Does this count as having sex?

[siring1]

I really love DH but an not too keen on sex. We don't have PIV but I will give him a hand job if he wears a condom. We share wonderful intimacy and I happily indulge him in a few kinks he has.

I worry that I'm not doing enough though. He doesn't complain. Do I do enough to count as 'having sex'.

Sexual relations can be anything the 2 people involved find mutually satisfying.

I dont think either op or her dh find it satisfying.Thats why she posted. I wouldnt be happy with that,especially if i wasnt asked

There is a rule book as far as the law is concerned.

The OP wasn't asking for a legal definition. She wasn't asking for the thread to be derailed by discussion of what constitutes rape. She was upset, & asking for support. The majority of posters chose to attack her on the basis of what THEY judged to be an inadequate sex life. I find it very surprising that people are so blinkered that they don't realise that many, many men & women have perfectly satisfying sex lives without PIV. Some people just are not comfortable with penetration. Some women, & yes - some men. I have met people of both genders who have this discomfort & I would not dream of describing their sex lives as inadequate.

I dont think either op or her dh find it satisfying.

I haven't seen where she says that.
I have seen that she is concerned her partner might not be happy although he is not complaining & they "share wonderful intimacy" & she will "happily indulge him in a few kinks".
What she is scared of is having that conversation.

She's had very little support around that, & @siring1 - please take only the positives from this thread, talk to your DP, & be happy x