Narcissistic boyfriend

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Hi....just wondering if anyone has any experience with this?

I'm a total paranoid wreck but can't seem to get out?

Thankyou guys!

Just wondering if anyone has ever tried to tell a narcissist that they are one?
I'm not going to....just wondered if anyone has?

Honestly, don’t bother, it’s giving them the attention they need and it sucks you in again

They will never ever see that they are as awful as they are.

Yes and he laughed me out of the room. Then told me that I was the user and abuser.

Given the situation - and especially as you have just taken your very valid concerns to the police - I would personally advise against any contact with your ex anyhow, and certainly not to provide him with a diagnosis of his mental health. It will not bring closure, a panacea for your current pain, nor anything good.

There is plenty of info about narcissism online and help on healing after abuse. Do that instead. And get the focus off of him and onto you - where it should be.

The worst thing you can do with a narcissist is tell them they are one - they assume the victim role, turn it around and you end up apologising. Trust me on this one.

I know the concept of "revenge" isn't healthy but someone once said to me that the best revenge is utter indifference. Thinking about someone who once took up ALL your energy and thinking meh is a powerful thing. But it takes a long time.

Honestly OP, disengaging means trying not to obsess over them and the relationship dynamics as well as not directly being in touch.

Tell us a bit about you* - where is somewhere you'd love to visit one day? What was your favourite TV show when you were little? Concentrate on you

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Sorry my asterisk re non identifying info fucked up the formatting!

@Gemma1971 Mine called me an abuser too when I would call him out.

I think the most revealing example was the time I said I would find a way to call my brother to come and help me if ex didn't leave my house. At the time I said this he was trapping me inside by holding a knife and blocking the door.

The second I mentioned my brother, ex got his phone out and said he would report me to the police for threatening him with my brother beating him up... FFS! I look back and it's like another life.

You'll get there OP stay focused on you.

Yes I can see where your coming from with that there turn it around!

I'm really bad at thinking of myself atm....I'm sure I will get there!

When I was younger tho....I always wanted to visit Hawaii 😍
But next year I have just booked a trip to Ibiza with the girls to celebrate us all turning 30..... can't wait 😍😍

Anyone been to Hawaii?

Ooh Hawaii is mine too! It looks so beautiful and calming, it might even make me chilled out 😂

Girls holiday sounds like just what you need, to let your hair down and remember what it's like to be surrounded by people who love you and will quite frankly tell any dickheads to fuck off! Having some friends who are even a bit over protective of you is especially brilliant

If anyone on here happens to have a place in Hawaii you just let us know and we'll come stay with you, yes? Cool.

You're doing ace OP. All power to you. Stay strong

Ohhh yes good shout @ThatCurlyGirl 😂
I think why I wanted to go there when I was younger was because of all the surfing....however now....I'm terrified of waves 😂
I still would love to go tho....so yes....if anyone has a house there....👋🏼👋🏼😂😂

Last night I really struggled....but feeling better this morning although first night I struggled to sleep!

Weekends are always harder for me tho as that's when we would spend all our time together!

Here's to making new plans on the weekend where I can actually enjoy myself and not wonder what mood I am going to get him in 🥳🥳