Dating thread for 20 and 30 something's with no children

[Tiddlybups]

Hello

Just wondered if anyone is interested in joining a dating chat thread for slightly younger people with no children?

Nice that other people understand, glad I found this thread.

Yep...definitely been stood up. Feeling a bit crap. Deleting all dating apps and focusing on myself for a bit. If you can't be bothered to text 'sorry but i'm not interested' you're a coward!

That’s crap, all it takes is a quick text.

That's rubbish. You can join me on the subs bench. Lots of love to you.

Oh @fairycakesandtea7 I’m sorry Hun. Douchebag. All it takes is a message. Are you ok? Xx

@Itsmostlygristlecath Hun... were all kindred spirits on here. This has been such a tonic for me and it’s so helpful ❤️😘

@dazzlinghaze welcome darling ❤️ Hope you find this thread useful. We’re all friends.. say whatever is on your mind xxx

Welcome @jennifer @itsmostly and @dazzling! :)
@aimee if i'm being honest i'm feeling a little deflated. Wish he would have sent a text instead of ghosted. So frustrating! Decided to disable my apps rather than delete them completely for the time being.

Thanks for the welcome @AimeeFrank and @fairycakesandtea7 I’m not at the date stage yet but the stage of oooh you’ve been single so long why don’t you go out with that married guy at work with one tooth. Oh yeah. Cheers. Not being mean just why can’t people leave you to it. Atrrghhh. 😁

@fairycakesandtea7 ghosting is so crap. Why can’t people just say oh it’s not for me, what do they think will happen, you’ll chase them down the street? Big heads.

@fairycakesandtea7 that's rubbish. I don't understand how some people can act like that. You're much better than him and deserve respect.
I was ghosted and blocked directly after a date once.

@Itsmostlygristlecath I also hate it when people say 'X and Y met on Tinder and now they're married' well good for them!

Ugh yeah I’ve heard that too. 🙄

I haven’t gone on there yet, bit nervous.

Thanks for the welcome ❤️

@fairycakesandtea7 I have zero respect for people who stand up dates, it's so unnecessarily nasty. Even to message saying they've changed their mind then block you would be better. Hope you're not too down.

After me moaning earlier, I've lined up a date for Saturday! He's suggested this nice Indian restaurant that I really like. I usually wouldn't do dinner for a first date but the food there is so good I figured at least if it's not a great date I'll have had a nice dinner 😂

Hello everyone!

Kind of got through busy work period but wondering whether or not to get back OD or take a break? 🤔

Thing is I find it quite emotionally absorbing/draining when I’m on.

I’m sounding like an oldie here but I remember first using match.com years ago and I remember having some lovely dates that sort of took time to arrange. I had a payg brick phone! 😜

Whereas now it just seems very fast paced - I have my smartphone and I check all the time and it feels quite intense.

But I’m wondering if I just keep a low profile - Ie have a profile up but don’t check Daily it will be a bit more chilled?

@fairycakesandtea7 how annoying!

Welcome @dazzlinghaze @Itsmostlygristlecath and @Jennifer2r

(And hello anyone I’ve missed out due to post deadline tired brain)

Hi @Tiddlybups thanks for welcome. 😊 low profile not checking much sounds good. That’s what I’d do if I ever get brave enough to go on there!

Thanks @Tiddlybups! It is really overwhelming. I ended up getting tinder gold so I could just pick from people who had already liked me as it doesn't feel like such a big sea of people that way. Then I just pick a few at a time to match with so I'm not messaging too many people at once.

Just on the way from my date it was NOT good. He was so awkward and I just didn't fancy him at all. I felt I was carrying the chat the whole time. He asked to go for a drink after dinner and I just couldn't, even to be polite. I had to say "I'm just going to call it a night if you don't mind". Glad to be on my way home to get into my pyjamas but feeling really deflated at the thought of possibly having to have loads more nights like tonight.

Thats too bad @dazzlinghaze I think we all know that “deflated” feeling. I do think sometimes it’s easy to get the impression everyone else is sorted and going on “glam date after glam date” but I think everyone has to plough through the chaff on OD! Enjoy your night in

I might have a meet with my “kind of friend/date person” tomorrow (I need to be in his area for work) but I’ll see if he WhatsApp’s first. There’s actually a project I wouldn’t mind having him as a collaborator on so I might get myself a business deal if not a boyfriend

@Tiddlybups I know, it seems like everyone's meeting their Mr Right except me but I know it's probably not true. I FaceTimed my friend when I got in and am feeling much more positive. Trying to remind myself I'm one date closer to meeting the right person! I stopped in at the ice cream shop next to my house and got myself a big slice of cake so now in bed tucked up with the cat. Life doesn't seem so bad now!

That sounds great, I hope he messages you! Keep us updated!

Hey everyone. Decided to take some time off the apps. OLD is exhausting!
Shame about the date @dazzlinghaze but good on you for leaving when you weren't feeling it
That sounds exciting @Tiddlybups!!

@fairycakesandtea7

It is exhausting isn’t it? I think you end up having quite a skewed view of humanity from OD even though it can be useful.

Had a nice workplace tour with my random new friend/date person yesterday and it was really chill.

Still on the fence about starting a new OD

...profile. As I don’t want anything too intense as I have quite a lot on in the rest of my life

What I might do is have one up and say I’m going teetotal and more interested in walks and interesting chat and daytime meets so it’s less “datey” overall. Probably better for my run timings and fitness too