New man courting me in weird way?

[Hannah11BobbyPins]

I met this guy recently who I really like. Sorry to sound like a dreadful wanker but truth be told I'd probably be considered out of his league (sorry, makes me cringe saying it but thought I needed context). I'm significantly younger and attractive, he's broke and not conventionally handsome, but I'm extremely drawn to his 'vagabond, primitive-macho type vibe'.

If you could bear with that obnoxious intro, thank you! We're in a situation where I'm letting him court me. We both know there's an attraction. But yesterday when we were together he kept detailing his huge list of sexual conquests to me which felt to me like a misguided courting strategy. Not sure why he thought that would work because now I'm thinking I don't want to be another 'notch' and he could have an STI :S

has this happened to anyone before? Is there a chance for a decent relationship, not just sex? For context, be spent the whole morning showing me photo albums of his childhood (hours doing it). We're quite close

OP, in the nicest possible way, have you had serious relationships in the past? You sound a little naïve, romanticising the advances of a much older, incompatible man (his hat! His masculinity! Vagabond!)

You mentioned that you are on a farm, and have been for a year or so? Are you socially isolated? Do you meet a range of people weekly? Your man is a frog in a dried up dating pool. Please find a bigger pool before you make a HUGE mistake!

He's known you since you were 13? And he'd have been a fully grown adult. Now he's crapply trying to seduce you. That alone makes me cringe and feel weird.

Agh, ignore me, I misread that you'd known each other 15 years, not months!

Like Tentomidnight, I was just wondering if, on a farm, you don’t get to meet many guys your age? Maybe it worth be worth going to visit a friend in a city and/or doing online dating, or finding some other ways to be around guys your age, which would probably make you reassess whether you want to be with a 53-year-old. You sound like a great catch - pretty, lovely person, own house, stable job - there are lots of great guys your age out there who are attractive, have stable jobs, would make wonderful husbands, and would love to meet you!

*would be worth

OMG AND he drinks too much? The more you reveal the worse gets! Listen to Husky, she speaks sense.

None of us seasoned old gimmers can make you stay away from this veritable babe-magnet but if you must go there, PLEASE be careful. Don't let him move in or "stay for a while". Don't give him the impression you'll pay for everything. Do NOT give/lend him money. Do NOT get pregnant. Always use a condom (all over him preferably).

By the way, at one point I lived in a small village where there were pretty much no young men. A friend of mine, aged 32, married a guy in his 50s. She is pretty, very intelligent, well-educated, and has a good job. He’s a mainly unemployed builder. The marriage lasted only a few months; he turned out to be abusive and she left.

I reckon he probably smells odd.

I think if I was one of your parents / friends and I had an inkling about this, I would seriously ask you if you were ok?

At 28 you're thinking career, house, car, family.

At 53 he's thinking cram as much fun as possible into life.

Do you think he will want a child. considering he'll be say 75, before the child goes to Uni.

You can have ideas in your head how you can him and make him the man of your dreams. The reality is so different, you'll end up feeling lost and confused, as your worlds are really different.

*At 28 you're thinking career, house, car, family.

At 53 he's thinking cram as much fun as possible into life.

Do you think he will want a child. considering he'll be say 75, before the child goes to Uni.

You can have ideas in your head how you can him and make him the man of your dreams. The reality is so different, you'll end up feeling lost and confused, as your worlds are really different.*

Read the thread people, op says she can't have kids, she's not looking for that.

However I hope 'll looks into all possible options before dismissing that esp at her age.

At 28 you're thinking career, house, car, family.

At 53 he's thinking cram as much fun as possible into life.

I agree with all previous posters that this man sounds like a Stetson-wearing idiot (I'm now imagining him as, roughly, the Naked Cowboy from Times Square), but can we get away from the weirdly prescriptive cookie-cutter ideas about what people are supposed to want at different life stages? I don't think 28 year olds are necessarily on some dutiful moving walkway of mortgage and job and marriage, and I certainly don't think that all 53 year olds are trying to cram in some fun before the grave yawns!

I'm now imagining him as, roughly, the Naked Cowboy from Times Square

The naked cowboy has a seriously buff body - ain't no 53yr old man looking like that.

Buff or not, the Naked Cowboy isn't all that far off 53, though, @Morality

Yes, just looked it up and he was born in 1970.

OP an age gap like that is going to be crap for you in the long term. When he’s 60 you’’ll be 35, in your prime. Take it from someone who has been in a relationship with such an age gap, it won’t be long before you really feel it, and it’ll clip your wings when you want to go places and do things and he lacks the energy.

And as for the sexual conquests thing, well you’ll be on the list when he’s bragging to the next woman, but if you’re fine with that then crack on.

He's 50? Gtfo!

Have a feeling broke Croc Dundee hasn't got that bod though.