarrassed himself. You did nothing wrong.

Hazhaze · 06/09/2019 20:35

I'm confused you had the Costco card which he needed and your humiliated because he asked for it loudly?

MistyMinge2 · 06/09/2019 20:36

What exactly did he say? What distance was he from you?

I can see it would be a bit embarrassing and I'd be annoyed by DH, but not sure I'd feel broken or heartbroken by it. Seems a bit ott.

popcorndiva · 06/09/2019 20:37

Heartbroken really?

Yeahnahyeah1 · 06/09/2019 20:37

Something else is going on here OP, surely?

BoomZahramay · 06/09/2019 20:37

Not the stuff of heartbreak, OP. Just tell him not be so bloody impatient and move on with your life.

Teachermaths · 06/09/2019 20:37

Doesn't sound that bad.
He was queuing to pay and you buggered off. I bet he was waiting for you to pay and holding up a queue. Not surprised he was a bit annoyed.

helpmeiamatoad · 06/09/2019 20:37

He was probably embarrassed as well, holding up a queue for five minutes because his wife has the money and is off sampling creams!

AMidsummersNightsNightmare · 06/09/2019 20:38

What did he shout at you?

Span1elsRock · 06/09/2019 20:39

If my DH wandered off with the card as I was queueing to pay, I'd have let rip too ............ he probably felt like a right idiot stood waiting for you.

LolaSmiles · 06/09/2019 20:39

You did nothing wrong.
Other than leaving to quickly nip the trolley back and abandoning him at the checkout for enough time that his items are through and he's ready to pay and he's stuck unable to pay... All to try out some creams that could be done in 5 mine time without holding the store up.

I'd feel for him if I saw that in a shop.

BrieAndChilli · 06/09/2019 20:39

We need to know exactly what he shouted really

Oi Mummy get your fat arse over here and stop dicking around you’ve got the fucking Costco card

Is completely different to
Mummy you’ve got the Costco card in your wallet, hurry up.

Gazelda · 06/09/2019 20:40

If I'm understanding this correctly, he was queuing to pay while you were sampling the cream.

So he was probably embarrassed that he was unable to pay. He couldn't walk away from the till, so had. I option but to shout when he saw you.

If I've misunderstood the situation, then I apologise. But if I'm right in how I see it, then you are being very unreasonable to be heartbroken, humiliated etc.

Musti · 06/09/2019 20:40

I'm sure he was more embarrassed by holding everyone up because his ditzy wife didn't think to hurry back as she had the methods of payment and Costco card.

Original poster
Mummy20192 · 06/09/2019 20:41

He was about 4-5 meters away... it was loud.. he’s always snapping.. yeah maybe I’m being sensitive... I felt so belittled

OP posts:
bwydda · 06/09/2019 20:43

Seems to me that you embarrassed him (no one- least if all you , was "humiliated " in the scenario you describe) you can't leave him standing like a lemon, apologising to other shoppers, just waiting patiently for your return! If you had the means of paying and left him stranded , YOU caused the whole thing.

Unless there's a drip feed coming , surely this can't be real?

Walnutwhipster · 06/09/2019 20:44

So was he stood at a checkout (which you knew) unable to pay because you had the Costco card? I'd be pissed off too, at you, not him.

misspiggy19 · 06/09/2019 20:44

He was queuing to pay and you buggered off. I bet he was waiting for you to pay and holding up a queue. Not surprised he was a bit annoyed.

^I agree.

helpmeiamatoad · 06/09/2019 20:44

I’m sorry but I just cannot abide people who are so oblivious to the world around them. I think I’d be angry too. Why would you think it’s ok to hang around sampling creams while your husband is waiting at a till, holding up the queue, because you have the card he needs?

ASeriesOfUnfortunateEvents · 06/09/2019 20:44

I actually think it's you that humiliated him. You had the card and he has had to stand around waiting for you to pay. Surely you know how queues work and the longer you took, the more frustrated everyone behind him would get.

Common sense would have been to return the trolley and check the samples on your way out. I'm sure if you were in his position you would feel annoyed too.

As for your reaction, it is over the top and ridiculous. There is nothing to be humiliated about, you were in the wrong but it's a non-event in the grand scheme of things - move on.

Expressedways · 06/09/2019 20:44

In fairness you knew he was queuing and that you had the cards yet you were faffing around for 5 minutes (which is ages considering he’s at the check out) and didn’t answer your phone. He probably had the stuff all on the checkout, an impatient shop assistant and lots of angry people behind him. He was no doubt stressed, probably embarrassed too and then to get your attention he was loud. Maybe the attention from him shouting was a bit embarrassing for you but considering the entire situation was your fault, heartbroken is a complete overreaction.

Yeahnahyeah1 · 06/09/2019 20:44

Mm yea I think possibly you’re overreacting OP, Sorry.