New bf acting strange ?

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I've been seeing bf for 4 months been exclusive for about a month. He is lovely when he is around etc we see each other most weekends and maybe one day in the week , I have DC he doesn't.
Anyway when we are apart he rarely initiates contact so I also withdraw a little as i don't want to come accross as the needy clingy one , we have spoken about this before and he has said to just call him everyday when I've finished work, I've called him a few evenings , then last week he upped his contact and it was really lovely. Fast forward this week I last saw him Monday heard nothing , so yesterday I txt saying are u ok not heard from you to which he replied "I've been waiting for your call" I said yea same as , he then started going on about how we had what he thought a lovely afternoon Monday and then I've just dropped off the radar and he doesn't know what I've been up to etc and hung up on me .
I called him later that evening and said I'd been busy with work etc , he txt me a night txt later that eve but I was already asleep, so I spoke to him this morning but he was half asleep so I left him to it, then whatsapped him just now saying sorry if I've upset u it wasn't my intention , why don't u pick me up from work later we can hace a chat , he has read and ignored my messages 😣 I feel sick , I don't know what's Happenning , why is he playing like this

So you relented and called him, he is coming over to tell you how he wants you to behave and you are so pathetically grateful that he is tolerating you that you will jump to his bidding as that will be so much better than being on your own right?

Have you ever heard of the Freedom Programme?

What. Are. You. Doing. Op?

Oh dear, you deserve so much better but only you can make that happen. This guy isn't good for you and give it two weeks you'll be back to feeling like this and wishing you took all this advice and ended it.

Can I ask how old your children are? He hasn't met them yet has he? What does your mother think about all this?

Please walk away and really think about what will make you happy in general and work towards that.

There are 8! Pages on this thread. All of strangers telling you to run from him.

Would you ever cop the fuck on and just ditch him.

my god - ive seen a 5 year old have a more black and white relationship.

OP get some standards and a grip. Dump him and move on. You sounds pathetic and needy.

your welcome

I don’t think she sounds pathetic and needy. I’ve been where you are and it’s horrible, your self esteem is on the floor, all you want is someone to be there for you and instead you get a major headfuck. My ex was exactly like this, it went on for 13 months until I had a severe mental breakdown. I stupidly took him back twice more after he ghosted me, once for 9 months and then 4 months then - he did it again before I wised up. He never changed, he got worse and worse each time, until, he was calling my 9 year old names and telling me I had no boyfriend because I had a child. I know it’s hard and please feel free to pm me - I’ve been where you are. Trust me, he won’t change x

I’ve also been there. I was incredibly insecure and I thought that a toxic relationship was better than no relationship as I couldn’t bare the thought of being single again.
I’m with a lovely man now and I could strangle myself for putting up with the crap I did with my ex. I was constantly chasing his attention and he turned me into a paranoid wreck

OP what do you mean you “don’t know what’s going on?” You’ve broken up! He isn’t into you, actually he doesn’t give a shit. Move on.

Thought I'd give you all an update , he came down Friday and spent the whole weekend , he ran around a lot helping me with my mum's garden etc . He said he was genuinely upset I hadn't called , and he wasn't looking to be chased he just felt out of touch and that he prefer I call him as he never knows if I'm busy with kids etc so it's going ok again so far ...

Go back and read the thread, and see how upset you were when he was messing you about.

OP, I’m glad you are back on track and are both working on your communication 👍

He snatches victory from the jaws of defeat. Put down boundaries and expectations clearly or you'll be back here again in a month

Awaits new heading

'Is my BF a narcissist"
Or
"Is this my fault "
Or
"Help my BF is controlling"

Best of luck, OP.
But don't put up with any more crap from him.

Why does driving stop him getting or sending texts, btw? That's the whole point of texts - you send them & answer them when it suits you, instead of having to answer a call right away.