Does this count as having sex?

[siring1]

I really love DH but an not too keen on sex. We don't have PIV but I will give him a hand job if he wears a condom. We share wonderful intimacy and I happily indulge him in a few kinks he has.

I worry that I'm not doing enough though. He doesn't complain. Do I do enough to count as 'having sex'.

No.

Why does hw have to wear a condom?

No!

Nope not sex

If you're both happy what does it matter how it's defined?

What kinks?? Maybe thats why you don't like having sex

Ask your partner if he's happy with it. We can't possibly say if it's enough

IMO, in a heterosexual relationship, no this does not count as sex.

No I don't think so

You give your husband a hand job but only if he wears a condom? That's really sad and, quite frankly, bizarre.

Also, why do you make him wear a condom for this?

Why does he have to wear a comdom? And do you like the kinks? Do they involve any sexual contact?

I'm not sure he is happy. That's the point.

YesI know I should talk to him but I worried about a can of worms.

When did this become an issue? Before or after marriage?

No, you aren’t having sex.

What kinks?
Why do you make him wear a condom?!

The kinks are a it personal. In general terms he liked me boss him around verbally.

I just don't like cum so a condom is bedt for me. I know what you're going to say about that and I know you're right.

I am struggling to see how you share wonderful intimacy under the circumstances !

OP, you don’t have to have sex at all if you don’t want to. Have you considered that you may be asexual? Asexuals can have romantic non sexual relationships.

I think it is unfair to expect a sexual person to be in a non sexual relationship though.

I am another one wondering about the condom. Please don't say it's because it's cleaner etc. If I am being totally honest it sounds to me like you find anything sexual somehow distasteful or dirty and that you feel like you are doing your husband a favour once in a while by giving him a hand job. I can't blame him for not being happy. I would imagine he feels pretty crap about himself actually.

No that’s not sex
Why the condom

You have intimate relations but not sex no.

We had full sex before marriage. I have hormone problem that doe cause issues. He's been wonderfully understanding about this - I feel I may have taken advantage

No that's not sex.

Does dp like the condom?

If you have hormonal problems you need to see a gp before this destroys your marriage. Even an understanding person can only take so much.

That really isn’t sex. And the condom bit is slightly odd