Dating thread 167: Help, I need somebody - but not just anybody

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

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🍹 @coffee I'm so glad you went to your thinking spot. headfucker has sensed you are pulling away. Could you not end this over the phone instead if it'll be so hard to pull away? You don't owe him anything.

Notreally but why does he think you turn the camera off?

Ok, ok you're all right. I need to just do it. In the morning I'm going to at least make myself look presentable then just answer it if he FaceTimes. I'm not going to pre arrange it as I think it just makes a bigger deal out of it.

Whatever happens, I can't carry on hiding from him!!

@WhatWhyWhen He knows I'm losing weight and not happy with the way I am. I avoided talking about it but it forced my hand when he first tried to FaceTime.
I'm also just not very photogenic, don't like seeing myself on camera. I'm not particularly keen FaceTiming other people either!

@notreallyacatfish I just read your last post. I think it's def a great idea to not put any pressure on it. And must go for it.

I think we all get those doubts when we meet someone for the first time, or even seeing someone after a few years. You worry what if they don't like me etc. But I always think it's good to remember that you are the prize and he needs to be good enough for you. If the worst happens and he decides he doesn't want to you. Then that's his loss not yours.

He has sensed me pulling away I think, yes.

Let's be honest here though. I'm not ready to end it. I'm still not done with the idea that it can be talked through and sorted, and the possibility that he's just working some baggage through.

@notreallyacatfish that's great, you'll feel a million times better for having done it xxx

@coffee what would you say if one of us wrote your last post? I'm worried how much he's going to mess with your head
In any event it's your life and we'll be here for you

I'd say it was their choice and they knew they could come back for more support anytime.

That's cool @coffee and true.

168 is here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3676909-Dating-thread-168-The-things-you-choose-to-ignore-tolerate-now-are-the-reasons-you-will-break-up-in-the-future

And its time to say goodbye to 167

More highs and lows as we ride this weird roller coaster of dating

And lots of laughs too

990

And we are leaving the curse that didn't exist here

This thread feels like it will never end

But it will because I'm going to make it

So here's to cooler times

And happier times

So there may have been some train car park kissing, although he was so nervous asking me 😊
He is so open and honest and it's just a breath of fresh air. Oh, and he paid and wouldn't hear of me going halves, which never happens to me!

Goodbye

Awww what a lovely note to end 167 on @Sunshineandflipflops
The curse is broken!

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