Dating thread for 20 and 30 something's with no children

[Tiddlybups]

Hello

Just wondered if anyone is interested in joining a dating chat thread for slightly younger people with no children?

@HarrietOh hello darling ❤️ Please do! We’re all in this together. Talk to us, whats the new man like?
I know exactly what you mean..previous experiences do play a part don’t they? Hope you’re ok?
I’m going through a divorce which has completely broken me.. so any man I meet is obviously going to be an arse.. even if they’re not. I don’t trust anyone.

I’m also going through a divorce! We were together along time but only married over a year before he decided he loved his work colleagues (and now massively regrets it and wants me back )

@HarrietOh same! Of course husband dressed it up that it was all my fault.. rather than admit he was cheating on me ( i saw messages!!!) so any man I meet now I’m already on the back foot and feel so insecure. My friend said it’s just about finding the right one x

Ooh it went well he is cute Like I said I think we’re both on the “get to know each other over shared interests” page so see how it goes. Paid for coffee and biscuit which is always a good start

I was a bit worried because he came across as very “nice guy” over message that he was a bit sexually desperate or had a funny voice or something but he’s genuinely quite physically personable.

It’s just nice meeting two dates who are vaguely eligible attractive men who have stuff in common who aren’t “weird” or exaggerating online, even if nothing comes of it!

@tiddlybups YAAAAAAAY!! I’m so pleased! Yes the nicer they come across over message the more you think they might sound like Joe pasquale or be unbearably short.
Glad it went well, was thinking Of you today x

Hello, I'd quite like to join here too!

I've been posting in the other dating thread a bit too about my most recent iron who just does not seem to like me as much as I like him, not helped by the fact that I think we get on really well and we've dtd (which was amazing if I'm honest) and he's probably the first person I had started to like in a while Gahh its a shame but what can you do

Think I might give dating a bit of a break for a bit but am interested in seeing how things develop for others and posting when I'm feeling a little less tender about things!

@Sparkles57

I think those are fantastic rules for OLD (or dating in general). Think I might pinch some for myself

I am OLD at the moment too..

I had met a couple of people through friends of friends but neither worked out. I'm very bad at persevering with OLD. I haven't had a "relationship" for nearly 3 years.

Met someone potentially nice though have only been on one date. So we shall see!

Hope others get on well! Glad your coffee was good tiddly

Welcome @pumpkin33❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ We’re all in this together babe x x

Glad today went well Tiddly

Too many people use filters on their pictures...they look nothing like it in real life.

Hello pumpkin nacreous jupiter harriet

It's a tough one isn't it , the whole "moving on" thing ? I thought I was properly in love start of this year and then things drifted apart in March (and the guy didn't have the sense to break things off formally which is always a bit annoying - why not just communicate if you think things aren't working out? )

Thing is, I didn't want to spend ages dwelling over it which is why I've made the commitment to "lightly date and meet new people " for now .I actually don't want to spend ages discussing relationship history with new men , just "enjoy having a new flirtatious friend " and see how it goes (or not)

Out of my last pof session I had five meets . One was nice and a gentleman but no chemistry , two were actively unpleasant (I don't mean the dates were unpleasant but they had clearly completely misrepresented themselves). Two ok

So that's a confidence boost overall

Good luck everyone with upcoming dates

Ok I’m officially giving up haha.
How easy is it to become a nun?!!

Feeling a bit rubbish today. Have had good connections with a couple of guys.. text messages back and forth.. one was keen to meet but the other didn’t seem that keen.. but I just don’t understand why they can then just ghost?!!! Makes me feel so shit.
Argh!!!!

Aimee - its happened to me. Its so frustrating, i'd rather just get a message saying they'd rather not chat anymore 🙄

I went on my date yesterday.

@fairycakesandtea7 how did it go hun? Well I hope.
Yes absolutely, just be honest. Say thanks but no thanks. Rather that and feel that it’s me the whole time. I’ve had that complex since my husband left

@Aimee it went well, ended up holding hands when walking back to the station 😯 I've got a few more dates lined up and I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket (does that make me sound bad?). Since splitting with my ex I'm very cautious about dating as it was a messy breakup and I was really hurt by his behaviour.
What sites are you on?

@fairycakesandtea7 not at all I think that’s very sensible actually. I’m the same as you.
Glad it went well! Love hand holding.. its just so comforting.
Messy breakup, husband’s bad behaviour.. very cautious. Tinder and bumble but they’re just awful. Was on that awful POF too. I’m very disillusioned.
I really like one of the guys I’m messaging.. we’ve been speaking for a month and met up once. But he’s really vague about meeting up again and hasn’t even suggested it. So I just think, why are you bothering talking to me mate? What’s he getting out of it?

Place marking! Also...dont send pics, not that there is shame in it but I have a friend who did to a guy she met on tinder and they ended up on a 'revenge porn' website.

Aimee OD can be brutal so I agree if you need time out chill out and take it.

In terms of meeting up, I often “close a chat” with “Nice chatting to you and good night! My number is 0133456677777 so give me a call/text if you’d like to meet for a coffee some time” That’s within the first few messages.

So they’re aware straight off I’m not just wanting long “chats” which are just basically sending lots of messages to someone I don’t know? (Who could be weird in person) Every contact from then on needs to be “setting the date”

If they’re ignoring my instruction and just bombarding me with “hi how’s your day?” messages then I just ignore tbh . However good they might look online, if they’re weird to interact with they’re not offering much value to my life

Even if they aren’t sexting, I think some guys are just timewasters who like to exchange endless messages as they are bored in the day and tbh I don’t want to spend hours “chasing them down” socially and building a false sense of connection.

fairy glad it went well
Hello spring! Yes I agree that it's important to be cautious . I mean people we meet OD are basically strangers and it's quite easy to be too relaxed and end up with stalkers . Especially with the internet.

Aimee has the guy given any practical reasons for not meeting up ?

@Springfern yeah I won’t be making that mistake again! Live and learn... but still very embarrassed 😞

@Tiddlybups brilliant advice. Love that... sets the tone and then you don’t get reams of crap messages from someone and you’re more in control that way too.
Just matched with a half decent looking bloke on bumble. Messaged him... nothing too major.. just regular opener.. I went back in to check and he’d obviously blocked me 🤣 as the message had gone and so had his picture! Just made me laugh more than anything!!! I can’t get a break hahah
With regard to practical reasons for guy not committing.. he has a son who he has a lot of the time and works so I guess that could be that..

I have tried on line dating on and off. Come off Tinder, now on Bumble. I seem to get matches but not many replies or the conversations just don't go anywhere and they turn to dirty talk (just like Tinder). I actually find men with children are the worst. Last date I went on (from POF) we ended up seeing each other for a bit but he just wanted FWB