Dating thread 161: (Can anybody find me) somebody to love..?

[Sunshineandflipflops]

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@CassettesAreCool I hope it goes really well !

and yours too @LilyRose88

I have a long wait for my next date, but not worried at all. Despite what I wrote up thread about contact - messaging remains as lovely and brilliant as ever

Ha this has made me laugh actually as the first time I went climbing with Mr Climber he had some really awful old man y fronts on. So you've given me some more ammo to add to the nope list!

I met a lovely friend for lunch today and he really cheered me up - a past date actually. He said I should have called him post yesterday 's misery for a hug. Whereas there's no indication from Mr Climber that he even cares or realises that I might be hurt!

I was supposed to have a date this evening.
Someone I met from Fab about a month ago. But he's just cancelled saying he's still at work.
He did the same thing a couple of weeks ago and knowing his work, I believe him.
I know it's only a casual thing but it's still annoying. And now I'm home alone all weekend. And none of my friends are available to go out. Binge watch of Killing Eve, I think tonight

@falaff other than my dad I have never seen a man in y fronts! How unsexy

@HairyArsedMan that made me laugh! Why would you not throw them out? Please never let Ms Lucky see them!

I've received at least 5 pairs on average per Christmas for the last 40 years or so. Some obviously do get thrown out, but some escape the guillotine @StealthNinjaMum. I'm thinking of turning those hardy survivors into family heirlooms.

Ahh myoldbrain,that's a shame. Hope he comes up with another date soon.
I tried to get my date for tomorrow to meet me for an hour tonight. I'm so impatient! I'm kid free and would have been happy to meet for a quick hi before he went to work,but he was busy. Next weekend is out so I do like to squeeze meets in when I can.
He has said he can pick me up tomorrow eve and away from the house if I don't want him to know where I live. Sweet or weird? I really am hopeless at all this.
On a happy note i am doing lots of things for me this year,without a man. Just booked a ticket for one for phantom in London in 2 weeks so being very brave. Single seems to suit me but I'm probably just saying that as deep down I'm a relationship person

Stealth I had a purge when my ex left and have all new undies now, I'm a Calvin's fan personally and baulked at the price as my ex always used to buy me new underwear, but decided to bite the bullet so no I currently have no embarassing undies.
But... if I was going on a night out like Sunshine determined not to end up in bed with someone I fancy, I'd be at Asda buying unicorn pants like Crustaceans suggested 😂

I'm more concerned because they've dtd already, unsexy underwear won't be enough. Does anyone have a chastity belt? 😂

That's sweet @shitwithsugaron don't go getting lost now!

I have met him before,but you're right. I really dont know him from Adam and it would be completely mad.
Will meet in the next village,thanks 🙂

shitwithsugaron no he just apologised that he was stuck at work....again. I just replied ok.
I'm sure he will try and rearrange but after 2 cancellations, I can't be bothered. no matter how desperate I am to DTD

kerkyra I wouldn't get in a car with someone on a first date. Be safe.

Ginmel "chastity belt" might be the right choice, I certainly wouldn't be put off by unicorns 😂
shitwith who am I kidding? Just me, I think she's great But I've already experienced how fast things can change so I don't want to count my chickens.
I think the next few days will convince us both. Apart from me taking my dad and son out for Fathers Day dinner Sunday afternoon, we're going to spend 48 hours together. That's a lot more time than we've spent together so far, and I'm thoroughly looking forward to it!

Hi seem to have 4 old irons messaging me, all after sex though one asked me out for dinner this evening (sadly I was working).

Off to view a dog tomorrow. I feel exhausted this week with the dog hunting on top of OLD (looking for a dog is almost as hard as looking for a potential husband) 🤣

Haven't caught up yet but Mr Art has just left. We had a film night and had to pause the film 3 times 😳😂

I'm not complaining but erm...he's 6ft 3 and very much in proportion so a couple of times I had to ask him to slow down a bit! Going to take a bit of getting used to but I'm up for the challenge 😂

Must go to bed soon as I have a gig ticket road trip with Mr SAS at 5.30 in the morning. 😄

Back from my date with Mr Courteous, beautiful drive there and back, lovely dinner, good conversation, lots of common ground. A hug and an exceptionally chaste kiss at the end. Uncharted territory for Cassettes, but I’d be happy to get to know him better.

He’d just asked for a second date 😊

Great news @CassettesAreCool!

Excellent news @CassettesAreCool

I errr just discovered my hair removal cream and tooth paste are in similar coloured tubes. Fortunately I realised as soon as the cream hit my toothbrush. Could have been worse!

Curiouser and curiouser said Alice...

I really wish I'd kept screen shots of all the daft conversations I've had on OLD. I could write a book. Anyway, Mr Smiley sent a message today so we ended up talking about cars. He sent me a picture of the offending article, then proceeded to tell me he had two. An everyday one and a classic. The classic had the issue which prevented the date. (Cue that scratching sound they make on TV when something needs repeating...). Yes, readers, he has ANOTHER car. 🤔 And probably a wife. I sent him a message which said, "So, which car will I be seeing at our date next week?" The silence has been stunning. 😂

@Sunshineandflipflops 3 times!! Woweeee. Was the film good? 😂😂

Cassettes and Sunshine great updates!

NestofSwipers if he had a second car then why couldn't he meet you the other evening? I think I'd be telling him where to go after that.

My cancelled date from last night decided to message me at 5.30am (I was awake). He wanted to rearrange......for this morning!
I know it was a Fab date for a bit of fun but .......
I told him to get lost.

Hello everyone
I follow this thread religiously but have never really had much to contribute....until today.
So this weekend I have TWO dates. Whoop.
My dilemma is that they both seem amazing. One is very charming (hopefully not too) and I can see potential & the other is less so but equally as engaging. When I first joined Match, my style was 1-2-1 but experience taught me that I need to have a few irons. I didn't bank on liking them both as much as I do. I know it's silly really as I haven't met either yet IRL and adhering to the rules (it's all bullshit till it happens) either could pull out. Anyway back to the dilemma, it feels a bit like cheating (I know it's not) but they both appear to really like me and I'm struggling with building a connection with both. Is it reasonable to go on both dates or should I cancel one ? Agghh. I'm new to this!