Boyfriend has just blocked me, everywhere

[Blockedandfarted]

My relationship (under one year) ended yesterday and he's blocked me across all channels, WhatsApp Facebook Instagram and I'm guessing text.

A pattern was forming where he'd blow hot and cold so I addressed it yesterday for the second time as I was quite frankly sick of it and wanted to know where I stood once and for all.

After a tense exchange he apologised for the hot/cold stuff and cited having alot on his plate. I said that may be and I'm sorry to hear that but it doesn't give you an excuse to treat me like crap by blowing hot and cold.

He then told me he thinks it's best we leave it between us because he's a good person and I'm making him feel like shit about himself by saying that, he said goodbye and blocked me everywhere without a proper chance for me to respond.

All I did was point out the obvious that it's not ok to push/pull me at his convenience.

He was looking for a way out wasn't he?

I'm hurt that he felt the need to be as drastic as to cut me off completely, I was nothing but good to him. Just last week he was love bombing me with declarations of hope for the future and now this.

You don't need this hot/cold shit in your life.

He'll unblock you in a few days, tell you again how 'hurt' he is and expect you to put up with his shit.

Block him, don't enter into a dialogue with him. This is the end, don't look back. You deserve someone who likes you and treats you with respect.

Im sorry OP, however from the sounds of it you are better off without him! the hot and cold is a nightmare and you are better off out of that situation!

the fact that you called him out on this just meant he spooked and ran- if he was such a nice person he would not have been blowing hot and cold in the first place!!

Exactly what PeriComoToes says...
You deserve better. Move on

Much to my shame I sent him an email shortly after he blocked me on SM, I'm only presuming he hadn't blocked me there too as we'd never exchanged emails.

I said "what I wanted to say before you blocked me was that it was a pleasure knowing you, I'm sorry things didn't work out but I don't want our parting to be unpleasant. I wish you the best of luck for the future, do take care. No response nessecary"

I now regret sending that because I've made myself look desperate, I was just upset that he wanted to end things so abruptly without mutual respect after what was for the most part a nice relationship

Cowardly of him. He was scared of your response.

To echo PPs: you are better off without him!

Don’t regret sending the email, you are the better person in this, he’s behaving like a baby. Just try and move on now, you are certainly worth more.

I think you've made yourself look dignified sending that, not desperate. Just make sure you leave it at that and don't send anymore. Cut your losses and be kind yo yourself (and on your guard in case he pops up again).

No, you've wished him well. Sounds perfectly ok to me.
Now block him back and move on.
He sounds like a PITA.

So you told him you were calling it a day because of his dramatic behaviour... and he responds by behaving dramatically.

You are well off out of it.

All your email shows is that you're a nice person so don't regret sending it because it is done now. It is more than likely that this guy will try and get in touch with you again. He'll be hoping that you will be so pleased he has come back to you that you will accept any of his behaviour. Block him right back and never respond to any of his messages or attempts to draw you back in. You really are better off without him. Find someone who makes you happy and treats you how you deserve to be treated.

I now regret sending that because I've made myself look desperate

If that's all your message said I don't think you have made yourself look desperate at all - I'd say the opposite, you've shown you accept the relationship is over, wished him well and drawn a line under the whole thing.

I'm glad you don't think I've made myself look a fool, I did feel that way after I emailed and wished that I hadn't.

I think a large part of me agrees it's for tbe best as the hot and cold lark isn't healthy, but what hurts is how he can be so abrupt and cold to somebody he's shared a bed with for months.

Had he had the decency to have a civilised conversation about us not working for whatever reason and wished me well I'm sure I'd be at peace with the split

Yes, he was looking for an excuse to end it but by twisting things so that he can say it's your fault.
Don't waste any more time on this relationship. It's really not worth the effort. Move on and I'm sure you will be much happier finding someone who treats you properly.

It's very dramatic isn't it, to respond in the way he has. It seems bizarre that he would choose to go to that extreme.

It makes little sense as It was just last week we were having a meal with his mother and making future plans

If he gets back in touch somehow I won't give him the time of day, I'm quite calm about the whole thing even though I'm admittedly a little hurt.

Perhaps he wanted me to be hysterical or perhaps he just wanted me gone but I won't lose any sleep over it and it's probably a blessing in disguise isn't it.

He went to that extreme because you called him out.

I think your email is good!

I also agree that you should block him everywhere you can.

What an idiot he is. You don’t need to put up with hot/cold crap.

Yes something that became clear was that he doesn't take well to being pulled up on rubbish behaviour and doesn't take criticism well.

After he offered "things on his plate" as an excuse as to why he was blowing hot and cold, I responded saying that isn't a reason to treat me that way. He ignored that response and about 5 hours later came back and said he was sorry if I felt that he had done that.

When it became apparent that I wouldn't just be sweeping it under the carpet this time that's when he became dramatic and blocked me.

Had I let it slide for the second time I'd have been back in the same situation next week.

My friend who has him on social media has text me today to say he's changed his relationship status to single and asked what's happened.

What a silly childish attention seeking man he really is, who'd have thought this is a middle aged professional.

He went to that extreme because you called him out

I agree with this, and the hot/cold behaviour is to keep you on your toes and keep him in control of the relationship. but you called his bluff and this is how he acts, you rattled him by not dancing to his tune. If I was a betting woman I would gamble he will be back in contact in time and trying the sad/hurt routine to draw you back in.

Thank your lucky stars

I'm rather glad he has blocked me now if his modus operandi is to broadcast his newly single status and make a spectacle of himself, I was relatively nonchalant until I was told that and now I'm just angry.

No good will come out of me hearing such things so I've asked mutual friend not to relay anything else back to me where he is concerned.

What a twat.

He is a childish dickhead and you have more dignity in your little finger than he could muster up

Onwards !

You uses the words 'love bombing' so I wonder if you had suspicions he was a narcissist? Just because that is the sort who love bomb.

Blowing hot and cold normally means not letting you know where you stand relationship wise but I think you mean it in the sense that he was nice one minute and a knob the next? (Assuming you guys were 'official').

Again a complete over reaction, turning it round on you and making it your fault could mean there is something not right with him...could it be that he is actually trying to 'punish' you for questioning his behaviour? (Has he been prone to moods and silent treatment in the past?).

Either way, you're well shot. Don't take him back. That email was fine...though also the last word and if he is along the lines of a narcissist ...he won't like that.

Sounds like he met someone else and wanted to clear the path without looking like an a*hle he is....