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What do you think of these messages?

171 replies

WhatTheHell111 · 21/07/2019 13:31

Name Change for this.

Saw some messages pop up on my husbands phone, thought the sounded slightly flirty and I didn’t recognise the name or number. So last night I went into his phone and found this.. what do you fellow MNetters think? To me it sounds like they already been up to no good.

Also before anyone says I shouldn’t have gone into his phone I know this, but after the messages I saw prior I needed to be sure.

OP posts:
Original poster
WhatTheHell111 · 21/07/2019 13:32

Sorry attached

What do you think of these messages?
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SparklyMagpie · 21/07/2019 13:34

Not good is it OP :/

Chickenwing · 21/07/2019 13:35

Not good. Hes having an affair. Save the number and look up who it is on whatsapp. Sorry OP Flowers

Princessfaffalot · 21/07/2019 13:35

Nope, not good x

Knickersononeshead · 21/07/2019 13:35

Definitely something going between them

Heratnumber7 · 21/07/2019 13:35

I take it these weren't sent to you, a daughter, or any similar relative?

Makmaison · 21/07/2019 13:36

It looks like someone very close/intimate to your husband. Is there any reason why you didn’t ask him who it was?

thecatsarecrazy · 21/07/2019 13:36

Well I think going to dinner with another woman when your married is a no no anyway. He's defently up to no good op. No judgement from me looking at his phone.

TheStuffedPenguin · 21/07/2019 13:37

Slightly flirty ? There is regular meeting going on here OP.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 21/07/2019 13:38

Something made you look at his phone. It also seems extremely likely that he is conducting an emotional affair with this woman. Have you never heard this females name before?. Is she a work colleague?

strawberry2017 · 21/07/2019 13:54

Inappropriate messages

Luckingfovely · 21/07/2019 13:59

It looks very, very, very much like a full blown affair. It's possibly, but very unlikely to be anything else. So sorry.

MissMalone99 · 21/07/2019 14:00

They’re very inappropriate Op

sanmiguel · 21/07/2019 14:01

If they haven't already.... he's trying to.
Sorry Op.
as the other poster suggests, save the number to check Facebook, WhatsApp etc. Is there a pic on the number? Looks like it's someone from work? Did he get a response to his request for dinner?

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 21/07/2019 14:01

It looks so bad. Sorry OP

HollowTalk · 21/07/2019 14:03

It does sound like a full blown affair to me. Do you recognise the other woman?

HollowTalk · 21/07/2019 14:04

Sorry, meant to say, does knowing the fact there's a Steve involved help you recognise the woman?

crappyday2018 · 21/07/2019 14:05

I would try not to confront him yet. He will try to excuse this away as its not 100% evidence he has done anything. Try to find more evidence. Find out who she is and keep checking his phone when you can and take screenshots.
I;m so sorry but this definitely is not good and he's either having an affair with this woman, is about to, or wants to.

Kisskiss · 21/07/2019 14:20

Sorry, but looks like an affair..

Shmithecat2 · 21/07/2019 14:22

That's divorce territory for me. Sorry OP.

BlackTulip71 · 21/07/2019 14:23

I'm feeling for you. Been there and seen it. Often your gut feelings are right and that is why you checked his phone. I had that feeling twice. 1st time I discovered a full blown affair and then a few years later lots of inappropriate chats with women.

Good luck x

Kisskiss · 21/07/2019 14:27

What/where was he supposedly, the night those messages were sent?

Jayaywhynot · 21/07/2019 14:58

Trust your instincts, looks dodgy to me, I'd be asking some questions and expecting answers and dont be put off by "you shouldn't be looking at my phone" bullshit. Fuck that, if you suspect something its game on, good luck x

OurChristmasMiracle · 21/07/2019 15:15

I’d say an affair.

Miniloso · 21/07/2019 15:18

An affair for sure. Shagging at very least. Grim, sorry OP