So yesterday I posted how proud I was of both dc getting great grades and first choice uni places and the relief after too many years of worry
Just to point out how well Ds did - he is the second highest in his year point wise - which is bloody fantastic - he had the opportunity to upgrade but has stuck with his choice. The school I believe had written him off!
Well it didn’t last long.
Ds has to secure his accommodation by Sunday - he is off inter railing on sunday for 3 weeks with friends - all paid for by himself from his weekend job - he has been working both sat & Sunday for the last 8 months or so - originally it was just to Christmas but he managed to keep it up.
He is working tomorrow his last day and trying to pack.
The x has said he will pay £250 of his £550 accommodation deposit - he has told ds to phone his GF - x DF - to ask him to release some of the money he holds from the death of x mother - probably in some account that needs notice - and a possibility that GF will not agree - what then?
Ds is now panicking saying he doesn’t want to go - he is getting overwhelmed by the emails coming from the uni - this is typical behaviour of ds - all of which could be eradicated by x just paying the deposit
Will he fuck - he would rather have ds worrying about this for the next two days and not being able to go off on his holiday - ds was already meant to be at a leaving do tonight but has bailed out.
This is all so reminiscent of the school fees saga - x has to have a hold over them both - he was quite happy to attend school with ds yesterday no doubt to take some of the glory despite not paying the school fees for the last two years.
I’ve paid it despite my own precarious financial situation- I would rather not eat than see ds worry.
I’m documenting this still as I’m in liaison with Women’s Aid -
The sooner the kids can cut loose from this fucker the better.
By the way his maintenance will now stop - he’s £840 a month better off - but still holds the kids to a fucking ransom