Boyfriend has just blocked me, everywhere

[Blockedandfarted]

My relationship (under one year) ended yesterday and he's blocked me across all channels, WhatsApp Facebook Instagram and I'm guessing text.

A pattern was forming where he'd blow hot and cold so I addressed it yesterday for the second time as I was quite frankly sick of it and wanted to know where I stood once and for all.

After a tense exchange he apologised for the hot/cold stuff and cited having alot on his plate. I said that may be and I'm sorry to hear that but it doesn't give you an excuse to treat me like crap by blowing hot and cold.

He then told me he thinks it's best we leave it between us because he's a good person and I'm making him feel like shit about himself by saying that, he said goodbye and blocked me everywhere without a proper chance for me to respond.

All I did was point out the obvious that it's not ok to push/pull me at his convenience.

He was looking for a way out wasn't he?

I'm hurt that he felt the need to be as drastic as to cut me off completely, I was nothing but good to him. Just last week he was love bombing me with declarations of hope for the future and now this.

I've no intention of replying even though it was super tempting to send a "HAHAHA" before I blocked him, he's now blocked there too so he can sit and wallow in the knowledge that his little game backfired

Nope OneMan, not me not today. I'm too old for that lark, although yes I was curious about his social media but I think that's human nature isn't it after an out of the blue ghosting. I'm not interested in playing along with his push me pull you antics.

I'm guessing you're both young? Apologies if not but yeah hes over dramatic and an attention seeker, best off as far away from that as possible

No we're not Annabelle, although I can see why somebody may think that based on my description of the relationship. It's all very childish and not in keeping with people at our stage of life.

Oh the stupid games people play OP. Don't give him the satisfaction of a reply!

I shan't be doing I'm taking a break from social media for a week or so and focussing my attention elsewhere

Haha! I’d have wagered he’d at least make it to the weekend before he caved!

I knew it!

Just reply *your throat

And then block him. He'll probs turn up at your house sometime over the weekend so watch out for him.

Hahaaaa oh my god what a pillock 😂😂 I’m properly cringing over his Facebook message lol! You’ve done right to block him, you can draw a line and move on now. Well done! And be glad you’re rid of him bloody weirdo.

I can see why the HAHAHAHA response was super-tempting but if you want to maximise his annoyance I think your decision to just block him and move on is totally the right move. Still though. Hahahahahaha!!!!

It's quite funny how you lot saw it coming isn't it, it just goes to show they're all the same, men like that.

God knows why he thinks I'd be impressed that he was trying to flatter me via a trip advisor review, that's a new one

So he’d tried the hoover. Well done OP for blocking and not replying. What a pig he is.

Twat

haha how funny (and utterly predictable). Tosser

Actually lolled that he thinks giving you a good trip advisor review would impress you.

You're not a Travelodge

Knew he would be back. Twat aint even original.

Do bear in mind, though, that if he starts to make a pest of himself you will need to give him one warning that he should cease any and all attempts to communicate with you, and if he doesn't get the hint or becomes at all aggressive, you can call the police on him. A dumped partner has no right at all to contact with you (unless you have shared DC or finances, which doesn't appear to be the case) and occasionally men like this are so infuriated when a woman sees through their nonsense straight away that they start behaving very poorly and need to be officially warned off.

This was what I posted on 3 Sept:

Men like this always come back. they are usually hot/cold because they have a roster of women. When he's on a down time, don't worry he'll be back.

Be very very careful here. From your posts it sounds like you are totally on top of the situation and not interested in him. Please be careful though. These kind of men are highly manipulative.

If he has decided he's interested again, your disinterest will be like a challenge to him. He may go full scale love-bomb which can be hard to resist. He'll start with just getting you to meet him - a simply invitation at first, if that doesn't work something totally made up to pull at your heart strings - his dog has died, he's had a cancer diagnosis, he was sexually abused as a child and is vulnerable in relationships, his mother is on her death bed. You would be shocked at the low level people like this will go to in terms of the sort of lies they will tell to suit themselves. Once he gets contact or a response, from his point of view he's in business.

Safest thing is to block him.

I don't know if it's been said but you can block his email address on FB (you used to be able to anyway).
So even if he wants to unblock your FB he won't be able to as you'll have blocked his linked email address.

Thanks all, I will be sure to keep note of any further attempts of contact and make it clear if he does get through that I don't want to hear from him again.

As it stands i haven't told him to do one, I just blocked and refused to engage.

We don't have shared DC or entwined finances or anything that would require us to stay in touch so I don't foresee him turning up and making a nuisance of himself. I have male relatives locally who I'd ask to have strong words if he did ever become a problem, though.

I don't think he's dangerous, just a time waster and an idiot who likes to bolster his ego by evoking a response by playing games.

He won't get what he's looking for with me as I have neither the time or patience for it.

I've deactivated my social media for the time being anyhow, I'm hoping by the time I go back online he'll have gotten bored and buggered off back to POF.

Wow, he's really playing a game isn't he! You're doing all the right things OP! Don't engage with this idiot. Taste of his own medicine!

Ha ha! What a child he is! How transparent!

Well done OP. Yep they do always come back. @INeedToThrowItAllOut my god you are so on the money my version of this kind of cretin turned up 2 months later with the I miss you's and when I wasnt responding threw in a family breakdown as a the result of a death. Hed done this a few times before on cold cycles where I decided I'd had enough so I recognised it.

I think I would reply with a “No thanks, I don’t want to see you anymore.” Just so you’ve made it very clear in case he decides to turn up on your door step “because he couldn’t get hold of you”.