How much porn is okay?

[wantobeamum]

Strange title I know! But seriously, I know my husband is somehow finding the time and the space to be able to watch porn on his phone because embarrassingly we were at his parents house and I had to google something and went to type on his phone and the first thing in the search bar was porn-related so from there felt the urge to look at his history and BAM! I think it's ok for a guy to watch some porn but how much is too much and when does it become not ok?

“If you read the full thread you'll find some woman have posted saying they view porn & enjoy it”

Yes. Sadly some women don’t care about the exploitation and commodification of other women.

None.

I feel sad sometimes that some women have such a negative view of men & sex.

Yeah sex and porn aren't the same thing. I definitely don't dissaprove of (consensual) sex.

Exploitation and trafficking are seperate issues. That probably applies equally to your local nail bar and the manufacture of the knickers you have got on.

It is supposed to be one of the few areas where women are paid more than men. But l am not pretending to be an expert on such matters.

What about gay (male) porn or genuine home made porn? How does that exploit women? There is porn for the lesbian market too. And l don’t mean pseudo lesbian stuff aimed at catering for men.

No porn is OK.

Personally it doesn’t bother me that my husband watches porn as we have a good regular sex life, each to their own.

“each to their own.“

Even if “their own” includes the exploitation and commodification of women?

When either of you would prefer to watch porn than have sex with each other then that's when it's a problem.

Porn is healthy but only as an irregular thing. It's a red flag if he needs it to get hard or uses it while you're in the other house or it effects the relationship! Otherwise no problem with it

There's no objective 'amount that's ok' everyone has their own expectations in a relationship.

FWIW mine is zero. For all the reasons given above.

Another vote for zero porn.

It's damaging to both women and society in general. Just no, no, no!

For me it's not OK at all.

“Porn is healthy”

Who for?

For nobody! It's so artificial and exploitative. People who watch it lack any sense of decency or self control.

The test is whether he is ready willing and able to do what you want when you want it. If he is then don't worry about his use of porn. But if he isn't, and in your case it looks as though he isn't, then there is an issue. Twice a month is not enough sex for most people. I think you need to tackle the issue but I would suggest you start the conversation by asking why he is reluctant and suggest that you need to DTD more often. Don't directly raise the porn issue to start with, just say you would like a bit more and see how he reacts. Hopefully you will be able to encourage him to reduce the porn and increase the sex.

No porn. And people who say otherwise are in denial and selfish.

I watched porn last night and I enjoyed it. Most of you women who judge others watching are judgemental twats tbh. I had several orgasms and I'm more than happy with watching porn for it 🤷🏼‍♀️ sue me

Ever consider that the women in porn enjoy doing it? It comes down to the individual to decide what they are willing to do for cash! Is it really any more exploitative than having to be shut in an office for 8 hours a day, the alternative is being broke/homeless. Having said that I get through a fair amount as the Mrs won't keep up with my sexual appetite. It would probably be up to 3 times a day, I can't expect her to maintain that. I'm probably borderline sex addict though

Your addiction is wasting your most precious resource Simon

Time.

Yeah it is a waste of time but so is pretty much everything that doesn't turn a profit.

Porn can be so devastating for relationships and the thought of young men seeing it and thinking thats how it is/should be i find horrifying!

My DP watches it often but has EW because of it and I struggle to arouse him. I hate the thought of my son when hes older seeing porn and thinking thats how sex should be rather than it being about love.

I mean ED whats EW!? Hehe its early!

If it was replacing our sex life or effecting day to day life it's too much.

My husband watches it and I'm 100% ok with it. We joke about it as I tend to know when he will be doing it. I.e when he is in the house on his own.

Our sex life is great and he still trys it on most nights. I think having wank for man is more of a stress relief and the porn is just normal for men. I have previously watched porn but it does nothing for me so I dont.

This is really interesting, I never realised people have such strong views on porn. I think if it really bothers you OP, just try and talk it through with him. I think it's hurtful he is saying there isn't a sex life there though. If you are honest with yourself though, do you want a sex life with him? I have a few male friends who are into porn and I haven't thought anything of it really. They are pretty highly sexed individuals so if that's what they need to get off, then so be it.

No porn is Ok.
We're just finding out how damaging it is.

For those with unusually high sex drives, there is medication to lower it to normal.

Whatever happened to keeping a few magazines in the bathroom cupboard? Would much rather see that than the scourge of internet porn.