Boyfriend has just blocked me, everywhere

[Blockedandfarted]

My relationship (under one year) ended yesterday and he's blocked me across all channels, WhatsApp Facebook Instagram and I'm guessing text.

A pattern was forming where he'd blow hot and cold so I addressed it yesterday for the second time as I was quite frankly sick of it and wanted to know where I stood once and for all.

After a tense exchange he apologised for the hot/cold stuff and cited having alot on his plate. I said that may be and I'm sorry to hear that but it doesn't give you an excuse to treat me like crap by blowing hot and cold.

He then told me he thinks it's best we leave it between us because he's a good person and I'm making him feel like shit about himself by saying that, he said goodbye and blocked me everywhere without a proper chance for me to respond.

All I did was point out the obvious that it's not ok to push/pull me at his convenience.

He was looking for a way out wasn't he?

I'm hurt that he felt the need to be as drastic as to cut me off completely, I was nothing but good to him. Just last week he was love bombing me with declarations of hope for the future and now this.

Haha doubt I would have been able to resist going 'oh geee! Errrrm...how about NO.'

Funny how his little quote is him basically talking about himself. I wonder if he's been told that's what he is like before by an ex/you and that is why he is doing what all his kind do and using it against you (because heaven forbid they think up their own fake insults).

I'd screenshot all of it for future reference as to how he treats ppl.

Well done blocking the hit and not responding!

Bet the next steps for him will be the 'woe is me' pity act for anyone who listens. Don't be surprised if be cons some poor mutual friend into speaking to you on his behalf ('oh he really misses you' waaaah).

If he contacts again just send him a message like. ' Thank you for you concern , however I see no need to resume contact, that ship has sailed. No need to reply. Goodbye '

Great work, OP!!

No answer IS the answer.

Simple.

Wow it’s so creepy how these guys operate. Op you’ve done the best thing by blocking. You’ll move on from this and look back and laugh at what an idiot he was.

I had the same thing happen a few years ago. A guy I was seeing blocked me after I called him out on his shifty behaviour. I didn’t chase. I left it and a couple of weeks later he started turning up in traffic next to my car , sent a card to my house, going for walks near to where I lived... it was all to arrange a ‘chance’ meeting. But I’d had enough and didn’t respond and looked the other way when I saw him. And we were both in our 40’s too so not just the youngsters that behave like this.

I look back now and cringe that I ever gave him the time of day in the first place. I’ve moved on now and am with a super guy who doesn’t play games and makes me so happy.

Good on you for not looking back! Though I just wanted to say that if someone blocks you, you can log out of Facebook and enter their name in search, click on their account and then highlight the link of their account, (ie fb.com/johnbloe1), re-log on and go into block settings and enter in the block name section fb.com/johnbloe1 and he will be blocked.

As for the twitter 'meme' he posted, I find that people who retweet or share if on Facebook - those, are usually the ones who hypocritically need to most take heed of them. The amount of selfish and aggressive people sharing peace/love/true friend etc memes is astonishing. They honestly don't see their absolute hypocrisy and lack of self-awareness that is reflected in the memes. That's why I rarely share them, those who share them are deflecting themselves.

#highlight and copy the url link of their account

#and paste account url in the block name section

@SaraNade my ex blocked me on FB and Instagram before I could block and unfriend him - so I can't find him now to block him. Does that mean he can see all of my posts? I'm locked down on social media (even though he's finding other ways to stalk me) and really don't want him seeing my posts.

If you block someone on fb you can no longer see their profile at all.

Not to say he hasn't added you under another fake account to spy on you. Make sure youve met all your fb friends.

What a wanker!

Trevor and Anna I hope you don't have the misfortune of dealing with them men any longer / ever again. People who stalk and creep are nothing more than pathetic little men.

Thank you Sara for the tip about blocking whilst being the blockee, I will remember that. He's blocked everywhere I'm able to block him as it stands.

It has been nice and quiet on this front I haven't heard a dicky bird and I'm sure if he really wanted to get in touch he'd have found a way. It looks like it's all done and dusted and he'll be onto some other unsuspecting woman soon, I just hope it's somebody who's read this thread and sends him packing.

If you use OLD websites be vigilant about tall, bald wrinkly grandiose men in their forties

@AnnaNimmity you can still block someone who has blocked you to stop them unblocking and spying on you. Go to the setting in Facebook- privacy then blocking. Type that persons name in then when it pops up block their account

thanks @fandabbyfannyflutters I'll try that.

Well done OP. I found my ex stalking me in a new way last week which threw me a bit. Also had a couple of calls. I made the mistake of going back to him previously because I was weak and I thought I loved him - I regret that massively now, so stay strong!

Don't hold it against yourself Anna, we all make mistakes. I certainly do, infact I should've kicked kojak to the curb the first time he started with the mind games.

Don't let the twat get to you and keep your guard up

Good for you OP! Stay strong!
Anna,** you're not weak for going back to him. Some people are horribly controlling and manipulative. My xbf used to emotionally blackmail me into staying with him. Including threatening to throw himself off a bridge if I left. It was horrible. In a strange way though, I'm glad I suffered that relationship because it made me
realise what I wanted and when I met my now DH, I was happy. I didn't know what that felt like before.

Well done @Blockedandfarted you obviously didn't respond to him breaking things off as he'd hoped, what a loser. There's no point wasting your time with men with emotional manipulation problems, far better to move on to someone decent. And your email didn't sound desperate in the slightest, it sounded mature and reasonable and like you weren't actually that bothered!

I had a hot/cold bf in university, I think he liked to keep his options open so would disappear randomly when we had plans and not answer the phone. I think he was insecure and thought it would make me more keen but it upset me and pissed me right off. I had fun dumping him as I had no reason to put up with his crap as I no longer liked him as a person, he was really upset. The bf I had before was coercive control guy so I definitely wasn't looking for another man with emotional problems.

Not over yet OP.

You've dented his pride by not being broken hearted.

He'll be back. Stand firm x

Oh, one of those. He was probably fairly good looking in his younger days, might have been in a shite band, or had a bit part in some obscure film, or DJed somewhere, that sort of thing. Men like this have usually done a bit of something cool-ish in their youth, which gives them the idea that they are Better Than The Rest and that there will always be women panting after them. But the losers, the ones who didn't have the talent to make it (I know luck is worth more than talent, but a lot of the talented ones are somehow less likely to be absolute tossers if they don't hit megastardom) will spend the rest of their lives acting as though they are Somebody, even when they have become utterly ridiculous

^ Just loved this post by SGB. There are a surprising number of men I suspect who are, how can I put it, rather up themselves ....

I am curious on what happened afterwards.