Dating thread 161: (Can anybody find me) somebody to love..?

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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@CassettesAreCool so sorry to hear about your DD. I don't know the details but please don't totally give up as you never know what is round the corner. Even if OLD is out of the question at the moment you may meet someone in real life - maybe someone who is going through a similar experience to you.

And thank you for your great support and contribution to these threads. We will miss you.

Oh cassettes sorry things are not good for you at the moment. Can you not still hang here is your not dating? You are so lovely and would be missed

peanut glad you are smitten again

shelly to me exclusive FWB would be a relationship.

Hello, I've asked FWB to let me know if he sleeps with anyone else but in my mind, we would be done if that happened. I'm just wondering whether that was the best thing to ask him or whether I should have assumed he was doing what he liked

@shelly111

He's a FWB. My definition of a FWB is you meet casually for nights/days out and sex but with no commitment. If you are now asking for exclusivity is this not a relationship?

If this is the case tell him, he may run a mile or be relieved you feel the same way!

I have been exclusive with my utterly fabulous partner for 8 months now, we met as Tinder FWB's but had a discussion one night and our growing feelings were thankfully mutual.

@JeSuisPrest 😂 we mainly play mariokart.

@CassettesAreCool I hope you’re okay.

@Shelly111 An FWB wouldn’t usually be exclusive, I don’t have sex with other people, but my FWB does and always tells me when he has. Surely exclusivity would be relationship territory.

shitwith glad the conversation went well.

Cassettes so sorry to hear that

Ant yay!!

Shelly I always assumed a FWB was sleeping with others - as I was. That said, met Mr BC on Fab (Swingers) as a possible FWB and after our first dtd night we both came off Fab and have been exclusive evwr since .... so you never know...

@SimonJT Oh 🙈😂

@CassettesAreCool Your situation sounds really tough

I'll be meeting Beach Lady on Sunday and Mr Cornish has told me he's shaved his beard off. I may fall spectacularly off the smitten bench this weekend.😟

@JeSuisPrest I’ll try and make it more exciting next time 😂, he has AMC in his hands, so anything more than a snog and a good grope is a bit tricky when you don’t have much time. I have tried to persuade him that I wouldn’t be missing out if he was getting all the fun!

jesuis whyyyyyyyyyy would he shave it off!!!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I'm fucked if I know. He says it looks better. I said, "I'll be the judge of that!" He's refusing to send me a pic - wants me to see it in person tomorrow so I cant "pre-judge". ☹ He's going to look about 15, I know it. 🙈😂 I may have to withhold favours until he regrows it.🤔

Oh god I'd fall off the smitten bench immediately if mr Unsuitable shaved off his beard. He's completely bald. He'd look like an egg. I've managed to persuade him not to shave his chest and Er shoulder/back hair thank god. Hope he's ok without it. Does he have any idea what svridk he's taken? Beach lady is just a friend. You never know you might even like her.

@CassettesAreCool I'm so sorry to hear that. Sounds like things are very tough. Keep on keeping on... and stay here and be entertained by the horrors of OLD!

My beard is the only thing that stops me looking like a giant 12 year old!

@Peanuthedz I've threatened to start swiping again if I dont like it 😂, I'm joking I think. I've already decided I don't like Beach Lady. He does have hair on his head and a lovely hairy chest so all is not lost..but the thought of having to make polite small talk with BL and the beard shaving bombshell have put me in a bad mood already this weekend.

I have a child free night on my own so I'm decorating the spare room in anger eating bourbon biscuits by the handful 🙈 I hope I wake up in a better mood tomorrow.

@SimonJT I know, right?!

@SimonJT haha yeah. You can hide a lot under a beard. Wish I had the option!

@Fromablokespoint we have a strange relationship, he liked me and I said things couldn't go anywhere but somehow we have fallen into the physical stuff, plus seeing each other regularly and dinners out. Personal circumstances mean things could never work out but I'd be concerned if he was sleeping with others as we don't use protection. He also has an awful lot of female friends who he regularly slept with. He told me he had stopped doing all that before we met but I just needed to be sure. I may revisit this when I see him in person, just so I know where we both stand.

@CassettesAreCool sorry to hear about your daughter, wish you all the best

And you're right yes I have. Not intentionally, but it's someone I'd already met IRL and (touches wood) it's going well so far.

I have an iron! Let's call him Mr Climber (his hobby, but if he's lucky...)

He has seemed v busy with exams for something he is doing but not freaking out about 'when will he text? Does he not care???' has been Amal great

Plus he's picked a cute venue for date 1 tomorrow night!

@shitwithsugaron Oh I called him a lot worse than a wazzock.😂

*always great

Morning daters. Hope everyone had good Friday evenings.

I've woken up in a bit of a bad mood. I was off work yesterday with an ailment and had to go to the doctors to get strong painkillers.

Mr Art and I were messaging all day and then in the evening he went out and just stopped messaging.

Now, I know I have no right to be pissed off as we've only been one one date but Mr SAS also used to stop messaging when he went out and we all know how that ended.
I don't expect a guy to be on his phone constantly when he goes out but the odd message would be nice.

Anyway, I've told him I had a dull evening as I was in pain and had no company so maybe he'll get the hint 😄

Off to Pride today in the rain.

Morning sunshine
Mr races did same and then sent a one word message at 1-45. Not sure I can cope with that either. Messes with my mind.
My new iron let’s call him mr army messaged a lot and seems so sweet but they always do before meet them
Then I had a messsenger message from an irl dad from school- well a couple hours worth. He’s still with wife but house is up for sale. The way he looks at me I knew there was s spark anyway he messenged a lot and wants to get together. He is still in very messy Situ though and when I asked if split def he said he didn’t know and what did I want. I repeatedly said I thought we’d get on if no wife. Think it could be playing with fire 🤦🏻‍♀️
Cassettes so sorry to hear things not good with dd

I need some advice - been chatting to someone for a couple of days, all going pretty well. He mentioned he had 2 teenage daughters, which is great - I have one too so it seemed like we were on the same page. Then he says that he never sees them and doesn’t know what they’re doing. This seems very odd to me. I have my daughter 50% of the time and can’t imagine not being involved in her life. Red flag, do you think?

@Nowthefunbegins I guess it depends on why he never sees them. Some teenagers just don't want to spend much time with their parents but if the fault is his then I'd be very wary.
Have you asked him?

Now the fun - you must ask why but if no reason then I’d be out. Some people- a friend irl- ok with it but for me no way. Better to ask early