He did it again

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

NC.

Sitting here with a swollen black eye. Don't know whether to report as I don't want social services to be involved.

[Quartz2208]

Are you suppose to be no contact with him already OP?

[Wildorchidz]

What age is your child?

[Butterymuffin]

Is the child protection plan because of his past behaviour?

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

Butter Yes. My DC isn't on it now. But I can only assume so because the dad has done this before.

[PeoniesarePink]

They'll take your child away if you stay.

Not if you remove yourself and them from danger.

It's scary and you're not thinking rationally, but you really need help here. Phone the Police and set the ball rolling

[user764329056]

Is he still in the house with you? Are you safe tonight? Friends, family for support?

[WifOfBif]

Is there a CPP in place now?

When was it closed? Please, believe me when I say that it is far better to reach out and ask for help than pretend it’s not happening.

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

But what about child protection and my job

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

Wif four years ago.

[quizqueen]

If someone does that even once, you walk away from the relationship for ever and you certainly don't ever consider having children with them. Leave now and never look back.

[meangirlsonrain]

So he has done this before but yet you still went back and you also put a child in danger. Report it to the police and do the right thing. No one deserves to be hit. As a nurse you will see DV cases so why aren't you doing the best thing from your child now.

[CheesecakeAddict]

Report it or at least speak to the dv helpline. I was nervous with ss too but they helped find me a council house and a refuge. They were a godsend really.

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

We are not together. He was picking up DC to take him out.

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

But would I lose my job if I'm on the child protection plan ?

[CheesecakeAddict]

Also regarding child protection and your job...ANYONE can be a victim of DV. I am a teacher and it happened to me. It was not looked unfavourably by SS with the CP issue and work also know and have been an amazing support.

[CatInADoghouse]

Do you work for the NHS?

[notapizzaeater]

So he was picking your child up and attacked you that shouldn't be an issue to SS, did your dc see if ?

You need to report it all

[user1471449295]

Please think of your andnyour children’s safety. Please report. Please accept help from SS. Please keep your children from this violence. I will never forget seeing my mum with a black eye, aged 4. She doesn’t know I know what happened. I’ll never forget how unsafe I felt from then.

[WifOfBif]

No, you wouldn’t necessarily lose your job.

You are not with him, that’s a positive. Is he allowed contact with the children?

You haven’t done anything wrong. Read that again. You. Havent. Done. Anything. Wrong.

Please make the call, and ignore the fucking damaging post above about putting your child in danger.

[HeavenlyEyes]

he punched you when he picked up the child? And even with a plan in place he still has contact?

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

I've read that child protection comes up on the DBS.

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

Yes DC saw .

He came to my home unannounced and declared he was taking DC out. I told him that he cannot do that and asked him where he was taking DC. He said why does he need to tell me as I'm his dad: I let him go. He then came back (after 30 minutes) and said he wanted to collect DC's things. I said you know what, just leave DC home. You can do this another time. He hen got upset and then bam.

[HeavenlyEyes]

Please phone the police. Where is DC now? If contact is not permitted when he tries to collect please call the police every time.

[Sagradafamiliar]

I know someone who works in safeguarding who has a child on a CPP
Please don't worry about your job.

[Itsallchange]

OP are you safe? That’s the first and foremost thought? Will he be bringing DC back tonight? If so could a relative or friend be there to do pick up?
If you are not together I would advise to contact the police, I would hope that your employer would be sympathetic this is not your fault, even if you’ve backed down before this is still not your fault. My sister got a job with the nhs with something on her dbs because she was open and honest with them and was when she was in a bad time following DV, you already work there so I hope they would be kind and supportive.
But ultimately you do not deserve this to be happening so whatever the outcome may be you have to put a stop to this (but you know that already)
Sending you lots of love and hugs. Be brave and do what’s right for you and your dc xx