Dating thread 162: (Don't wanna be) All by myself...

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Mr Psych has just asked if I'd like to meet up with him. Problem is he has his kids every weekend at the moment so that only leaves one child free evening a week for me.

Anyway, possible date this Tuesday. He seems really nice.

@Sunshineandflipflops that's a pain in the arse (dating wise anyway). how long does he think that'll go on for?

@Sunshineandflipflops if you’re in the SW pretty sure that I’ve dated him 😂
FYI anyone in the SW should contact me for male date recommendations/dissing as I’ve probably been there. At Christmas I recognised a situation from a poster’s description and saved her from a cheating, lying, misogynistic knob 😁

@supercali77 He says it's changing soon but I'm not going to worry about that unless I like him!

@WotcherHarry No, I'm Midlands.

Out with Mr Pizza tomorrow. It’s been just over 5 weeks now. Gah, I really like him.

@Sunshineandflipflops glad to hear it! Have a good time on your date.

Yep completely agree Supercali77 he hasn't replied to me asking if he was inviting me over or not, he's read it and still online. I'll wait for his reply because I know he reply at some point and then I'll tell him that I'm bowing out of his game playing and leave him to all his others he's stringing along as well.

I don't know where everyone on here is based but there may well be some of us that might be chatting to the same guy or have done. Is this something that anyone else has figured out through people mentioning certain things about dates?

@TwoOpenOneClosed good stuff. No point playing with shrimp when you can go out and catch a trout

Exactly, it's pretty scary though that this is a 48 yr old that's behaving like a bloody teenager in a sweet shop. I didn't realise how time consuming and frustrating it's going to be, I just wish there was somewhere all of us could go to meet genuine honest people instead of wasting time wading through shit!

@TwoOpenOneClosed honestly please tell this guy to do one. Block him and try to get over him. He's like this from ONE DATE. He's going to headfuck you.

I hope you aren't in the NE as he sounds exactly like my ex

ElektraUnchained you going to ghost him?

He's based West York's area I'm in a different area lifegoes. He has quite a big pool of women to choose from he can easily get to Manchester area or across all yorkshire. I'm just on tinder now chatting to someone but they live a bit far away and he's very tall

Yeah he's older anyway but honestly just keep swiping. I know it's hard, believe me I know it's hard.

But whatever you don't like now, that you are tolerating. Will be the reason it doesn't work weeks/months down line. Only it will hurt more then. 😘

Techie question for POF users please. I've just added photos to my profile and finished it off. Got a message from someone who doesn't have photos for professional reasons. Apparently. I've asked for a photo, and he says men can't unless they upgrade but I can email, WhatsApp or Kik or chat until I feel more comfortable. Am I right in smelling bullshit??

@NestOfSwipers don't think you can send any photos via message on POF. But what does he do as a job that stops him uploading?

@TwoOpenOneClosed Gut feeling all the way! Listen to those doubts you have, and the wiser ones on here. Rules 5 and 8. There will be others.

My gut feeling on my POF messenger is BS. I could be wrong but I haven't been proved wrong yet, despite sometimes not wanting to be and ploughing ahead to find I was right in the first place.

@lifegoes He reckons he was recognised by someone at work. He doesn't list his occupation. His final sentence of "you make my eyes feel nice" and wanting to go to email etc makes me think he's not as nice as he seems from the rest of his messaging...

@NestOfSwipers nah I'd bin him off. Sounds like a player tbh. Always follow your gut

Yeah go with your gut nestofswipers he's another to avoid methinks!
I'm also going to add 2,3,4,5 and 6 to my list that I need to keep reminding me of whilst doing this!

As much as it was lovely to spend three days with MrNoName, it has been so nice to go to work today and not have to work in the evening. I’ve done forty minutes of insanity and just over an hour of weights, now I’m going to treat myself to an early night. Twenties me would be absolutely disgusted.

My cousin is having MiniSimonJT tomorrow evening and Saturday morning for his three weekly sleepover, so MrNoName is going to come round and stay after work.

I asked him to upload a photo, tell me, I'd look and tell him to delete it again. Funny how he's not replied!! 😂 I've deleted three conversations already on that app tonight.

Ha, yes, that was me that wotcher saved! . Problem now is that I worry that you're going to have been there with EVERYONE I've dated, wotcher!

Damn and fuck this for a game of soldiers. Six months in and I have still not had a fucking shag! What do I have to do, FFS?!

I've been on FAB for a couple of weeks, even- got inundated with messages at first, had loads of filthy chat with one bloke who keeps dodging meeting up....Then I had some really promising conversations with someone who sounded really intelligent and interesting (on Fab!), keen to meet up at once, so we did on Monday. Got on like a house on fire I thought, he asked me if I was up for sex (well, it is Fab), I enthusiastically replied....and now he's gone quiet .

I was really keen on that one, I'll admit, and right now I'm feeling like the most unattractive woman in the world. Can't even get laid (sheesh). I'm sure I'm not that unattractive- I mean, in the couple of weeks I forgot I hadn't uploaded my bio to Bumble I was getting plenty of matches, and that was on the strength of my photos alone. Maybe it's my crooked teeth? I'm not smiling with open mouth in any of my photos. Or my body? But I'm not overweight (top end of normal, but still)....

@LooUpdate no I don't like to ghost people as I know it can hurt. I messaged back to thank him for meeting me and said I didn't think we were suited romantically but if he wanted someone to go to gigs with as a mate, to let me know.

LooUpdate I have extremely high standards when it comes to cake, I would personally say that he is only a definite keeper if the chocolate used to bake the cake was good quality dark, at least 60%. Otherwise it is not really cake, just a mere confection, and more training is therefore required

However, ignoring my cake snobbery, if you like the cake, then I am pretty sure that cake production does skip any number of dates straight to "a thing" if not quite boyfriend material. You do need to be sure about such important matters, I suggest asking for at least two other cake varieties to be sure.