Dating thread 168: The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

I think it does count JeSuis! As for the Beach Lady, do you think you'll ever get over her? Keep your friends close but your enemies closer still, etc. Is that possible? He's obviously not interested in her.

@JeSuisPrest If he wanted her, he would have her. He wants you and I also agree that saying it while dad DOES count in your case.

So WHOOOOOOP!!

While dtd...stupid autocorrect!

Thanks @TooOldForThis67, I think she'll always be a bit of a thorn in my side tbh but I know he's not interested in her. He's just called to say they've left and we've had a nice chat about plans for tomorrow. I could tell he'd had a drink 'cos he gets even soppier than when he's sober, so all is well with the world again and we'll speak later no doubt.

We've never farted in front of each other either - well not deliberately and the other one has always been too polite to say anything if it's happened by accident, when one of the dogs gets blamed 😂🐶

@Sunshineandflipflops I do not want to think of my dad DTD! 😱🤣

I'm not even sure he meant to say it tbh - possible tmi, but we were going for it and I said "I love it when you , and he whispered in my ear "I love you". So nope, I'm not counting it. I want a proper bona fide, heart felt, "I'm so in love with you I can't imagine my life without you" declaration. I'll hang on for it though, he's a bloody good shag and quite good company 🤷‍♀️

@JeSuisPrest 😂😂😂

Jesuis I missed it, synopsis on who fucking stupid beach lady tramp is (being mean in blind solidarity

Oh and saying I love you while DTD definitely still counts!

@JeSuisPrest Of course it counts. When is there a more intimate time to tell someone you love them?

Err a taxi home update as opposed to a loo update . There won't be a second date. I don't want one and I don't think he does either. At least he didn't ask and that would be really odd for the men I've dated. Actually hoping he doesn't ask.

I said this would be my last date for at least a month and I'm sticking to that. It'll be a good break for me.

Oh no what happened @Ginmel

Just no chemistry and even though his age is correct, he looks at least 15 years older in person.

Oh what happened?!!

Just deleted all the chatting. Lesson learned. Shame

X post. Why do people post old photos I’m sorry Ginmel that’s crap.

Honestly I'm fine. The lack of chemistry was very apparent. That's the deal breaker for me

This time last week I was having a lovely time with Mr Joker. I have no interest in anyone else right now, so I'm at home with the DC, drinking g&t out of a can. Le Sigh.

I should say he seemed at least 15 years older. It wasn't about how he looked, though (slightly bitchy) the hunch did age him.

Sorry it didn't go so well @Ginmel and I hope he doesn't ask for another date!

Thanks @Sunshineandflipflops I've got that bitter disappointment feeling now but it is also my fault for talking so much before meeting. Hedgehog houses was just too far.

Isn't it funny how you can seem to get along with someone so well behind a screen but in reality there's just nothing there. It's far from just about the physical too.

Totally get that Ginmel it’s why I’ve started dating fast and messaging slow before. Maybe it’s because we connect with some people as friends not lovers?

More rubbish feeling! Treat yourself tonight x

I was very nervous about meeting MrAd because we had talked so much on WhatsApp and got on so well but despite him being VERY nervous he was just as lovely in the flesh, thankfully.

He was still lovely. We must didn't have any chemistry. I guess it comes from imagining what the person is like as opposed to what they are like.

Reminds me of the famous cartoon from the 90s!

Noooooo. He just asked for a second date. I said no as gently but clearly as possible.

@Ginmel Oh no! Well done you though. I'm so rubbish I'd have probably agreed 😂