He did it again

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

NC.

Sitting here with a swollen black eye. Don't know whether to report as I don't want social services to be involved.

[Sagradafamiliar]

I'd have thought the non-molestation order team you mentioned earlier would've let you know it was totally free and what the steps are- the last thing you need to worry about is money.
The gov website is useful.

[Hidingtonothing]

You don't need a solicitor to apply for a non-mol order, they would be charging you for doing something you can easily do yourself. Bit worried about the advice you're getting in RL OP, both the solicitors and DV advisor should have told you this

[Sagradafamiliar]

When you applied for the NMO on Tuesday, you mentioned you'd had one before. Did you make notes or keep any screenshots or anything which might be useful for you this time around?

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

You can do it without notice ! Really ?

The non mol contribution is for the solicitor to do the paperwork and present my case to the family court.

I live in London so maybe things are a bit different. NDV told me that I can do it by myself for free but I will need to pay £100.00 for the courier ( or whoever) to present the non mol to my ex partner by hand,

[Frith2013]

The law is the same across England and Wales. (And London)

Yes, you can do it without notice. I did mine 14 years ago so wouldn’t like to advise in detail.

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

I still don't understand. Gov.co.uk mentions that I will still have to attend the court case. This is what the contribution is towards ? For the solicitor to represent me in my local family court.

[Sagradafamiliar]

The court case to be heard related to the NMO is just a formality and will be short, there is no need for legal representation. The court will serve the papers, you could even do it yourself (I wouldn't recommend doing this alone!)

[tribpot]

Is this the page on gov.uk?

Your hearing will be held in private (sometimes called ‘in chambers’). In most cases only you and the person you’re applying for an injunction against, and any legal representatives, can attend.

and then

You must arrange for the order to be ‘served’ on the respondent. This means making sure they get a copy of the order in person. You can:

- ask the court to serve the documents
- serve the documents yourself if this does not put you in danger

[Isatis]

Please get proper legal advice on the non-molestation order. My understanding is that you can only do it without notice if it's an urgent situation, e.g. if you were living with the attacker and in immediate danger. Even if you do get an injunction without notice, there will be a second date for the court to decide whether to continue the injunction for which your ex would have notice.

[Isatis]

I feel they believed him when he said that he was defending his DC

They wouldn't have charged him if that were the case. It's not a defence that's going to get him anywhere. From what you say there has never been a suggestion that you are any danger to your child, and the most he can say is that you were holding your child who wanted to get away - which is hardly a situation where the child is in so much danger that his mother needs to be punched in the face.

He will also be advised that if he wants to run this defence the prosecution will be able to cite his own past history - from what you have said that also will be very unhelpful to him.

[Illstartexercisingtomorrow]

OP I know this is really hard for you.

Keep going and don’t give up. Your life and dc’s life can be so much happier.

It will get better. You do have the strength to do this even when you feel you don’t.

[Itsallchange]

The OP thinks this post has been removed?? I saw a post from her yesterday where she was saying she had been blocked from Mumsnet? She had created another user name to create the post. @Ilikesleepinginthedark I wonder if you may get notification of this tag?

[Frith2013]

I’d still recommend Rights of Women as a good, clear website.