Dating thread 167: Help, I need somebody - but not just anybody

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Aleesha1 I think you can skip a lot of the questions and fill them in later. I know that’s what I did, anyway and assume it’s the same now.

@lifegoes They will pop up in your ‘Double Take’ tab, I think. Then I think you see a symbol to say they’ve messaged that might reveal message content, or you may have to like them first to begin the conversation, like Tinder/Bumble.

@HairyArsedMan thank you! Just joined and crossing my fingers.

lifegoes Does anything show up on your conversations tab? That's where I've found my messages (when I've had any... )

@lifegoes Unless you matched with them - well as far as I could tell - if you did a search and scrolled through the glowy blue people would be the ones who'd sent messages. you could click them and see the message but they don't turn up in your actual inbox unless you matched

Weird system. Preferred it when folk just messaged

Thanks @supercali77 and @HairyArsedMan it's a strange one to figure out. Much prefer to just see the message.

@AverageGuy nothing in there but think I've got to match with them before I see it.

I dont think your faux pas was that bad hairy!!!

Agree, I was expecting it to be some kind of very rude auto correct 😄

Lifegoes I know, as a man, when you "like" someone on OKC, you get the option to write an "introduction". Maybe that's what you are seeing? I think you may be right, in that you have to match to see what they have written.

@HairyArsedMan that's not that bad really, she shouldn't put a photo of two people up, that's a rule! Not as bad as @ant330 commenting on a dog that turned out to be a llama!

😂 Dammit! I thought that would be long forgotten!

@lifegoes you have to go through the double take and find your messages! They're probably intro ones...that's how MrTall first messaged me

Hang on, it was an alpaca.

I think my faux pas basically said to her, I fancy your mate and you look like so and so. She responded to point out my mistake and say she was proud of her appearance. I felt bad for making her even question it.

@HairyArsedMan see, I would have thought that was funny and a great conversation starter! This is why you should never have your profile pic with someone else!

I have a date on fri with Mr NormalNFunny, he can give as good as he gets and apparently he doesn't mind my salty humour. I likey. He's 5 years younger though, and he has his 2 kids quite a lot on weekends. So . hmm, who knows re: chemistry and availability. Either way....we'll see

Hairy you are correct, was indeed an Alpaca. If they're smaller than Llamas then it makes my mistake look marginally less idiotic, but only just!

I just made the same mistake of calling alpacas llamas, even though I meant alpacas

Have also deduced Mr U lives near a bondage hotel and an alpaca farm. These are separate locations 😮

@Ant330 sadly I remember all sorts of rubbish about complete strangers but didn't mention miss bathlegs because I thought that would be more embarrassing

I think I first started lurking on here about the time someone was trying to match with someone on okc. They'd matched but then something happened? so the MNer signed up for a subscription but by this time the iron had unmatched. Was that any of you?

Stealth 😂😂 I'm going have to stop posting 😂 well just the embarassing and idiotic stuff anyway!

Had a long phone conversation with a POF match last night, but after thinking things over this morning he was too pushy and overtly sexual in our convo. It was a bit of a laugh at first but too full on for me after thinking on it. Unmatched that one.

nothing to do with me having a gigantic crush on Mr Joker and having zero interest in anyone else probably ever again oh no

Hairy I was expecting worse! She brought that on herself, to be honest ...!!

I remember the alpaca/dog thing too ....

So Miss Old was in fact Miss Too Old?

shit I would feel the same way - if he's too stressed to be polite then he should just say he's stressed and worried and therefore not up to phone calls. I say this as someone whose 3 weeks old baby had to have life saving surgery - I didn't speak to people because I wasn't in the right place to chat ...