Dating thread 162: (Don't wanna be) All by myself...

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Nest Agreed! He was a complete cock-womble. Just knew that what he'd told me about himself before the swapping of details etc at least partially added up. IYSWIM.

@NestOfSwipers I agree. I'd go as far as to say most people with an online presence on LinkedIn are a total weapon. Especially the ones who think they're an influencer or have some sort of LinkedIn power.

You can tell a lot about a man by who he follows on LinkedIn...Mike Winnet and he's a legend. Oleg and he's a weapon.

@crackofdoom I’ve never ventured onto Fab, but I don’t recall any purple cocks 😁 what a mental image to have when you’re hanging out with your friends!

@shitwithsugaron hope that it resolves soon, or that you guys are able to talk about it and work out a way to deal with it if it’s going to be an ongoing issue.

Oh shitwith hope you are ok! I think everyone on this thread is so invested in you and Mr B.

auba so glad you are in a better place!

@shitwithsugaron I definitely think we are all rooting for you and MrB. It sounds quite complex with the MH issues.

You can always PM me if you want a chat without outing yourself.

@shitwithsugaron another one here rooting for you. I hope you get to have a good talk and sort it out. If you can resolve it you'll be a much stronger couple.

@shitwithsugaron I hope you manage to work things out together.

MiniMe and I have had a day in the park, I have just dropped him off at my cousins, then it’s a quick shower before MrNoName arrives.

I hope everyone has a nice evening, I have a busy weekend so I might not be on.

Yes, happy weekend everyone.

Hope you sort things out with Mr B Shitwithsugaron it must be hard being with a guy with MH problems and frustrating and upsetting to have to deal with
How's everyone else this evening, any hot dates arranged? I have a quiet, lonely Friday as usual lol

DD has prom tonight so no dates for me.

I am joining this thread!! I am very very new into dating: my first time ever if you can believe it at 36. All my previous relationships developed over time from hobbies/uni/events.

I am now an expat and don't know many people so giving it a try, but no idea what I am doing. Introverted divorced mother of 2. Hi everyone!

Hi butterflyfed, I haven't been on here very long but there are many wise, kind, wonderful people on here that have lots of experience of OLD and can give lots of good advice x

Are you having a quiet night in ilikenicecereal?

Ilikethenicecereal! Sorry x

No worries! Yes, I'm on duty for drop off and pick up!

Hello @butterflyFed !
OLD !! Well what can I say 🤔 Have your whits about you in the beginning until you get hardened to the complete idiots that you'll no doubt encounter.
Limit your swiping time it you'll be in danger of it taking over your life and becoming your full time job 😳
You'll meet some players, and possibly may fall for them but if you're lucky you'll meet some nice guys who you'll chat too but aren't interested in having a relationship with.
Anymore advice needed then I'm happy to help 😉

Quiet night in for me. AF hardly noticible but I just need some quiet time for me. Might rearrange for next Friday but might not. Looking forward to seeing Mr Travel on Sunday.

I met a woman on Bumble BFF who invited me to a speedfriending event. Like speed dating but for friendships. Now have a whatsapp group of women who all met there and we are having a day out next weekend!

My first date was sort of a horror movie when after putting the guy off, he removed his pants and jumped on top of me rubbing like a dog in rut. It was quite pathetic.

The second guy was better. We had a beer and sat in a park with an amazing skyline view talking for a few hours. And we kissed

He texted this morning "have a great day blabla" and I replied "thank you for the view, was worth the mosquito bites". Thinking of having a second date. But...

I would like to know what you all think of a man:

• He said he separated 2 years ago (but has a 1.5 years old). My XH cheated and left while I was pregnant so I don't know how to feel about this.
• Sees his children every second weekend (plus holidays, etc). They live in a very small place over 90min away. When asked, he said he wants 50/50 but couldn't live in such a small village.
• He is a chef by profession and seems literate but works as a Uber driver and lives with her mom (paying rent).

I'd pass, personally.

Not been here much so catching up ....

Mr BC is proving himself to be an absolute rock - I have a weird dysfunctional relationship (if you can call it that) with my parents. My mother is now terminally ill. So a lot of stuff being churned up for me, and Mr BC is being amazing 😍. I'm also moving in a couple of weeks so am overwhelmed and a bit stressy but he's been great. I don't know who it was who was talking about Fab, I don't know if I was just lucky but I met intelligent, educated articulate men on there. All at the top, or very near, of their professions. And of course I met Mr BC on there - who's a real catch! Oh and I used Kik for Fab to keep it separate from my dating ... swapped my FWBs over to Whatsapp though ...

All in the past now as I'm sprawled across the smitten bench, and have bought cushions and everything 😂

I really hope shit that you can talk with Mr B and sort things. You've been together nearly as long as Mr BC and me ....

Oh @shitwithsugaron hope things come good. I personally think it will, it's just a disagreement and these happen in relationships. It's just a bit nervy when it's still a new relationship 😘

Welcome @butterflyFed I only started OLD for the first time early this year and 40. My advice don't invest so quickly, trust your gut and always keep us updated so we can help you throughout.

I'm having a nice quiet night in, going to enjoy it and read my book in the garden with a few drinks

So I've been seeing me horizontal for 5 months, things were going ok, he has kids I do too so we see each other once a week although he's really busy so it seems to have gone to once a fortnight 😢.

He text last month saying he didn't want a serious relationship so we just carried on as we were. I saw him last might and he made no physical contact with me at all, until I brought it up. I went home upset and messaged him that I like him but feel he doesn't feel the same etc, he's sent a message saying that we want different things and he's really worried he can't give me what I want and he really doesn't want to hurt me and is worried he won't ever get past not wanting a serious relationship. I'm stumped, I want more but I'm thinking after five months I may as well stick with him for a bit to see if it changes as the hurt I feel at the minute will be the same regardless of when it ends. He has been nothing but honest with me throughout and the annoying thing is I know he'd be a great boyfriend 😢.

Oh Lilly if he doesn't want a relationship, you're going to get really hurt if you carry on 😕