I just don't understand why he would beg me this much when he could have anyone else 😢
99% of them do this, the stalking, pestering. Doesn't mean they love you, it means you are excellent supply. You gave him attention, emotional responses, you can be manipulated. Please don't be like me, I thought it meant he loved me. He emailed, rang, WhatsApped constantly from Ireland begging me not to leave him..... I am embarrassed to say I lost count of the times I went back because he PROMISED it would be different. It always was, for a few days or more. The the covert insults would start, the gaslighting, the criticisms, hostility, flirting and ogling with other women, the lying about dating sites he was using, the hot to cold and back again moods.
They are not normal.
I am 48. I was 38 when this all began. I missed out on dates with good men. I still get attention but hell, I am not the same person. I feel somehow cynical and tainted sometimes. But I have learned what to watch out for.
Be wise.
Make a list. HE CHEATED. He keeps going back to her. He treats you like an object. He is incapable of love.
Stop listening to the voicemails. Stop looking at anything to do with him. A work page?? Do you really need to look at it? His aim is to break you. He may do this by taunting and trying to make you jealous. Be aware also he will already have someone else or a few people to have sex with and to get validation, most of them do this. He will keep this hidden from you unless he needs to use it to hurt you. Then bam he will reel you back in through a weak point, your fear that someone else gets only the good parts and not the bad.
They ALL treat ALL partners the SAME.
My ex was on dating sites THE MINUTE we had an argument. He would then deny it. He had no idea his email was still open on my laptop. Straight onto all sorts of dating sites. His explanation? I must have clicked on something accidentally.
The mistake targets of these con men make is to think we are special to them. We aren't, we simply have qualities that allow us to be hooked and conned. They always have more than one and they do not love.
Stay strong and speak with the police about your concerns.